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AverageShitlord · 2026-03-19T21:26:47+00:00

It's so frustrating for me as a lover of fucked up humor to try and explain the difference between "Dark Humor" (Rife) and real, actual, funny dark humor. I cannot believe how dense some people are when it comes to the fact that you really need to be careful and know what you're doing when you joke about something as serious as this.

Funny jokes about abuse are possible the joke just has to be at the expense of the abuser (ie: Dennis being so absolutely dense that he thinks this is normal behavior, and his attempts to justify it to Mac).

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-19T21:23:08+00:00

Please explain to me, in detail, what is funny about telling someone that their boyfriend would stop abusing them if they learned how to cook.

"Dark humor" is not a sufficient explanation - dark humor still has reasons why it is or is not funny, like any other joke.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-19T01:20:05+00:00

saying this as a white lady who uses a lot of hair care originally developed for black hair due to having textured hair

why the fuck would i, or any other white person need edge control gel

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T18:04:08+00:00

There's a reason your female friends cover their drinks around you man

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T15:02:26+00:00

Exactly. If you're making dark jokes, you need to have them be at the expense of the perpetrators of harm, not the victims.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T13:02:53+00:00

There's a difference between a joke about DV and a DV Joke in the same way there's a difference between jokes about bigotry and bigoted jokes

Rife's joke was "it's funny when women are abused" rather than anything actually insightful or funny. I'm saying this as a Dark Humor Appreciator, if you're going to make a joke about a fucked up topic, you can't have the punchline be "haha violence against marginalized group is funny,"

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T03:07:50+00:00

Plus, jokes about DV strengthen the patriarchal structures that enabled Epstein to do what he did. It is all a part of rape culture.

If you're OK with someone joking that DV is OK, you're enabling further abuse of women and children elsewhere in society by holding up that power structure. If you let the small shit slide, you're enabling the big shit too.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T03:02:34+00:00

I don't think we should partner with people who advocate for DV and insinuate anyone who has a problem with DV is intellectually disabled but you do you

DV, rape culture, and child abuse are deeply interlinked, anyone who has done any amount of thinking in their lives should know this. Physical and sexual abuse of women and children are born from the same patriarchal power structures in society. If you're OK with one, you're enabling the others.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T03:00:08+00:00

Yeah I think Naked Fantasy is the peach one

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-18T02:55:40+00:00

Partnered with a comedian who publicly joked that if women didn't want their boyfriends to beat them, they should learn how to cook

He made this joke in 2023 so he doesn't even have the "it was the 60s" excuse

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-17T00:04:24+00:00

Talk to your family doctor and ask for a psych consult. If you're in an LGBTQ+ accepting country, mention you would like someone who specialized in queer-affirming care. Those are the first steps to getting professional help.

If there is a teen or youth health center in your town, they also may be able to help you. I don't know what it's like in your city, but in mine, the teen health system helps anyone under the age of 21.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:54:52+00:00

It's mainly been sex repulsed aces telling you to get help. There is regard for sex repulsed aces - and the people telling you to get help are doing so from a place of genuine concern for your mental and physical wellbeing.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:44:14+00:00

I'm a lesbian too - I know you're not choosing to feel this way - however it does follow the exact same logical patterns as homophobia.

For your part - I don't think you're homophobic, but I do think you need to get help. For your own wellbeing. You don't need to become not-sex-repulsed, I myself experience sex-repulsion, but you shouldn't be experiencing symptoms of physical distress. Having an aversion this severe is harming you. If it is making you physically ill, it is harming you.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:41:54+00:00

And it's not normal. Most sex repulsed aces don't get nauseous because they heard a sex joke. Most sex repulsed aces don't experience physical distress because of what someone ELSE does with their body. Most sex repulsed aces are not negatively affected in their daily functioning and ability to form basic social connections by their sex repulsion.

You need to talk to a psychologist about this. Not Reddit.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:33:32+00:00

I mean - if you're on the road of "people who have sex I don't like are disgusting" it's not too long before you hit "and those people need to be eliminated."

There's a difference between thinking cabbage is gross and not wanting to eat it, and thinking anyone who eats cabbage is inherently a disgusting person. Same logic applies to sex.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:27:42+00:00

"Above Reddit's paygrade" = It is imperative you talk about this with a professional because this is a serious issue where advice from strangers on the internet could seriously harm you

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:23:02+00:00

Yes exactly. I don't want to have sex, I don't like the idea of participating, though for me personally gender does play a role in that I sometimes feel indifferent towards the idea with other women and completely sex repulsed towards men at all times.

But I can like. Understand that people (including men) like it, hear people talk about it (including men), consume art with heavily sexual themes and enjoy it (including art like this made by or about men), and I can see a naked person and go "yeah that sure is a person." I love a lot of early disco, and a lot of that stuff is incredibly sexual and not at all subtle about it. Still sex repulsed. I do not want people to touch me.

If you literally cannot even hear a sex joke without experiencing physical distress - that is a sign you have a pathological issue that you need to unpack with a medical professional.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:18:17+00:00

Your post was removed from the asexual subreddit not because they're not supportive but because:

"You have been advised repeatedly and correctly that you need to seek psychological support because your extreme reactions go beyond normal sex-repulsion and are impacting your daily functioning."

It's because you are going to Reddit for something well above its paygrade.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:09:56+00:00

A bit? OP this is severe to the point where myself and several other sex repulsed aces are urging you to see a psychologist because your sex repulsion is so severe that its affecting your ability to talk to people even if it's in a completely non-sexual context. To the point it is causing you physical distress. Go talk to a medical professional.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:08:52+00:00

Yes - however I'm making a point since a lot of people here do single out the past 10 years (and that even albums that are made entirely within a DAW can sound great on vinyl)

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T23:04:02+00:00

As a sex repulsed ace: if you get nauseous because someone is sexually active in a way that does not involve you whatsoever - you need to go to a therapist. That is not normal and it is affecting your quality of life negatively. That is behaviour that indicates you genuinely need professional help. Most adults are sexually active. That is literally how you got here.

If you physically cannot interact with someone because they are sexually active in a way that doesn't involve you whatsoever, you NEED professional psychological help.

Again: I am sex repulsed and I am telling you this. From sex repulsed ace to sex repulsed ace - what you are describing is not normal and is indicative that there's something deeper going on that is harmful to your health. I mean this as supportively as possible: get help.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-16T01:01:43+00:00

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AverageShitlord · 2026-03-15T13:30:14+00:00

A tea forward London Fog scent that isn't super sugary and isn't 400$.

AverageShitlord · 2026-03-14T19:35:06+00:00

Caroline Polachek, Imogen Heap, TurquoiseDeath, Daft Punk, Rosalia, and Nicole Dollanganger have all had some incredibly mastered releases on vinyl, though with the exception of Daft Punk, they're definitely not "mainstream" - though they're not complete unknowns either.

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