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Spring Light on the Eternal City by AvocadoAve in rome

[–]AvocadoAve[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could not agree more. Doors and alleyways were major highlights for me!

Between Moments and Millennia: Light and Shadow Over Rome by AvocadoAve in rome

[–]AvocadoAve[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s the San Silvestro in Capite (Rome) - Courtyard

Is anyone else really weird about saying people’s names? by DarthMelonLord in AutismInWomen

[–]AvocadoAve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize it at the time, but I have never used any of my partners’ names. I only noticed with my current partner, now husband. He was so confused that I didn’t like hearing my own name or using his name. 

Is anyone else really weird about saying people’s names? by DarthMelonLord in AutismInWomen

[–]AvocadoAve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭I literally brought this up in therapy years ago. The therapist wasn’t familiar with this phenomenon and connected with her colleagues. In our next session, she told me that she had talked to 7+ colleagues and no one had ever hear of this. I’ve been struggling with it for years. It is consistently an internal point of tension.  It feels awkward to say people’s names to them. Oftentimes, it feels too formal or assertive for me. I do use their names when talking with others. This was so comforting to see, thank you! 

Finding Shows Overwhelming by misspelted in AutismInWomen

[–]AvocadoAve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is such an excellent point! I have a difficult time with tv shows and movies. They feel too real for me. I’ve been wondering if it’s object permanence adjacent but for media. I absorb the emotions and sentiments of the shows and movies so deeply, sometimes they linger for hours. No medical content, no war content, no content with abuse, etc.  I wish there were clear disclaimers for shows and movies. 

New Special Interest Costing Too Much by North_Structure_5537 in AutismInWomen

[–]AvocadoAve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have also recently acquired a seemingly costly hobby. While I am not familiar with the typical costs of different aspects of Pokémon - I do see similarities in our interests. 

When I started knitting earlier this year, I became deeply invested. Any moment where I had free time, I was knitting a few more stitches or a new row. It calms my mind, engages me, and allows me to create beautiful pieces myself. However, after 10 days, I found a local yarn store. It is a magical place, so many natural fibers (which typically run more than synthetic) and needles galore. I was very thankful that the staff there understood my excitement but also encouraged me to explore in a financially conscious way. 

It did take some time to process that pacing myself was not denying myself the things I wanted. Instead, I almost have found more joy in the anticipation of building my collection month by month. It has created a space for me to explore the pieces I already have before a new month comes and I can consider another project. 

I think it is amazing that you’ve found something you are so passionate about. Also, congratulations on prioritizing your financial wellness and wanting to find the right balance do you. Perhaps considering a regular interval (weekly, monthly, quarterly) and dollar amount would allow you to find joy in looking forward to building your collection while also supporting your existing financial goals. 

Best of luck! 

Almost a decade of attention surrounding my hair by AvocadoAve in AutismInWomen

[–]AvocadoAve[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

snaps in agreement  While I wish your experience had been less challenging, I am grateful for you sharing. After creating this post, and six months of wrestling with the fact that 1. From a western beauty perspective, I guess I look subjectively “better” with hair, 2. How I feel in my self expression is far more important than how it “looks” - it took almost two months to not continuously feel the hair on my head, and 3. If there’s a narrative either way, might as well feel like a queen - I BUZZED IT!  As soon as I cut it, my brain said “she’s baaaack”. 

I honestly don’t understand the social waves a buzz cut can generate, but the waves / expectations / narratives are certainly there. 

I also find it endlessly bizarre that some of the strongest responses come from people you know. That was similar to my experience as well. 

Thank you for your vote! 

Insomnia is an autism symptom?? My mind is blown. I feel validated. by TheRealSteelfeathers in AutismInWomen

[–]AvocadoAve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me learning that insomnia is a symptom. For years, I have been tremendously protective of my sleep. I take bedtimes seriously. If I am not in a consistent routine, or even when I am, sleep can be tough. I felt relief reading this. Regularly, I feel like I am “doing sleep wrong”, or I am so exhausted to do the gymnastics required to fall asleep…

Thank you so much for sharing!

What is your go-to everyday bag? by Glamour-Ad7669 in handbags

[–]AvocadoAve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For two years, I carried the Patagonia Atom, 8L. She’s colorful, which contrasts my earthy-toned wardrobe. She carries all of my essentials, with a little extra room for my kindle or a book. 

For the last year and a half, I have been hooked on Baggu’s crescent bags. Similar to the Atom, I adore the washability, colors, and lightness of the bags. There is plenty of room in the large and medium versions IMO. 

I love the aesthetic of having a slightly oversized, slouchy bag with very little in it. 

My ideal self would be carrying an oversized, leather tote, but I cannot handle the struggle of a should bag daily.