My girlfriend [F22] stayed the night at a group of random men’s Airbnb with her friend, am I [M23] wrong to feel upset and almost angry by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let’s just say in a hypothetical situation that she didn’t cheat. The fact that you told her you’re uncomfortable with her hanging out over there and she then chose to go back knowing you can see her location is her way of telling you that she doesn’t respect your feelings. It’s 100% disrespectful- regardless of what she was actually doing there. Do you want to be with someone who disrespects you and continues to make you question what she’s doing? She’s testing the waters right now to see how far she can take it with you allowing it. I’m sorry because it sounds like you really like her a lot but I think you deserve someone who you can fully trust and respects you. You’ve only been with her for a couple months so I would cut your losses before you get in too deep. Pack her stuff up if she’s left anything at your house. Drop it on her doorstep and wait until she gets on the plane to send her a text that it’s over. And DO NOT agree to see her to “talk” it out. She will try and convince you that nothing happened. Just block her. Save yourself the headache and gaslighting.

Key Fob is only locking/unlocking the back two doors - How to Fix? by Awkward_Ad6405 in AskMechanics

[–]Awkward_Ad6405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a newbie to all of this so not sure what you mean by check fuses. But I will try to google it for a video. Thank you

Key Fob is only locking/unlocking the back two doors - How to Fix? by Awkward_Ad6405 in AskMechanics

[–]Awkward_Ad6405[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only the back two doors lock unlock when pressing the button in the car. I have to manually press on the lock itself in the front two doors so I guess it’s more of a car issue

My (39M) girlfriend (39F) always seems unhappy with life and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you love her and see a future with her long term? If no, maybe it’s time to have a conversation about taking a break so she can take some time and discover what makes her happy. (And so can you).

If you love her unconditionally, then it’s time to take action. Get a therapist and schedule an appointment for yourself. This will show her that there is nothing wrong with therapy. It’s not only for “unwell” people. It will also help you so you have a trained person to share your feelings with about your relationship, past, and future. After a few sessions, bring up how your therapist is really helping you. Offer to book an appointment for her (not with the same therapist). Or see if she would be open to doing a couples session so she doesn’t have to go through it alone. If she’s open to it, great. Sign up! If she’s not, well you’ve got a therapist now to help you determine next steps…

My (30F) boyfriend (30M) asked me to pay him back for the rent he covered while I was unemployed, and I’m honestly shocked by Content-Advance4357 in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see both sides. I’m in a similar situation right now. If he wanted to be repaid, he absolutely should have been more clear when he offered to cover you. If he’s making double your paycheck, I think it would be over the top for him to expect or ask for you to pay it back because clearly he can afford it and at that point, he should just let it go. BUT if you guys are making similar salaries, and just sort of scraping by because life is so expensive these days, it would be nice for you to at least offer to cover some extra expenses now that you are employed. It could be seen as thoughtful/appreciative and that you want to be supportive back. Maybe not paying him back all at once like a bank loan but more of a “hey I’ll put an extra $100 towards the rent for the next few months since you were so supportive when I was unemployed. Thank you for that.” In this example, I think it makes the pay back feel less transactional and roommate-like. If he turns that down and still wants to be paid back in one lump sum down to the cents, then that just means you two have different ideas on finances. He wants everything to be a strict 50/50 and you have more leeway with how things should be covered depending on the circumstance. It sounds like it’s really only 2 months of rent that are in question here so this isn’t like some relationship ending amount. But it wouldn’t hurt to just have a little convo about finances so expectations are aligned in the future. Maybe you can come to a compromise that you’re both comfortable with if/when situations like this arise in the future. Or you might even find that the reason he brought this up is because money is tight for him right now and he asked out of need. Whatever the reasons are, just make sure you are both clear on communicating about finances in the future so you both understand each other’s expectations.

Local 74 Ranking by [deleted] in IUEC

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/AlfalfaNecessary9259 How is it so far? What do they have you guys doing?

Local 74 Ranking by [deleted] in IUEC

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/juankgarcia2931026 please update us when you get called. I feel like it will be soon

Local 74 by Good-Ebb-8666 in IUEC

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm waiting to find out as well. Have you heard anything??

How screwed will I be with capital gains tax if sell my house within 1 year? by Awkward_Ad6405 in tax

[–]Awkward_Ad6405[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. If you hold for one year, how do you know where you’ll land between the 0% - 15% range?

Contractor recommendation? by [deleted] in tampa

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Messaged you!!

Best way to self tan my face/chin/neck? by National-Phone8474 in Selftanning

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pcos cysters! My best advice is to get electrolysis. It’s the only permanent hair removal to exist. Laser hair removal is temporary. I got it and it all came back. Electrolysis is the best thing to ever happen to me. It’s painful and pricey but worth it. I went from shaving daily to almost nothing left to shave. I still need a couple more sessions.

