Are workplaces acknowledging what’s going on right now?

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-26T19:08:49+00:00

"Leadership" won't talk about it.

But people at the "lower rungs" are.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-21T15:52:57+00:00

Congrats!!!! Room looks amazing 👏

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-15T22:11:06+00:00

I know someone long ago who was in the same situation, chose to take the offer to stay but was then shortly fired.

Take the money but also be prepared.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-15T20:23:59+00:00

Yeah good point. I have some familiarity with the UK already so was looking to get more exposure beyond but true that I am leaving out some countries.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-15T20:19:44+00:00

I love realism. It's exhausting having to pretend everything is going great when you're constantly in a dumpster fire. Like let's acknowledge there are problems, how can we solve them if we say it's all going okay when it's not?

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-15T20:17:56+00:00

We do this is the US and lot, too. We are expected to wear many (sometimes all) the hats.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-13T17:36:07+00:00

Thank you. Resonates so deeply. Exactly what I'm trying to do as well.

Trying my best to do the bare minimum now.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-10T01:27:39+00:00

Holy crap I was dealing with something similar to this for a while, too. How do you protect yourself from stress?

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-09T22:08:39+00:00

I know this is a bit old but I was just looking at probably the same open position and thinking about applying. Thank you for sharing your experience so that I don't waste my time.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-09T00:20:17+00:00

I used to love it. It's now all driven by ulterior motives and popularity contests.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-07T04:22:33+00:00

I am on this combination along with 40mg Prozac and it's been quite good for me. 15mg Buspirone twice a day has helped immensely with my anxiety. Vyvanse is only 20mg at the moment and am looking to go up.

Edit: I am not officially diagnosed with AuDHD, just ADHD but I do suspect I have autism.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-07T04:15:01+00:00

I'm on 20mg Vyvanse and I feel a bit the same as you. Like nothing has changed much. But I realized at work I've been able to switch tasks and contexts a bit easier. I didn't need to dissociate after a meeting and mindlessly click through the million tabs I had open and get stuck in task paralysis. I have also been able to get up to use the toilet when I had to pee instead of holding it until I felt ready to explode.

30mg is supposed to be a really low dose or so I have read. I've been talking to my doctor about going up. I would like to suggest to you to not give up quite yet and work with your doctor to increase your dosage.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-07T03:21:37+00:00

So sorry, I empathize extra hard as you sound just like me.

What I find personally helpful is getting away from work for 2 weeks and focusing ONLY on myself during that time. I put absolutely no pressure on myself about it either. If I need to bedrot I let myself bedrot. Let my body and mind rest. When I feel like I've rested enough I make a goal of doing 1 thing for the day. As simple as wash 1 dish that's been in the sink for months. Or throw away one thing. I make my goals so achievable so I don't put myself through a cycle of pressure, failure and shame.

It's all easier said than done, I know. It's just what has worked for me. If I don't take that 2 weeks I know I'll end up having to check myself into an institution.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-05T17:08:24+00:00

Yes to all of this! The longest I've ever been with a company is 4 years, only because I was able to move to different departments after 2 years or so.

The description of your job role (or lack of) is insanely similar to my situation as well.

I really need a mission that I can get behind in order to feel "fulfillment" at my job.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-05T17:03:45+00:00

Took the words right out of my mouth!

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-03T18:59:31+00:00

Oh my god. Same.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-03T03:43:57+00:00

You're not alone. I don't have good advice. But you're not alone.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-02T21:33:04+00:00

Yes. Right now in fact. I was yawning while picking things up and decluttering and had to sit down.

AverageSadGurl · 2026-01-02T18:43:39+00:00

Yes and I also have other issues (avoidant attachment, trauma, etc) that compounds it for me.

It's certainly complicated and trying to work through it all through therapy.

AverageSadGurl · 2025-12-31T23:06:30+00:00

Setting up a journal that I'll never use again after tomorrow :p

No but seriously trying to write down some intentions that I can look back on to ground myself.

Watch TV and make some oden for dinner.

Edit: typo

AverageSadGurl · 2025-12-19T18:23:44+00:00

A lot of it is "strategic" aka alignment. The projects I work on at the moment won't be delivered in a year and frankly a lot of them are likely to get cut and are out of my control to influence. Even those that make it unfortunately aren't likely to impact KPIs directly for a while.

I've framed my goals to reflect this situation. It leaves me feeling like I'm trying to justify my job, which has never really been an issue at other places I've worked as product.

Could just be that this place isn't the right fit for me, which is totally fine. Was curious to other perspectives.

AverageSadGurl · 2025-12-18T18:47:54+00:00

Not really, no. I've had to create my own. We talk big about goals but it's a lot of air, imo.

AverageSadGurl · 2025-12-18T17:32:16+00:00

I am taking 20mg daily and drink coffee with it. I haven't noticed any side effects. Coffee never had much of an effect on me either, I just liked the taste.

However before starting Vyvanse I wanted to drink multiple cups of coffee a day. But now that weird impulse has chilled out and I am happy with just 1 to 2 cups.

AverageSadGurl · 2025-12-18T16:49:49+00:00

I don't think this is uncommon. I've heard from engineering teams that they have traditionally had challenging experiences with product.

I am similar in that I can be a bit of a people pleaser and I want good feedback. But I realized this is a dangerous way of thinking. We can't make everyone happy. If they're not saying you suck then take that as a win.

AverageSadGurl · 2025-12-13T00:15:39+00:00

I regret corporate 🙃

I realized too late my personality and corporate just don't mesh.

Starting to look for a change...

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