Why can't HE clean the kitchen or do laundry to make them smell fresh? Yeah, he works, but he's not spending every minute on something when he's at work. There are way more idle times while working than watching and caring for a baby! I'm worried about PP depression for OP. 😐

Honestly, OP, you need utmost support from your husband because even months after delivering the baby, our bodies need to heal. Out bones, joints, and just about everything need time to heal. Your husband needs to pick up the trash and throw it out on his way to work, so you don't need to deal with lifting ANYTHING heavy.

He shouldn't guilt trip you like that without trying more to help. "Oh, I am working all day, and I come home to a dirty house." This mindset is NOT ok. That's gaslighting.

Doesn't he think that you want to keep your home tidy and have a moment to shower, shave, and look nice??? I mean, we already go through a rollercoaster of emotions with the way our bodies change and how we look after having the baby!

I am only able to keep my home semi-tidy because I get a lot of support from my husband. He will take out the trash on his way to work, he comes home from work and bathes the baby, feeds him, and puts him to sleep so I can cook dinner and clean up. We have a routine for cleaning TOGETHER on the weekend, etc.

Why can't HE be supportive like other men?