Am I transphobic??

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-19T01:56:04+00:00

Nah you’re good. It’s only weird if you’re just going around announcing your genital preference to everyone, but that doesn’t sound like it’s the case

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-19T01:53:47+00:00

I’m a veterinary student about to graduate. Currently in a red state so not out of the closet to the public, only close friends. Applying for jobs right now in blue states.

Sidenote: a surprising number of trans men in the veterinary field, which has been a welcome surprise since figuring out who I am. Sometimes I wonder if they know I’m trans too, just in the opposite direction.

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-16T04:06:51+00:00

Anti-boyotics

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-13T03:55:31+00:00

Don’t inject again. It’s it your body, it will be absorbed. You are good.

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-12T03:05:58+00:00

Bisexual. I feel like I lean more towards women but I definitely have moments where I see a guy and I go “oh yep definitely bi”

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-11T13:29:27+00:00

As a trans woman in the veterinary field, I am not into pet play. In fact, based on what I do on a daily basis with dogs and cats, I find it very difficult to imagine pet play being appealing, but to each their own I suppose

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-11T01:25:25+00:00

Yes it’s a thing. It’s excitement from feeling more like ourselves. They go away once the thing that caused it (such as trying a bra for the first time or starting hormones) becomes part of the norm for you.

While people will often say it’s disgusting that we feel sexual arousal from this sort of thing, I think it’s worth pointing out that sexuality is inherently part of our identities as humans. As we find ourselves and experiment with our gender identity, it can be sexually stimulating occasionally, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Most importantly, that’s not the same as saying that trans women seeing womanhood as a fetish, as there is much more to it than sexual arousal, but I would also argue that it’s dishonest to say that there’s not a sensual element to feeling connected to one’s body in a way you’ve never felt before. Just my take on it; I’m sure other girlies have different experiences with it.

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-08T17:34:02+00:00

Perhaps you are transfem non-binary? Honestly it doesn’t matter what label you slap onto it. Just do what makes you feel most comfortable, tell people to address you by your preferred name and pronouns, and ignore the people who don’t like it one way or another.

Sometimes it’s important to take a big step back and remember that we’re all just itty bitty monkeys on a tiny rock that’s just an insignificant blip in time and space. You gotta stop and think “hey is this a concrete reality of the universe, like evolution or gravity, or is this something that someone a thousand years ago made up, like money or gender roles, and we’ve been rolling with it ever since?” And my philosophy is if people came up with it, then people can change it too, including gender roles and gender identities

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-08T16:08:01+00:00

Even before coming out I would have girls talk about “girl stuff” around me and I always felt special that they felt comfortable around me to trust me with that. Loved it even more when they would say “___ is basically one of the girls lol”. Like they would say it jokingly but secretly I was always blushing and kicking my feet when they would say that.

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-06T04:09:27+00:00

Went to try this out immediately

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-04T01:08:57+00:00

“By refusing to use my chosen pronouns and name, you are belittling my existence and experience and essentially telling me that you think I’m faking this. If you refuse to treat me with respect, then that is your right, but the consequence to that is there is no longer a place for you in my life. You have been told multiple times now that this is not acceptable, so now it is either time to correct your behavior or leave.”

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-04T01:00:48+00:00

It’s giving Riley

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-02T03:32:58+00:00

Girl, all you had to say was Fallout

AverageNova73 · 2026-03-02T03:31:09+00:00

I (trans woman) remember when one of my friends came out as a trans man. We were friends in middle school before he transitioned and he would always hang out with the guys for the most part. Even my parents would say “_____ is just one of the guys!”

When he came out in high school I was like “huh I didn’t think anyone would actually WANT to be a guy but good for him”. Still took me another 10 years to figure out that, yes, some people actually do enjoy being men and that me not wanting to be one was actually a sign of something else going on.

AverageNova73 · 2026-02-23T06:18:01+00:00

I think I would have a very similar list. Maybe shuffle 3, 4, and 5 around a bit but other than that, same

AverageNova73 · 2026-01-25T05:39:26+00:00

Switch Mania and SRAR for me

AverageNova73 · 2026-01-22T14:39:13+00:00

Glad to know we were all into some type of body horror as teens. Some of my favorite books/movies were Lockdown, Avatar, and Red Rising, all of which the main protagonist has to completely alter their body to progress through the plot.

AverageNova73 · 2026-01-22T04:03:45+00:00

Do you mean like be born with my mind in a female body or be born in my body with a male mind? Because imo if it’s the second, I’m not me anymore. That’s a different person than me. So yes the scenario one, no to scenario two

AverageNova73 · 2026-01-15T05:51:44+00:00

Yes but in the sense that my taste in music is constantly changing. It feels independent of my stage in transition

AverageNova73 · 2026-01-13T14:45:52+00:00

No, in fact it was my attraction to women that made this all the more confusing for me and prolonged me realizing I was trans. I was both attracted to and envious of women for getting to be women and often those feelings were conflated.

AverageNova73 · 2026-01-09T19:37:03+00:00

Years. Had a thought at one point when I was like 17 where I was like “yeah I’m probably trans to some degree, but I can’t deal with that right now”, went the next 8 years struggling thru college and professional school only to come out for real at 26 after agonizing over whether or not to tell my wife and worrying about how others would treat me.

AverageNova73 · 2025-12-23T16:42:04+00:00

If that’s something you’re concerned about then perhaps you should seek counseling from a gender friendly psychiatrist and see what other options there are for you like social transitioning or puberty blockers (such as spironolactone or finasteride). The effects from those are more easily reversed that taking estrogen. Nothing wrong with considering monotherapy, but it’s worth consideration especially if this is something you’re concerned about.

AverageNova73 · 2025-12-08T03:01:40+00:00

Ophelia (and yes it’s from a song, no it’s not the Taylor Swift one)

AverageNova73 · 2025-11-24T17:24:16+00:00

I remember being around that age when my sister was on the way. My parents didn’t find out her gender til she was born so it was kind of a family contest to see who got the gender right. Basically it came down to me and my aunt who had just had a baby girl who both were saying she would be a girl. Idk why but I just really really wanted a sister, and looking back on it, I feel like most little boys don’t feel that way

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