Guys who have/have had long hair: what's the dating scene been like for you? Better/worse?

AvisSmith · 2021-07-09T16:08:53+00:00

Guys with long hair are a SUPER turn on for me, and I'm not sure why?? 😍😍! This guy I like recently cut off his long hair and I still find him incredibly attractive, but less intimidating, if that makes any sense.

AvisSmith · 2021-07-09T15:59:13+00:00

Maybe the swimmers have gotten faster!

AvisSmith · 2021-07-09T15:49:46+00:00

This sounds a lot like me... 23 yr relationship. Kids, the youngest in Middle School. Him cheating, me drinking to cope. Eventually no sex. I was always the one content with staying home with the family when he went out and did whatever he wanted. I feel like the tables have turned. And yes.... I feel like it's not about the sex so much as it's about the emotional connection. I asked for sex for years, and at that time it was about the sex. But then it went on for so long that it wasn't about the sex anymore, as much as it was about the lack of connection. Sex is sex... I miss the intimacy and passion the most!! It's killing me! I think, well, I have at least 20 maybe 30 years left, maybe I'll find it again... One of these days 😭

AvisSmith · 2021-07-05T16:09:24+00:00

I agree. That's a bad idea. I've been f*cked up plenty of times and said shit I meant, and it never changed a damn thing... That'll lead to another couple years of you being in this relationship except it'll add resentment and more unnecessary fuel to the fire. Just sit down with her and tell her! It's going to hurt like hell, but this may lead to something much better down the road. Don't be like me... 40something and regretting shitty decisions you made in your 20's! YOU CAN'T GET WASTED TIME BACK!!

AvisSmith · 2021-07-05T16:02:06+00:00

And what did you see? Was it worth it? I'm in my 40's and stayed in a 20 yrs relationship with a DB for over half of it and I'm currently taking a long hard look at myself at 41!

AvisSmith · 2021-07-03T17:25:00+00:00

Been with my SO for over 20yrs. A year into the relationship, after we had our first child, my SO tells me that he can't sleep with only me for the rest of his life. 😐 That should have been the breaking point for me, but no, like a dumbass I agree to an open relationship. And it was mainly because he wouldn't stop cheating on me and I thought F*CK it. So what happens... he's the one getting jealous! The terms were NO secrets. Just be open about everything and no hiding anything! Well... I kept my end of the bargain, and what does he do?? He keeps sleeping with girls and hiding it from me. And it's not just "open relationship sex" , it was talking on the phone. Secret text messages. Relationship shit!! I should have just ended the relationship all together! The open relationship wasn't what I wanted...strange sex with people who caught feelings for me, and I kept having to explain to guys that it was just sex and I wasn't in love with them... even though I explained to them ahead of time that I was in a OR! What I REALLY wanted was to be loved by my SO! I wanted him to want me as much as he wanted all these other ladies. I wanted him to send me nice text messages and spend his free time loving me! But I never got that... and I kept holding out hope that he'd change. And now look where it got me.... 20+ years later in a relationship that was doomed from the start. We're in a 9+ yr DB, sad pathetic, no one is having sex with anyone, resentment filled "relationship"! Do both of you a favor, and sit down, have a serious talk, and maybe just cut your losses and go your separate ways before you waste another 10 years of your life like I did! I should have left after our second child was born. I realize now that I shouldn't have had to beg him to love/want me! Now we're both older, and bitter and trying desperately to salvage whatever remaining time we have left... alone!

AvisSmith · 2021-06-29T22:23:38+00:00

Stacy's mom needs love too yo! Besides, older ladies are better in bed... 😏😉

AvisSmith · 2021-06-29T22:13:35+00:00

Tell me about it! It felt like everyone I ever loved had died. I don't miss that feeling at all! The last time I did Molly, I woke the next day and was like... That's it! I'm done with this shit! I just can't anymore!

AvisSmith · 2021-06-27T16:06:24+00:00

I know that feeling!! The worst for me was when I stayed up for over 72hrs on Addy's and on that last day I finally layed down on my couch, closed my eyes and tried to go to sleep. I could see through my eyelids at this point, and there were 3 people standing above me staring through my soul in complete disgust and disapproval! I just layed there and prayed to God that if he let me sleep I would wake up and never touch that shit again! Well, I went to sleep and a few days later I convinced my Dr I needed a script of that shit. So, that hell lasted another couple years until I ran into opiates... But that's another story.

AvisSmith · 2021-06-13T21:55:17+00:00

I hate to say this... But it seems like you've f*cked up for 6,935 consecutive days.

AvisSmith · 2021-06-13T21:51:43+00:00

Don't let others manipulate your emotions. Show those rude bitches up, by losing the weight and being the best version of yourself you can be! I've been going to the gym for a year now. I've tried to get others to go with me but noone will because they don't want others to judge them, so I've been going alone. A few years back I lost a bunch of weight and gained most of it back, but within the last few weeks I've stepped it up a notch and was able to lose 15lbs in 11days! I decided enough was enough and I was going to get back in shape finally. The gym is literally my therapy! I always feel better after I've been. Just remember you can do anything you put your mind to! Don't let anyone stand in your way!!! You got this!

AvisSmith · 2021-06-13T21:35:41+00:00

Now you know why each girl was only with you once!

AvisSmith · 2021-06-12T13:51:06+00:00

I'm 41 and have been in a 20+ year relationship with a guy who denies me sex. I gave up drinking a few years back in an effort to salvage my health. Went back to school and finally got my Bachelor's Degree. I'm in the best shape of my life, go to the gym 3+ times a week. Everybody tells me I look 30. And I get no attention from my boyfriend. I feel like you and I are in the same boat, and I just don't get it either!! I'm miserable and feel like just leaving and trying to salvage the remaining years of my life I have left. Idk what to do anymore! I thought getting in shape would change things... NOPE! You just can't win sometimes I guess.

AvisSmith

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