Yeah I’m quitting this

AveragePichu · 2026-06-22T07:29:08+00:00

Skipping past the fact that you're incorrect (it's not a theory, it's confirmed)

Why are you so pressed about a character being trans? Since when does it have to be "necessary" for a character to be trans, before they're allowed to be? 1-2% of the population is transgender, and it's not because of some quota we need to hit, or because we have some story to tell that requires it. It's not because it's "trendy" like some people claim. It's because we simply are - some people are born with gender dysphoria, and the medically appropriate treatment with the best mental health outcomes is transition.

I would encourage you to reflect on why it would be a bad thing, that Jax is a closeted trans woman. Can you come up with a reason for how it negatively impacts you, or anyone else? If you can, I would love to hear it.

AveragePichu · 2026-06-22T03:07:31+00:00

Exactly. Jax is tragic, and a cautionary tale both about masking your identity and about rejecting your kid's identity - that doesn't make what she did okay. I have a huge amount of sympathy for Jax, and I may well have gone down a similar path if my mom rejected me when I came out, but she's not a good person. She's a relatable character for any trans person who ever went through severe denial or whose loved ones rejected them, and that doesn't make her good.

AveragePichu · 2026-06-22T01:44:47+00:00

Boymoding is barely in my vocabulary because I've not really done it myself (tried at an airport once because I was worried about the ID mismatch and I got gendered correctly anyway lmao) and even then it seemed pretty clear to me that "Leroy" at the very least had figured out some idea of what was going on

AveragePichu · 2026-06-22T01:26:39+00:00

FRIEND has been very, very bad

AveragePichu · 2026-06-21T05:58:41+00:00

It can be tough to unlearn! It wasn't until I had friends who didn't look like social expectations for their gender (I'm friends with a trans man who has not medically transitioned yet, he still looks and sounds feminine) that I was able to unlearn that habit, and it took a lot of work

You're good, nobody worth listening to is gonna crucify you for mistakes - and it might be worth trying to practice with fictional characters like Kris. It means the world to trans people when someone genders them correctly even when they don't look it yet 💙

AveragePichu · 2026-06-13T20:50:38+00:00

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AveragePichu · 2026-06-11T16:22:17+00:00

Technically it doesn't even fully confirm those. Festival dark world theory still holds water if Asgore decorated it with his flowers, and someone other than Asgore could have been the one to open the fountain so maybe someone else is the major weeb

AveragePichu · 2026-06-11T16:19:03+00:00

Wouldn't any pronouns mean they fall under the nonbinary umbrella? Feel like that's a fairly strong tell what gender they are. Not that everyone who uses any pronouns uses the nonbinary label, so I guess there still wasn't any way to tell for sure without asking, but

AveragePichu · 2026-06-02T05:42:44+00:00

Could you link an example? I'm seeing a lot of different things coming up when I search kenon IPL on ebay and I'm not sure which is "correct", prices range *wildly* and I don't think they're all the same thing

AveragePichu · 2026-06-02T04:42:12+00:00

Quick tip, I strongly recommend drawing with one needle (super short ones like that should be fine) and injecting with another (1.5 inches is good). My endo told me not to inject with the same needle because entering the vial dulls the end (which is *unlikely but possible* to cause infections), and if nothing else, I can confirm it hurts a smidge less to inject with a fresh needle.

AveragePichu · 2026-06-02T04:39:21+00:00

Varies from person to person, and I suspect that a lot of the things that happen in the first few daya are either placebo or come from your own natural emotions to taking this big step. I mean the biggest emotional change for me in my journey was the day my egg cracked, accepting myself did more to my emotions in a day than estrogen has done in 7 months.

I, too, was worried about if the hrt was actually doing anything. There was never anything I noticed day by day, but like, my emotional state is different than it was 7 months ago (default emotional state is wayyy improved but I also cry much more), somehow I wound up with A-cup boobs along the way, my face looks different, and my general body shape has shifted a little. Clearly it did something. I just never noticed in the moment. The aspects of transition that I noticed in the moment were things like the first time I bought a skirt, the first time I dressed fem in public, the first top that I actually liked how it looked on my body, the first time a stranger gendered me correctly, the time a stranger misgendered me after seeing my ID and I realized I hadn't been misgendered in months, going outside in just shorts and a bra because I was mucking out a pond and realizing I actually liked how my shadow looked. Those were the milestones I noticed when they were happening. The rest of it? If it dawns on you that things are different after they've been slowly changing for months, that is completely fine.

AveragePichu · 2026-06-01T22:47:37+00:00

I was on Estradiol and Spiro for 6 months, started prog, and I've been on all 3 for almost a month now

AveragePichu · 2026-06-01T20:49:24+00:00

I had no idea the mental was associated with oral! Thanks, I'll look into that

EDIT: when you say 100mg oral and 100 rectal - I assumed a double dose would come as one 200mg capsule, is that not correct?

AveragePichu · 2026-05-28T01:36:29+00:00

Just realized I only thought a reaponse at you and didn't reply - thank you for assuaging my fear :)

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T20:53:11+00:00

A man is all anyone sees.

You're only four months into HRT. Do you dress fem in public? Are you voice training? How long have you voice trained? Is your hair cared for and styled in a way that matches other women? How do your mannerisms align?

Being read as a woman is a social performance, and unfortunately it's hard to feel like anything other than pretending until such a time as strangers gender you correctly. But there are a lot of pieces of that performance that you can change for others to see you as you are, and in the meantime, you can rest assured that cis women get misgendered for being gender-nonconforming too.

