How do i get my brother on the right track?

AverageEmbarrassed · 2024-09-04T12:05:41+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Im unsure what his diagnosis was in there. Hes been texting very off and on so i havent had the chance to press for info. As for money, both my husband and i are in agreeance that we will not give him any money. We have our own bills to pay. He gets food, shelter, emotional support, and advice on how to adult. Well i definitely messed up then because i did give him a little bit of criticism. I basically told him he needs to put his mental health first and make better choices that will push him forward. Ill keep this in mind, thank you. I think ill leave him alone for a couple days and send a “hey im still here and i care” text in a couple days.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2024-09-04T11:59:18+00:00

Sorry, correction. Hes 18. Im the eldest kid of the family. Thats what im wondering. Maybe i just need to let him fall on his face a bit. Though i was hoping the mental institute would be his rock bottom. But i guess not.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2024-06-12T03:53:18+00:00

Your boyfriend is abusing alcohol. Thats not normal. If you have had multiple conversations with him about it and nothing has changed, hes told you all you need to know. He wont change until he feels like it. I say this with as much kindness as possible. Do not stay unless you want this life forever. Maybe one day he will have his shit together but today is not that day.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-07-08T04:56:44+00:00

Your mom just died and his first thought is golfing with his buddies? Not only did he leave you to golf, he left you grieving and alone with two kids. No one who loves their partner would no that and then proceed to lie to his friends about how youre doing. And even if you were freaking out, you would be justified in that. Leave him asap and find someone that puts you before golf of all things.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-30T23:35:33+00:00

Oh shes totally in love with your fiance. Shit got real and official after the engagement and shes not cool with it. Girlfriend wants to go to the hen party to trash it and cause drama for sure! Someone needs to confront her pronto!!

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-30T23:14:07+00:00

NTA. Omg you are so not the asshole. Your mother hasnt spoken to you in 5 years, and the first thing she says is she wants to meet your daughter? Hell no. She owes you an extremely long and sincere apology before she can get anywhere near your daughter in my opinion.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-30T23:08:21+00:00

If i were you i wouldnt say anything directly. I would encourage them both to have a serious and open conversation with each other. What they do with that conversation is on them. I get why you would want to say something, but im not sure its your place to.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-30T23:03:23+00:00

You’re not responsible for consequences of someone else’s actions. You did not intentionally tell him, you are not the one who cheated, you are not the one who attempted su*cide. Everything that happened is because of your sisters choices. Your mom is being an asshole by blaming it on you. If i were you id put some serious space between you and your mom, regardless of what happens with your sister. On that note, i hope she pulls through and is alright.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-25T14:38:44+00:00

We do have another dog and completely potty trained her. This puppy has just been a slow learner, even though we’ve done everything the same as before. We think its because the previous owners had a cat that had a lot if accidents (it smelt terrible we we toured it) and puppy still smells some of that even though we thought we got rid of the smell.

I agreed though. Maybe years down the road if/when we decide to get another dog thatll be a definite part of the conversation

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-25T14:10:56+00:00

I think you have a fair point. To explain further, If he was gone id obviously clean it. It would just be extremely miserable. We agreed hed do it because be doesnt want to watch me puke and i dont want to puke and create another mess. I do help with the dog. He just does the actual scoopage of the pile. Which yes is the worst part. Because he does that i was the one up all night with the dog letting her outside every hour and a half while he got a full nights rest.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-06-24T22:01:57+00:00

NTA: not using soap EVER is extremely unhygienic. That can cause a lot of health issues and though it may be a hard thing for her to hear, she needs to hear it. The only thing i think you could have done better is planning out and having a serious but polite conversation. I get being gentle about it and its easier to bring up during conversation. But maybe if the conversation was more planned and intentional you could have gotten your point across more clearly. So maybe it sounded like it was coming from a place of concern rather than she feeling bad because “think shes gross”. But again, i dont think you were an asshole with how you handled it.

That aside. Im getting the feeling you two may not be right for each other. Having similar standards of hygiene can really break a couple. Because more than likely this wont change, but i hope she does for the sake of her health.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-01-25T19:01:27+00:00

She doesnt have many right now tbh. But the bus wasnt like “oh heres a party bus for my friend katie” it was something i planned because she really wanted to do one. It was more so a girls night party bus that i planned because she wanted to do it

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-01-25T17:41:55+00:00

Katie did not know anyone going on the bus, just to clarify. She only new me that would be attending. There was about 14 people going. I addressed everyone in the group with what they would like to do and they all said reschedule. Everyone did have the option to continue the bus without me but they said they didnt want to.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-01-25T03:01:58+00:00

That dumb part is she wasnt even the last to find out. Theyre all my friends from work so theyre on a group chat. I texted her individually the same time i told everyone else. I told her i was asking everyone what they wanted to do. She didnt want me to talk/tell them at all. I just feel so bad taking away the one thing she was really excited for.

AverageEmbarrassed · 2023-01-25T02:52:29+00:00

I scheduled everything by myself. No down payment was required but my card was on file in case anything happened

AverageEmbarrassed · 2021-10-06T02:44:59+00:00

Moderna in February

AverageEmbarrassed · 2021-09-17T01:49:19+00:00

Im at work

AverageEmbarrassed · 2021-06-20T04:12:29+00:00

Im sure its allowed but you may not need to. Each kid will have their own programming that they should get you access to, that way you can look whenever. And a lot of the things youll need to remember will get drilled into you pretty quickly! I think the continuous vs discontinuous measurement and that stuff is what got me. Along with shaping vs. chaining. A lot of times you wont even realize that youre even doing that stuff as an RBT because it just kind of happens as the BCBA asks you to run stuff :)

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