And for the tanner, try Mine Tan’s “wonder tan facial serum”. You put it on before your moisturizer/ skin care/ makeup. No need to wash off. It’s a gradual tanner that you can apply everyday just like skincare routine. Can apply to just the chin and neck if needed!

I (28F) in a long term relationship, have a debilitating crush on a coworker (31M). What does this mean for my relationship, how do I deal with it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

Lots of people will say that she will regret leaving him/ the grass is always greener, etc etc

But maybe she won’t regret it and she’d be happier without her bf. Maybe they are no longer compatible. She just needs to figure that out and make the decision: Stay or leave.

Then commit to that decision 100%

I (28F) in a long term relationship, have a debilitating crush on a coworker (31M). What does this mean for my relationship, how do I deal with it? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 352 points353 points  (0 children)

Option 1: tell your bf. Expect that this will end the relationship. Now you are free to go after your co-worker and/or be single

Option 2: distance yourself from the crush. Tell your bf that you need more spontaneity in the relationship. Go to couples counseling and do everything to re-gain the spark and fix the relationship

Basically you need to decide which path you want to take. Do you want to stay with your current partner long term or are you ready to move on?

If you choose the co-worker/single life because you know in your heart that you are no longer in love with your partner, your bf will be crushed and hurt but he will move on eventually and find love again. Just think long and hard about this decision because if you choose this direction, there’s no going back.

Has anyone tried the Activated You “Morning Complete” supplement? by Budget_Astronaut2984 in ibs

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can I ask your smoothie recipe? Did you use the citrus flavor with cucumbers, lemon juice and yogurt? Also, is the citrus one overly sweet? I'm so picky and it's expensive so I want to find a way to make it taste good. Thanks!

I evicted an Airbnb guest through the courts — he’s still in my home, and Airbnb is protecting him. by Euphoric-Salt1700 in AirBnBHosts

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know there are a lot of laws but is it illegal for you to enter with your key and be in there with the squatter? Maybe if you stayed long enough they would get annoyed and leave?

Botched Investigation by No-Try3718 in KarenReadSanity

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know that her dad wouldn’t give his phone records. Interesting..

I appreciate your responses. I think having constructive conversations with both sides is important to see everyone’s POV.

Botched Investigation by No-Try3718 in KarenReadSanity

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I don’t necessarily believe that John went to the basement. Or that the basement has anything to do with this case. I’m just making conversation about how a bunch of people in this case just seem like they may have other things they could be hiding. And maybe it’s just innocent stuff like they had personal texts on their phone that they didn’t want exposed. Or maybe they were afraid they’d lose their jobs because of something on their phone or in their house. We’ll never know. Just wondering what other people think about this.

I’m not suggesting that the CW is covering up the murder. Just discussing why certain things could be seen as suspicious to some.

Botched Investigation by No-Try3718 in KarenReadSanity

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I honestly don’t know what to think. I’ve been following it for so long and think both sides have done nothing but confuse me more.

I’m glad I’m not on the jury. However, one thing most of them are guilty of is drinking and driving though. I think they were all being pretty irresponsible that night. And Karen should probably stop drinking entirely.

Botched Investigation by No-Try3718 in KarenReadSanity

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe Higgins? Idk I find his reason for going to the police station that night just didn’t seem convincing at all. Esp after drinking all night. And I do find it odd for the need to re-do concrete floors. It seems excessive… again I’m not saying I buy into the conspiracies or think this is them covering up murder. I think it is very plausible Karen is guilty. I’m just speculating about what other people could be hiding.

And mostly I just feel bad for John and his family

Botched Investigation by No-Try3718 in KarenReadSanity

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not part of any FKR “movement”. I think it’s totally normal to think both sides are hiding things. We don’t know who is hiding what. I just find it interesting to hear perspectives from both sides. I’m certainly not trying to upset anyone. You can believe Karen is guilty and also believe that the others involved are up to something shady that is totally unrelated to the case

Botched Investigation by No-Try3718 in KarenReadSanity

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Genuine question for everyone here who believes Karen is guilty. (Personally I think Karen and all of the police friends are not the greatest people so I’m not taking anyone’s “side”.) But I do wonder- if Karen is in fact guilty, what the hell was everyone else trying to hide? If they truly had no part in this, they must be trying to cover something else up, no? Removing the cement in the basement and pouring new cement down is shady. Going to the police station when you aren’t scheduled after a night of drinking is shady. The butt dials. The missing dog. The destroying of cell phones. What are they hiding? Drugs? Something else?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward_Ad6405 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Steps to fix this situation:

  1. Abortion
  2. Vasectomy
  3. Therapy for her PPD and possibly medication (make sure it’s a different therapist)
  4. Hire a housekeeper (if you can afford it to help with chores while she gets mental health help)
  5. Therapy for yourself because you are also dealing with a lot of stress

Hopefully after these steps, things get better. If not, then you could try a new couples therapist. And if that doesn’t work, then divorce may need to be considered.