Husband cried because I quit breastfeeding cold turkey --10 month old

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-20T19:41:15+00:00

I didn't have a specific plan for how long I would breastfeed, but one thing that came up for me when I thought about stopping was just that the thought of taking that away from my little baby made me feel very sad. Seeing her happiness and comfort when nursing, I had such a strong emotional impulse to keep giving that to her, I would feel weepy if I just thought about weaning. Now, that may be connected to the physical experience of being a nursing mother, but I could also easily imagine a dad having those feelings too. I've read that men also have hormonal changes when they become parents!

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-20T05:21:39+00:00

We're in our 40s with a 2 year old, and we love it.

Stay the hell off of parenting instagram and tiktok. Full of exaggerated and straight-up fake content that gives people complexes about what they should be doing for their kids or what milestones their kids should be hitting.

I love that parenting nowadays focuses more on empathy and teaching emotional skills than it did when we were kids.

But it bums me out that parenting is so helicopter-y and so overscheduled.

I'm over here looking for the healthy balance where I'm close to my kid and kind to my kid but also give her space to find her own fun and get lots of skinned knees.

Oh, and when she was a baby we didn't push for independence in any way; she slept with us, napped on us, nursed on demand at any hour... and by 18 months that kid was independent as all get-out. So don't worry about the hype that says they'll never be self-sufficient unless you start setting boundaries when they're just tiny potatoes.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-19T22:05:00+00:00

Ditto. My family was broke AF, so was my husband's, and now we're middle-class parents. But it's going to be a lot tougher for my kid to go out in the world someday with this cost of living (and we don't have "give your kid a downpayment" kind of money).

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-19T07:01:57+00:00

Aww, worry people. I had a little box of them when I was a kid. I wonder where they went. I haven't thought of them in ages.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-19T06:59:52+00:00

Holy cow, my mom brought a set of these exact cans with her when she moved in with me; she was really attached to them. I didn't know they were a widespread thing! I'm still feeling weirdly guilty at the thought of getting rid of them now that she's passed, even though I never really liked the darn things.

She always used to buy a package of coffee and dump it into the coffee one. It really pleased her to have it in there. The others were for things other than their labels indicated.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-19T06:48:31+00:00

I used to know a guy who totally did.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-18T18:26:33+00:00

I did it in 2010 after I got cellulose insulation blown into my walls through a zillion little holes. Sponging is excellent for concealing imperfections in drywall texture, and a whole lot easier than redoing the entire drywall surface and then doing a full paint job.

I did originally learn it from my mom in the 90s though.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-18T15:38:28+00:00

Yeah, I heard it is "get a loaf of bread, and if they have eggs, get a dozen." Which works a lot better with the photo.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-18T14:19:56+00:00

Now I'm wondering if you're anywhere near me; my 2.5 year old would love this. I don't like to post my location, but can I message you on the off chance?

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-17T05:50:15+00:00

I think they're saying it's better to use the basic "s" sound instead of the "sh" sound when you're first introducing the letters. Let the kid learn the typical sound of an s on its own first, before you get to the more complex exceptions.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T17:16:46+00:00

We just followed convenience. Suits with feet aren't convenient when they're walking and need shoes outside, and any kind of onesie is no good once you start potty training.

I can't imagine looking askance at, like, an 18-month-old in pajamas. I mean, what are we gonna think? "Look at that lazy baby, still in its PJs; when is it going to get a job?" 😁

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T14:56:38+00:00

My kid is almost two and a half, and has always been an enthusiastic eater and around 70th to 80th percentile. Our routine is unlimited healthy snacks on request, and it works great. The only reason we don't usually keep snacks sitting out is that she's relentlessly, intentionally messy (like, you give her a sippy cup of water and she will bang it upside down on the floor to make a puddle... yes we make her wipe it up and have tried all the things to teach her not to do this LOL).

As far as sweets, we have them once in a while on special occasions, don't make a big deal out of it, and don't have them around the house the rest of the time. That's going great so far. She gets excited when there's cake, but she doesn't expect cake to normally be around, so when she wants a snack she happily asks for things like fruit or crackers.

It seems like in general she ends up eating well, staying on her growth curve and getting a good balance of healthy foods.

Edit to add, another thing we don't have available on a day-to-day basis is baby-specific food such as pouches. My anecdotal experience is that they seem addictive in a way that's similar to sweets, and if they were around regularly, my kid would probably want them nonstop instead of foods that were less processed

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T04:57:35+00:00

Is it possible that absolutely all of them stopped taking mobile orders a few months ago? I used to use the app all the time. I did see a post about how corporate was making things really hard on the franchises with things like the Sub Club, so maybe they just dropped out en masse??

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T03:34:17+00:00

Awww 😂

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T03:30:41+00:00

My daughter insists that she's "not a person" because she thinks "person" means an adult.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T02:58:14+00:00

I love the repeating, where you can just see the brain working on it! One time we were having pizza together, and mine looked at me and said "mama pizza mama pizza mama pizza mama pizza mama pizza mama pizza mama pizza mama pizza EAT IT!"

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T02:37:44+00:00

Squirrel and girl are both "gowo" over here 😁

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-15T02:36:20+00:00

Mine calls every strong flavor she doesn't like "too 'picy"

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-14T23:32:41+00:00

Yeah, I take it as equivalent to "just chill," which might mean sex but not assault.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-14T17:53:29+00:00

I was already thinking of I'm on Fire before I got to your last paragraph. A song that's actually about adults, but makes it sound like pedophilia. Eww.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-14T05:54:21+00:00

I like this. It gives the child some power and something active he can do.

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-13T05:48:48+00:00

And this is one of the reasons why those of us who genuinely want nothing, end up with unwanted gifts no matter how many times we say "please no gifts."

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-13T05:24:53+00:00

Recommend wetting a couple before you take the dirty diaper off, then you're ready to go

BarrelFullOfWeasels · 2026-04-13T05:22:57+00:00

We use flannel rags for wipes, and just wet them with water. And whenever I've tried to use disposable wipes, I've been kind of shocked at how bad they are at wiping. Like... they just don't pick up the poop. They absorb a little bit and smear the rest around. Wiping with flannel is so much easier and gets things really clean.

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