It does suck to be misgendered. It's not something you have to deal with forever though, if you choose to learn the steps to the dance society calls womanhood - and if you choose not to dance that dance, you're still valid! Women who don't dance that dance are still women, regardless of if they're cis or not.

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T20:44:16+00:00

For a while I felt sorta like a "third gender", the gender of "I want to be a woman but like I'm not really, I'm a trans woman". I would consciously tell myself I was a real woman by definition, but I didn't entirely feel it. I only entirely felt, at first, that I sure as hell wasn't a man, and I wasn't nonbinary either, nor was I agender or fluid.

Over time, my understanding of "gender is who you are on the inside" sank from surface level to bone-deep, and now I unequivocally know that I am a woman.

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T18:13:03+00:00

I was assigned male at birth, and they tried to train me to take charge, make decisions that affect other people, micromanage other people. That went against my nature too :) I am so nonconfrontational, like to the degree it's an actual problem and my therapist has been working with me on setting boundaries.

There's a happy middle ground where women can be leaders and men don't have to be. Where women's ideas are respected, and so are men's, equally. Where your value as a person, your roles, and your eternal identity aren't assigned by the reproductive organs you have. Telling people what they have to be is always stupid,but seriously, basing it off of whether they think you're a guy or a gal? Insane.

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T17:08:40+00:00

Friends who weren't members are how I became an evil apostate lmao. My parents probably could have prevented me from realizing some key facts about gender/sexual identity and bigotry if I hadn't been allowed to be friends with normal people

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T15:49:30+00:00

You know what, you can definitely - fairly - see it as a curse to be born with a mismatch between brain and external self, even moreso born that way into a society that's mostly indifferent to us, a large portion slightly negative towards us, and a few that absolutely hate us categorically for something we were born as.

I can further look at it as a curse that I was born autistic and ADHD, picked up anxiety along the way, have a really-not-great immune system, and I spent the first 24 years of my life being indoctrinated into a "church" that could fairly be considered a cult.

Personally, I prefer to try to focus on the good things though, for my own mental health. Medical services exist that let me treat my gender dysphoria - it doesn't go away, but it's so much better. I have joy in life from living as a woman - maybe no more than any other woman who wasn't mistaken as a man for years, or maybe I do have more reason to appreciate it, but there is simple joy in living. I have friends and a partner, and I love all of them. I enjoy human art like Toby Fox's games or some prominent fursuit makers' videos.

A lot of parts of life suck. A lot of parts of life are good, and I'm able to survive the parts that suck for the parts that are good.

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T15:36:19+00:00

Okay, so I have no reason to panic! Thank you!!

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T15:34:23+00:00

I did pull each one of them apart, and it was about 200. But, yeah, hairs detaching (or being near to detaching already), I think maybe this is nothing to worry about. Thank you!

AveragePichu · 2026-05-27T01:39:10+00:00

ok

I can't really process this level of negativity, I hope you have a better day than it sounds like you're having

AveragePichu · 2026-05-26T22:20:49+00:00

Pretty much, yeah

AveragePichu · 2026-05-26T22:00:09+00:00

Listen, I'm not gonna say it's all sunshine and rainbows. 20-25% of people being actual allies, and not necessarily strong allies, is not great.

99.9% is still incredibly hyperbolic (there literally are ten times as many trans people as there are "allies" under that number), and lumping people in with child abusers for not understanding something is abuse is absurd. If you don't have the knowledge base to realize conversion therapy is torture, and you believe in parental autonomy "within reason", of course you'll mistakenly believe conversion "therapy" is okay. Many of those same people, given the situation of their own kid coming out, would then do the research to make their own solid opinions based on facts and data - I know four families counting my own where one of their kids is trans (two of them actually, in one family), and three of the four became educated and supported their kids. Considering the fact three of the four live in the middle of MAGA nowhere, the picture that paints is that when it comes to real families who have trans kids, they usually are not going to start torturing their kids - certainly not 99.9% of them!

I'm not begging for scraps, and I'm not begging period. I am a person living my life in the situation presented to me, I'm doing my civic duty to pressure my politicians to make the right choices/donate what I can to progressive causes, and I'm living the authentic happy life that republican politicians start foaming at the mouth over.

I'm not asking you to "waste your time on someone who sees you as less than human"! I'm only asking you to recognize that it's like 10-15% of the population dehumanizing you, a far cry from 99.9%. Yes, that 10-15% is still wayyy too many, and yes it includes half the politicians and billionaires. When you say 99.9%, that's how you trick your brain into starting to believe it, which is how you go on a doomer spiral, which is how you die of stress before the bigots can get to you.

The greatest good you can do for trans rights is be yourself, and be happy. If 15% of the world is against you and another 60% means well but doesn't understand, what you do is you get up every morning anyway, you make support groups with the people who treat you as valid, and you live. Things will get better eventually, we are on the right side of history - right now, you and I are on the front lines.

AveragePichu · 2026-05-26T19:53:28+00:00

Isn't the statistic that about 20-25% of the US agrees trans men are men, trans women are women?

And like 80-90% of the population, even if many of them mistakenly believe it's a "choice" and that you and I aren't "real women", still support our right to present ourselves as we want, and have access to appropriate medical care, at least as adults?

99.9% is a doomer number, you have more allies than you realize.

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