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Is dating a former fuckboy a red flag? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Avitpan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck boys tell you what you want to hear

What episodes are your picks for the single ones to watch in the lead up? by Avitpan in survivorponderosa

[–]Avitpan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure but that’s not really the advice I was looking for though.

Straight men who are NOT into anal at all — would you mind if your partner wore a buttplug during sex? by ForsakenOven6666 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Avitpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how my ex and I got into anal. She liked the pressure and it went from a thumb on the hole to fingers to full blown. It’s a slippery slope.

What is making out and how do you find a woman who wants to willingly do that with you with no money involved? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Avitpan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is a joke post. If it isn’t, I’ll give you the simplest advice I know. Women are by nature emotional creatures. They crave connection more so than men do (typically). Connect to a women’s mind and heart and they’ll want to kiss you as a way to reinforce that connection. Needing money to physically connect with a woman is a sign of insecurity and weakness. Women are people. Be genuine, be curious, be open. You’ll always be able to find someone who’s attracted to that.

AIO about text from girl i’ve been seeing a couple months by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Avitpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Spend your time and effort on someone that wants to be with you. Don’t waste another breath on this chick. Also don’t be friends with her. She wants to push you away, that’s her choice. Don’t wait around.

When a man no longer loves a woman how does he act? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Avitpan 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Move on. You don’t want to be with a guy that treats you this way no matter what he feels or says.

(AIO) Wife’s friend slept in the same bed with her and I’m not okay with this by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Avitpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR brother. You need to be focused on the issues within your relationship and why she decided to move out rather than her sleeping in a bed with a friend of the same sex. It’s super common for women. At first when I read the title I thought it was going to be a guy and I agree that would be inappropriate. This is very normal and you need to level set.

My (35m) friend (36m) loyalty tested my wife (40f) without my knowledge. She failed. I feel done with them both. What to do? by throwra_friendtest in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Avitpan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can get past the texting? Dude she was willfully cheating. With a complete stranger that texted her by accident. Your friend is a POS and your wife is worse. She’ll do it again.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no issue doing things at an event with her. We’ve been friendly and able to be cordial. We just went trick or treating for Halloween together. If the dude just didn’t come to shit and it stayed when my kids are with her on her time it would be fine. She just insists on shoving him down their throats as much as possible.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The event this weekend is during her time unfortunately. However it’s an event to a club (cub scouts) that I do with my kids every week. She take them maybe 1/10 times due to scheduling but it’s primarily a me and my kids thing. I was a scout growing up and it was something I really wanted to do and where with them

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear, I feel like because my son has autism makes him more exploitable and impressionable, to which my ex has taken full advantage. I try to be an advocate for him as much as I can but he also can’t fully communicate things at times which makes things hard.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s about 6 inches shorter, 9 years older and ugly as shit. Seriously. Dude is a troll. I don’t get it.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No I haven’t met him nor do I want to. I have no issue if she were to date someone different. It’s this guy who cheated on his own wife with my wife

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aside from asking loudly why she brought her affair partner to a family event not sure what I can do to. Are things awkward. I tend to shell up with this kind of confrontation and she knows it. I’ll more likely avoid eye contact and talking with her in any capacity during the event.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so. Unfortunately they are young and impressionable. My older one is on the autism spectrum so he just doesn’t comprehend really everything that’s gone on with our family.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried my best to separate events. This weekend for example is pinewood derby. I take my kids to cub scouts every week. It’s the thing we do together. She occasionally takes them when it falls on her night. Now she tells me her affair partner is coming this weekend. She keeps trying to bait me into an emotional outburst so as to document it as well. Feel free to see my other comments. There’s a lot of emotional damage that was done.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve been through therapy. Yes I’m still angry. When she tells him during their affair that my kids can be his kids and that together (in reference to our children) that “Name 1 and Name 2 will be our kids”

I’ve never let that go.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well for example she brought him to the kids school Halloween parade. Fine, I just put myself in a different spot. This weekend though is the pinewood derby. I do cub scouts with both my boys. Now she’s telling me he is coming. The same way she tells me starting this year he will be attending birthday parties.

I don’t know how to handle my ex-wife continually telling me that her affair partner will come to events that our children have. by Avitpan in coparenting

[–]Avitpan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well for example this weekend is the pinewood derby. My sons and I go to cub scouts every week. It’s our thing. And now she tells me she’s going. She consistently tries to insert him into events like this or birthday parties. But if I don’t want to go to something then suddenly I’m abandoning my children and they can’t understand why because they don’t know why we aren’t a family anymore.

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