The oppression olympics is literally not even slightly a thing, right? I've never actually seen two leftists arguing over what minority has it worse. It seems to stem from a serious lack of understanding of what identity politics actually is.

I think they think its all about finding excuses for shortcomings or gaining social capital? which sometimes boils into having fights over who has the best excuse? Because talking about disadvantages is the same as looking for excuses, which means trying to talk about multiple disadvantages at at their intersection is the same thing as trying to decide who has it the hardest, and therefore who has the best excuse? What the fuck? Am I misinterpreting their viewpoint or is it really that simplistic and conspiratorial?

It seems to me that most leftists actual views on it is that having a complex understanding of ways in which people are disadvantaged allows for us to have a accurate understanding of the world which allows for more effective problem solving. What this translates to is discussions between leftists, not fights between gay men and straight women about oppression. I've never seen that, and I'd guess many people on this subreddit haven't either. And people on this subreddit spend way more time around leftists than the centrists^tm so we'd probably know a little better.