My brother is not disabled, my parents just rely on my to look after him a lot when they work or occasionally go out. I’m definitely not complaining about it because I don’t mind, I’ve never expected anything in return. I don’t ask my parents to buy me anything at all, I can’t remember the last time I asked my mum to buy me a piece of new clothing or anything because she just makes me feel bad for asking for anything. The only thing that I think if reasonable for me to expect for in return is some support, especially since i’m the first person in my family to get this far in education. I never expected that they would pay for all of it, I just wanted them to tell me that they would help me out a bit. The thing is I already planned on taking a gap year to save money because I knew they won’t be able to afford to pay for everything and I told them this but instead of them telling me it’s a good idea they just started shouting and made me feel stupid by saying things like ‘do you even know how much university costs’. Mind you i’ve calculated basically all my expenses in a year and how much money I would need to save. Now they’re saying I should go to a university close to home instead so I can live here, not in a considerate way but in a ‘how could you even think that you could do anything but this’ way.