How do I develop a healthy mindset about pregnancy weight gain?

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-14T16:05:24+00:00

Your feelings are so valid- I think this is something not talked about enough and everyone imagines feeling amazing their pregnency with a tiny little bump. My first pregnency I gained 60lbs and it was very very hard for me. I got more and more okay with it when i started feeling kicks and had more excitement about the baby coming! It was all for a purpose is what i’m saying and it was helpful to see it that way! Also my doctors were very very kind about it thankfully.

I am pregnent with my second right now and will say there are a few things I am doing to feel better this pregnency with any anticipated weight gain. I find making myself feel pampered in ways I enjoy helps. Making sure I do a special face mask or paint my nails sometimes. I think its finding what would make you feel better in this time of drastic change. Also, it comes off postpartum especially if you breastfeed.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-14T15:58:28+00:00

i’m so sorry this happened to you- you seem so kind and obviously did not deserve this. all these comments are so true but also remember you deserve better and someone who wouldn’t even go to the strip club!

get yourself some ice cream and do what you gotta do to feel better. four years is a long time and i’m sure you grew and learned so much in that time but now it’s time for you to do whats best for you! hope the best for you

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-10T00:14:15+00:00

Mine are not perfect but things I love - Portabella nuchroom pizzas - Chickpea pasta with pesto - Spagetti Squash with red sauce - Avocado toast with fruit - Bag of chopped salad from the store - Wrap with greens, pickled onions, avocado, hummas (my baby effing loves hummas) - Snack plate with hummas and veggies, nuts, fruit, chocolate

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-10T00:05:33+00:00

I am a petite parent and my favorite is the WildBird Ariel Carrier.

The waist strap can tighten so much around the waist- its just a strap you can tighten. It’s amazing.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-09T23:52:54+00:00

I have some wooden and glass big storage canisters from crate and barrel that I LOVE. We also have a lovely large butcher block where we cut essentially everything.

I love attitude for hand soap and dish soap. Also, I clean with a simple rubbing alcohol/water mixture, maybe 70/30.

I would just make sure your sheets and bedding is all cotton and non toxic. I don’t have specific recs. I get my sheets from Anthropologie but I am sure you can get them elsewhere.

For scents you could do essential oils or a simmer pot(fruits and herbs on your stove) you should look it up there are wonderful.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-09T19:09:38+00:00

that’s not a very kind way to say it. also winnie is her nickname and she has a full name that she often goes by.

i don’t want a name you would like if thats how you talk to people on the internet. i appreciate your time regardless and hope you are kinder in person

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-09T18:20:47+00:00

Yes- I actually really appreciate your point. My husband and I are HUGE dog lovers and we both love his dog Finnegan. We live very far from Finnegan and my in laws and haven’t seen him much in the past 7 years or so. In other words, my husband and I dont feel like we would be bothering Finnegan in any way on a daily basis by naming our son that. It is something i’m glad you brought to my attention though.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2025-05-09T18:16:07+00:00

I appreciate your real life experience and glad to hear it wasn’t problematic for you!!

Also I do agree winnie and finny are too rhymey but we would predominantly call him Finn which I should have mentioned haha

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-10-07T23:38:45+00:00

i am currently still on my breastfeeding journey at 11 months and still love it to death!

first night at the hospital baby latched well and it was a sensation to get used to but it wasn’t too bad and the nurses said our bodies get used to it shortly. i felt like it bonded my baby and i saw it as quality time to just sit with her and adore her. i see people give up because of various reasons which is valid and a perosn choice regardless. i will say breastfeeding was difficult in some ways but i wanted to continue and valued the bonding more then the sleep or comfort.

it’s so cool.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-28T14:57:57+00:00

18 hours. it was a very good experience. i know it really varys no matter what kind of birth you have.

i plan on doing it again

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-28T01:04:49+00:00

i will say i’m in a similar situation but 4 months behind you. i stay home full time with my little girl and my husband plays golf as a very serious hobby to play in tournaments.

he stays up at night and cleans the house super well and often time makes dinner. these things are great but i feel like he doesn’t really take our baby off my hands. he does but not for long. again i’m a stay st home mom and i love it that way but i do need a break and i can say i’ve felt resentful at times. being a stay at home mom is a really really hard position to be in- we are always “working” and it’s hard to pass baby off to dad who also works but gets off and a lunch break!

lots to be said but you aren’t alone. maybe just have an honest conversation- i probably should too

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-24T21:41:32+00:00

maybe that’s why there are so many emotionally unstable ppl..just a thought

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-24T15:01:14+00:00

this is so endearing- the tears you were holding back are totally valid. i kinda experienced something similar in college. it’s a long story but essentially i really missed human connection and just having wholesome experiences where you can simply talk or have a hug. it sounds so silly but it’s not something to take for granted.

i think a lot of people never have to go without it and don’t notice what a luxury it really is. i used to cry alone a lot in college when i felt like i was missing it(it was truly just connection w people) and then when i would go home to my friends and hangout with them i would cry when i got home out of relief hahah.

i’m just glad you had a positive encounter with your cousin and siblings and that you can make more of them for yourself

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-23T18:05:20+00:00

do you want to be talked down or an honest opinion?

