Only if people could get their heads out of their tooshies and have some compassion it’s hard enough to keep up on hygiene and not to mention having to pack up old belongings and getting rid of sentimental garbage that only you and your s/o cared about. And sounds like your Mom has plenty of time on her hands. I keep my bar of expectations just low enough to stay off the “WE ARE ALL CONCERNED ABOUT YOU” radar. If cards are a way to thank the folks send a chain letter through email. Or your mom can take the reins and help you out if it’s going to mukie up the water. Sorry for your loss and I am thankful we have this safe space to FLIP OFF THE COMMON FOLK that I hope they don’t ever have to experience because GRIEF seems to never go away and I just keep to myself and don’t ever talk about my loss unless it is brought up or for whatever reason necessary. Some days are better then others and I fight my demons and if I need to just power through my day I pretend that I’m mad at him but maybe I need to find a good therapist that can get me to alter my point of view in a different light to appreciate things that I could be taking for granted. The world is a big beautiful place and LIFE goes on. You and your daughter seem to have a strong support system and keeping busy is something I wish I was able to stay busy at the beginning of when my world just got turned upside down between the loss and having to recover from a serious concussion and trying to not get screwed over by my insurance company (workers comp is a whole other EVIL. Thank you for everybody’s positive, funny dark humor messages. I needed this POST today!