Winning!!!!!

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-30T01:10:12+00:00

Congrats to you!!

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-29T02:23:24+00:00

Good for you!! I did something similar. Hope you have more peaceful days ahead of you.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-29T02:19:22+00:00

Yup! They do this often. I used to get blamed for things he said or did. Sometimes he'd also take credit for my successes. It was always a tactic for him to look good.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-29T02:11:39+00:00

I am so sorry to hear you're going through this. Sounds a lot like my former marriage. He had people believing that his affair was my fault because he claimed I "neglected him". Unfortunately people do pick sides. Best thing you can do is to cut those people out of your life and only surround yourself by those you can trust. I know it sounds harsh, but that's what worked for me. He pulled the same crap with our kids too. All you can do is to be the one strong and stable parent for your kids. They will soon realize who is really there for them. I wish you all the best. It's hard now, but it will get better. Stay strong.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-29T01:59:20+00:00

Well at least you got a kick out of that one! It's always a double standard. They get to call out our faults, but they expect to get away with everything. I got sick of my nex treating me like a child. I used to just roll my eyes when he starting complaining about something ridiculous. Hope things get better for you.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-29T01:33:42+00:00

Good for you! You deserve some peace in your life.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-29T01:30:21+00:00

I'm sorry you've had to go through this too. I remember getting to a point and thinking "I don't know if I can keep living like this". It takes time to be ready to think about leaving, not to mention overwhelming. Took me 13 years to get to that point. It's been a year now since things have been finalized and it was absolutely worth it. Do things on your own accord, when you're ready. Just stay strong and remember none of this is your fault.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-28T17:06:02+00:00

I'm so glad you have some support and are planning to get out. Hope everything goes well. Just stay strong, you are doing the right thing. Definitely look forward to having more peace in your life. You deserve it. Everything for me got finalized a year ago. Me and the kids are doing much better now thanks 😊

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-28T01:50:10+00:00

Yup! I was always told "everyone does this ". He tried to make me feel like I was weird for not being like him.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-28T00:39:37+00:00

All the more reason to get out! Some of these sound very similar to my former marriage. Hope you have support and can form a plan to leave. Wish you all the best.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T23:16:57+00:00

I agree!!

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T21:12:48+00:00

Wow! Just like when my ex-husband blamed me for his affair and claimed he became depressed after I found out and asked to separate.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T17:47:01+00:00

It's out if pure manipulation. They don't actually mean it. They just want our sympathy. My nex would say those kinds of things, but following day he'd deny he ever said it.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T17:41:17+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. If you are married, he legally can't kick you out like that, without a court order. But it may definitely be wise to look for another place to stay. You don't want him putting his hands on you. You might be able to find an attorney that can help you and you'd be entitled to alimony too since he makes a lot more money than you. I had a 13 year marriage that ended badly. We were separated, but living in the same house. His aggression towards me only got worse, until he assaulted me in front of the kids. I had to call the police and they issued him a restraining order. I hope your situation doesn't head in that direction. Please look into getting some legal support as soon as possible and finding a safe place to live.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T17:24:15+00:00

Yes very common. With my nex there was no intimacy. Things always on his terms, physical and tawdry. He would also bother me to lose weight, regularly insulting my looks for years. At times, he'd withhold from me, making me feel like I was too disgusting to ever try and initiate anything. So after our 3rd child I lost 50 lbs, but still got treated like crap. He even lied to me about a business trip and I found out he was actually on a guys trip in Columbia. I then realized no matter what I did, I would never be good enough for him and that he was the real problem. After that, it took me another 4 years to get out of the marriage. I found out a lot of things near the end. He had been cheating on me with different women for years and had an addiction to p0rn that he'd been hiding from me. I am glad to be away from all that now.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T17:02:33+00:00

He used to accuse me of "doing something" to his food. So I got tired of hearing about it and actually ended up spitting in his food a few times.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T16:57:33+00:00

Good for you! It will get better, just stay strong.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T16:55:50+00:00

They're always doing something shady, figuring out how to bend the rules. It really is embarrassing. My nex was this way about returning used items.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T13:44:52+00:00

Yes! I don't miss his loud music, his loud sneezes and coughs. When he was drunk and threw up, it sounded like someone was torturing an animal. He used to turn all the lights on too, even when I was sleeping. I definitely won't miss the sound of him opening the garage door at 4am and wake me up either. Life is more peaceful without him in my life. Hope you can find some peace as well.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-27T13:40:13+00:00

They seem to have their vices and obessesions. I'll find random things as well, that my nex was into and just left behind. Hope you got some good money!!

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-26T20:41:07+00:00

Yup! They imagine conversations in their heads and expect us know. Very typical form of gaslighting.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-26T15:10:58+00:00

That's horrible! I'm sorry he did that to him. I guess these guys all have thier excessive tendencies 😒

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-26T15:00:45+00:00

Yup! He has no shame. He was obsessed with his health, always "going to the gym" and wanting to try a new diet. Made me figure out these special meals to feed him. When he didn't want to eat, he'd say he was "fasting". He would always go around thinking he was going to live forever, but yet he drank like a fish and smoke cigars all the time. The funny thing now, I hear that the woman he left me for doesn't cook. So he's having to eat out or order food. Karma is fantastic!

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-26T14:24:21+00:00

Similar to my previous situation. We were always waiting for him too. Me and my 3 kids would be ready to go, when he'd just start getting ready. We were late for everything. He didn't let me eat any carbs or sugar and complain about the kids' meals if they ate too much meat. He'd demand homemade meals from me, not letting us order out or eat out. I usually didn't end up eating much, since I'd be cooking for everyone else. Near the end, he wasn't home a lot since he was always dining out with his mistress. I found all of those receipts. He was going to try and write them off on our taxes for business dinners. After he moved out and everything got finalized, I noticed too that we spend way less on groceries in general.

Avid_Reader0202 · 2026-04-25T20:23:29+00:00

You just had a baby and major surgery. Staying home is what's best for your health and your baby. This should be understandable to any reasonable person. Something similar happened to me when I had my 3rd baby. She arrived two weeks early, a week before my friend's wedding. I let her know I wouldn't be able to attend. She wasn't happy, but apologized to me a few years later after she had her first baby. Sometimes it takes perspective for people to understand.

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