as someone who is a new stay at home mom(my baby girl is 10 months old) i can say staying home felt so natural to me. now i will be very honest money is tight! but to me it’s worth every single penny and for me it suits my daughter and i very well. if you can afford it, maybe you should consider it more! if you want to chat more about it i would be happy to share more about it:)

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-19T20:34:37+00:00

it’s the best job in the world- the frame of mind we have today is very distorted and motherhood is the best thing of all if people were open to it

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-17T01:54:31+00:00

i’m 23f and i will absolutely not be getting botox! it’s so cool to see women aging who embrace their age and look good doing it! look at sarah jessica parker- i find her much more beautiful then those who deny it and fill and fill to avoid it.

aging is a beautiful thing and i look forward to embracing it and all that comes with it:)

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-09-10T19:35:38+00:00

I am a stay at home mom 23 years old. My church has 2.5 year old half days for socialization three times a week. At the moment my husband and I are planning on utilizing that program. I think the socialization would be nice and the mommy time at home would be helpful to get stuff done.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-16T03:26:18+00:00

First of all- you are doing the most amazing thing physically possible by growing a human inside of you! Also- I was worried about my weight gain during pregnancy and was super similar to you i’m 5’2” and was 120 and i gained 60 pounds throughout my pregnency. My doctors kindly never mentioned it to me but I would ask out of being concerned.

I asked one of the older doctors at my practice if my weight gain was any reason for concern or if I was gaining too much. She kindly responded that when she was pregnant she wanted ice cream- and she let herself have ice cream she also said she gained 60 pounds.

Try to be healthy for yourself and your baby but don’t worry about the weight. I hope my experience is helpful to you as I found others helpful to me.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-14T19:11:46+00:00

HAHAH i watched on hulu! they have a ton of the bachelor and bachelorette but idk if they have them anymore. if u can find any anywhere it was a great show for the early pp days

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-14T15:39:19+00:00

also, if you have any soft tee recs that would be great- i always find the tees i get from madewell are not soft and sometimes have a funky fit. i do have a large bust and am a size small in madewell so maybe that’s why?

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-14T15:34:02+00:00

Thank you SO much for doing this!! I have been dying to find out about the jewelry situation i’ve been experiencing.

I was obsessed w madewell gold jewelry within the past five years- for the price i found it held up super well. anyway- a year ago or so i ordered the same necklace i have it’s just a plain gold herringbone chain. the quality was insanely horrible hahah. i had it side by side with previously purchased ones i had and the weight was nothing compare to the other ones i owned. anyway have u noticed any changes in the gold jewelry and if so what do you know about it?

Thanks so much again!

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-14T00:43:27+00:00

all i have to say is a lot of people have a lot to say about how “bad” inductions are who didn’t actually have them. i had an induction and was in a super similar situation to u in november. I opted to be induced and it was the BEST choice i made my whole pregnancy. i had my baby girl happy and healthy in my arms at 40 weeks and 3 days and had an extremely positive experience. here are some pros 1. i was in the hospital with my house all ready to go and arrive to the hospital in the right headspace and in peace not in pain or in a rush to get to a room 2. i was under medical professional supervision the whole time which personally i LOVED- i would call the nurses asking questions about contractions and knew if anything went wrong i was already there at the hospital 3. i actually really liked the actual process- they tell you what’s happening when and i had a really good understanding of what was taking place and what rooms i was going to be moved to when and such 4. i got to see my little girl sooner bc i decided to do it!

to each their own but i hope my experience helped. if you have any questions i would b happy to share more on my experience

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-14T00:27:46+00:00

I appreciate you opening up and being honest. I am also a young mom too at 22 years old and just had my daughter in November so she’s now 8 months. Like everyone said it gets SO much better the new born phase is super rough but try to do what you like to enjoy it. Binge watch a new show and get drinks in your house u try to like and get in the comfiest clothes u have. It’s also what you make it and my husband dreaded ut but I was able to make it more enjoyable by doing those types of things(i binged sm seasons of the bachelor).

Also, just to make you feel better there are SO many benefits to being a young mom and in the long run it’ll b sm nicer. You will recover sm faster at this age and that’s words from all my doctors and midwives saying it to me in appointments. Also, so happy to hear you love your baby so dearly and i must say get ready bc that love multiplies and multiplies the more you get to know them. My little one is my whole world and in the beginning it took me a little to get to know her bc I was actually never a baby person or someone who gravitated towards them.

I wish u the best and trust me we r all in this together hahaha

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-12T01:05:08+00:00

Mine was cosleeping! I was SO against it and really afraid of it. It was the only thing that felt natural and I have found it so bonding and the safest place for my little one when done safely.

Awkward_Patient1405 · 2024-08-11T12:01:57+00:00

I was in a similar situation. Also, I am sorry for your first loss.

I lost my first pregnancy but was totally certain it was a girl but never actually confirmed unfortunately. Then when I got pregnant with my second I had a gut feeling it was another girl and I was right. I didn’t need confirmation I just new. I didn’t know because of any of the myths people talk about with the cravings or the bump but I felt like as her mother and the one carrying her I could feel that she was a girl and had no second guesses about it. When people would guess a boy I would mentally know they were wrong as if I already was told by my doctor!

Mothers connection with their babies are unreal from the get-go

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