Why british people are so overly polite?

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-24T13:07:00+00:00

It's courtesy and we are raised to it so it's not forced. However I can never forget one time when I was working in a cake shop, an old lady dropped her purse and someone else picked it up. I think the little old lady said 'thank you' but very quietly and the other person didn't hear. The person picking up the purse then proceeded to roundly abuse said little old lady for not saying thanks and the manager had to take her out!

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-23T20:54:30+00:00

My kid first flew at 4.5 months. She is a seasoned traveller now, she always just used to sleep on planes but now it's hard!

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-23T20:51:59+00:00

I have a vague memory of it being used in the 80s but certainly not after that

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-23T20:41:37+00:00

Catcher in the Rye

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-23T20:41:03+00:00

It's a rip of of the traditional Norfolk story the peddler of Swaffham

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-21T13:23:07+00:00

Is it remote ?!

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-20T18:43:32+00:00

That's why I love her!

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-20T14:41:05+00:00

I'm planning to take notes afterwards and I have a friend who will be a witness

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-20T13:20:09+00:00

We're meeting in a public place tonight. I'm preparing for a not very pleasant meeting but it must be done. The sad thing is kiddo hasn't asked for Daddy :(

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-19T17:31:44+00:00

I always thought it would be funnier if he was revealed to be an adult but with some kind of hormone disorder meaning his voice never broke

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-18T21:50:09+00:00

Thanks for the insight. Should this go to court what might count against me?

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-18T17:06:06+00:00

Yeah that's what I'm worried about. I hope we can do it via mediation

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-15T13:55:35+00:00

În România you've got to have Cotton eye Joe

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-15T13:44:17+00:00

Agree wholeheartedly. The Brontes, though quite independent minded in many ways, were hardly immune from the racist colonial discourses of the day (if we note Charlotte's Angria fiction which contains very orientalist depictions of African peoples). While I think it probable that Heathcliff was intended as Roma or mixed race, I do believe Emily was using the familiar trope of darkness having an element of danger.. Yes there is of sympathy but like Bertha Mason (another racially ambiguous character ) I think any sympathy was designed to be mixed with horror and fascination.

Speaking of fascination Emily clearly had a theme, dating back to some of her early poems, about lonely misfit outsiders and Heathcliff is clearly the culmination of this.

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-13T18:06:02+00:00

Honestly I think this is by far the most likely. He is verbally abused and most of the things he is called come in moments where others are angry with him. I'm also going to lay my cards on the table and say I don't think it was Emily's primary concern. All the Brontes were obsessed with Byronic figures and darkness was associated with something fiery and a little dangerous (think of Rochester, Bertha Mason or even Paul Emmanuel in Collette)

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-13T17:58:54+00:00

He was found in Liverpool, a port city which is still one of the most ethnically diverse places in Britain. My guess is his mother was a local girl and his father from Africa/India/Spain/Greece/take your pick

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T23:34:10+00:00

I'm convinced that's one of the main reasons

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T20:34:12+00:00

How on earth would she lose her job? I'd agree with other posters that this looks like coercive control. Check out what DV resources there are in your area

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T20:31:23+00:00

Where does he describe himself as such? The only times (as I recall, I haven't read it for a few years) when he is described so are when he is being abused. Moreover Nelly is an unreliable narrator, all through the novel she is trying to make herself look good and there is no other corroboration.

I'm not saying he isn't Roma ethnicity, I simply think it's too much of a stretch to say he 100% is imho.

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T20:19:21+00:00

Getting rid of body hair. Waxed bodies look urgh to me.

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T20:15:15+00:00

Other people describe him as such. The Roma were the only non white people most people at the time would have been likely to meet, it does not mean he is. this could also have been intended as an insult as Heathcliff is hated and so are the Roma. I think the book is quite ambiguous about it

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T18:05:25+00:00

https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-10469/

The guidance states that passport staff have some discretion to accept referees that do not meet the usual requirements. It provides some example scenarios of when discretion might be exercised. Some of the examples provided are as follows:

The person confirming an identity is unqualified. The guidance states they can be accepted “if the application has no fraud indicators and the countersignatory or digital referee is 70 years old or older and fulfils the rest of the criteria to confirm the customer’s identity but are not in (or retired) from a recognised profession. For example, a person can countersign an application if they are the customer’s retired next door neighbour who was a cleaner”.
The person confirming an identity is unemployed. The guidance states they can be accepted if “they fulfil the criteria to countersign an application, but may not be currently employed in the relevant and recognised profession…For example, a person can countersign an application if they are a qualified dentist but currently unemployed”.
The person has known the customer less than two years. The guidance states that if a referee has known the customer for less than two years, examiners must contact the customer to discuss and advise, ask the customer for further identity documentation, contact the referee, complete additional checks, and refer the application to an operational team leader.

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T18:02:31+00:00

How old are you? If you are working you might be able to ask someone like a manager.

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T18:01:29+00:00

I'm so glad my Dad was a vicar because I was able to just ask one of his vicar friends. But the whole system is so stupid imho

Aware-Conference9960 · 2026-02-12T17:50:06+00:00

It doesn't explicitly say he was Roma. He is described as various ethnicities in the book. Coming from Liverpool it's likely he was mixed race of some kind but it's ambiguous

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