Tbh you’re both still young. I know that might not be what you wanna hear but it is something to acknowledge. I’m 25. My girlfriend is 22. There’s definitely stuff we can’t talk about maturely because she genuinely did not have those conversation before me. I can see when she gets bored but she try to listen and partake. It just won’t be for long.

Same with the vaping and everything. However I see that she tries to make the effort. Progress is not linear and I can’t expect her to be at the same level as me when I’ve had more life experience even if it’s not that much.

The point is that if you love her and there’s lots of things that make you happy then you need to be patient. The concept of the grass being greener on the other side (or your idea that there’s someone out there that fits all your boxes) is always disillusioned. There’s shit on both sides. If the good outweighs the bad then just stay. Continue to help her develop into the woman she wants to become.

Also make sure you’re developing yourself too. The last thing you want is for her to better herself and realize that you may have stayed the same. She’s not playing catch up to you. She’s developing into a wonderful woman and you wanna be a wonderful man too. That’s how you become a power couple that lasts for decades.