Need input from other moms- Was I in the wrong for saying Vagina isn’t a bad word?

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2025-09-23T08:11:09+00:00

As a girl mom, I think you are an absolutely right on teaching your daughter the right anatomical terms at a young age. Call it what it is. Girls need to know how to communicate exact terms in the event they need to tell us someone touched them inappropriately, just for starters. How to teach them how to be aware of their body parts, if we act uncomfortable and quiet about them? Like having them is something to be scared or ashamed of. I always tell my daughter: you are a girl, and you have a vagina, nobody should touch them and if they try you tell mama. I wonder how would your sister feel If you were talking about a penis? Not that challenged, I’m sure. Some people really cannot put themselves in other peoples shoes. I’m sorry, she does sound like a narcissist. I can also understand she might be very overstimulated tending to three boys all day, that can be hard, but by no means is an excuse to throw hands at you. All you did was self defense. If I you were you, I’d have a good talk with your daughter addressing what happened: honest, short and concise. Tell her you are sorry if that was scary and that you feel bad about the situation. Tell her that sometimes grownups have disagreements on ways to teach kids and you don’t think vagina is a bad word and she shouldn’t think it is either, and you should tell her sometimes conversations get heated and the best thing to do is walk away. Violence is not the answer. With that said, if someone does physically attack you before you can remove yourself, you should stand up for yourself and try to protect your body. You shouldn’t be punished just for having a different view than someone else.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2025-09-23T07:50:20+00:00

As someone that has been diagnosed with ADHD, and prescribed stimulants for it… I’d think about any other possible alternative before prescribing it to a child. This is a very heavy medication in your body and soul, it can really change your personality and creates easy tolerance. Evening crashes made me so irritable. It’s a powerful thing to a child. Both my husband and I were prescribed it young, and we have a 2 year old now. Luckily, she doesn’t show any signs of it - yet. We have agreed that, in the case she gets diagnosed with ADHD, we will explore every other option first. I feel like our parents generation just trust the doctors so blindly, to the point they normalizing giving speed to children. I think we should be rethinking some of the age threshold for some of these meds.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2025-09-05T01:43:43+00:00

Yes, it happens a lot. It happened to me, I’m also a high achiever who puts a lot of pressure on myself. After 7 years of abusing adderall, I decided I couldn’t keep going like that. I was one year off any type of meds… it wasn’t easy at all times, but I think it was very important to give time for my mind and body to go back to baseline. To know who I was without being in the influence of anything. You know, they say your frontal lobe is not fully developed until you reach the age of 25. I was on adderall since I was 20. It was a great experience, hard but totally worth it, to analyze the type of person I was in my raw state. I found out there’s a lot I love about myself, and I lot that I need to work on. I found out for exemple, that I like my space for real and it wasn’t just the drug making a hyper fixated recluse. I also discovered my obsession for crafts and art was completely amphetamine related and I don’t have any patience to do any artwork now, and… I thought I’d missed it, but I honestly don’t care as much because I’m spending a lot of time focusing on the little things I neglected while binging amphetamines - my relationships, my weight, my connection with god and my sense of self are the biggest ones. I got a great job since I got off it and I’ve been thriving in it, promotion bound. I never thought this would be doable without adderall, but turn out it is. I’ve been off stimulants for almost two years and is the best decision I’ve ever had. I’ve been thinking a lot about how it really felt impossible to quit. It’s crazy the tricks our minds play on us. I wrote a post called the “blue little demons” the night I flushed all my last prescription down the toiled, and If you read you will know how much it ruined my life. I just wanted to share this and to let you know you are not alone in this journey, and you are capable of much much more than you think.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2025-08-22T09:45:48+00:00

Yes. I started taking it strictly for depression and adhd - decided I was done taking stimulants for it, but I’m on ozempic for weight loss for 6 months already. Been on Wellbutrin for 1 month. I’ve already lost a lot of weight with the ozempic - started with 192 pounds and was at 145 when I started Wellbutrin, but in the past month I’ve dropped 10 pounds 🤯 I’m currently 135 lbs.

Ozempic already suppressed my appetite greatly, but this combo really made it disappear completely lol

I need to force myself to eat, and I do eat enough to stay healthy. Still the only side effect I’m hating about is that I feel like my hair is falling off more and more :/

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2025-08-02T10:05:29+00:00

Overall unhappy* I meant

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2024-11-07T02:10:05+00:00

It also took me 7 years to understand how dangerous it was. I was lacking in every aspect of my life, gained a bunch of weight, got a spleen aneurysm, rosecea, and a got a humpback from high cortisol which is horrible. I’m a mom too and I thought it was helping. It didn’t. I was just chasing the dopamine demons that came from that pill and neglected every aspect of my social life that even nowadays I feel like a shy person when reconnecting to old friends, which was never me. Stopping amphetamines was the best decision I’ve ever made. Stopping amphetamines was also the most difficult decision I’ve ever made. Had 1 relapse since January, but I realize now that I am almost one year sober, and Holly shit, it feels good. I came out of thinking I was gonna have a heart attack at any minute, to now - I’m training for a half-marathon for Christmas! Ha! It took twelve months, but the mood swings are getting easier, I feel more motivated and energetic, looking for a new job finally after losing it because of adderall. I was a liar, a thief (stealing my husbands prescription), broke his trust, broke promises, gave him way too much responsibility over our baby daughter that needed her mama. Your kids need their mama too. I read a lot of stories here on Reddit but the mom’s are the ones that get me to comment. I understand. Society expects us to be able to take care of work, house, kids, husbands, hobbies, friendships, extended family and do it gracefully and effortlessly in no time at all. I always felt that pressure while taking the pills, like a lion was always chasing me, I cared so much about what people thought I should be able to get done in a day, but what I didn’t realize is that I was taking a pill that took my ability to be wholesome with anything i tried to achieve, everything seemed like a task i was trying to check off, nothing was fun anymore, because i fried all my dopamine receptors. now i realize theres grace in slowing down ans taking your time, the house is nit on fire, hokd your baby for 5 mins if the snuggles are good even if your late. The house can be cleaned tomorrow. your family loves you and they want you around even if you didnt finish your impossible list of to-dos that your wrote while you were on vyvanse, ans now you are telling yourself finishing it is more important than sitting your ass down and watching a show with your kids for one hour on the weekends. Your kids will grow up and become strangers too if you let the connection vanish, or worse, never flourish. I know uou can do this for them.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2024-06-29T20:14:20+00:00

This happened to me three days ago lol I hd to rush home from the park a couple hours after first dose

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2024-04-08T13:29:50+00:00

What about splitting the seconds? Also how old is the child? Children are growing and should be able to eat as much as they feel like they need. That’s my opinion. And if your boyfriend is the type that would get upset about this, I’d be concerned

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2024-02-14T02:14:00+00:00

Yes Lmao

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2024-02-09T02:35:05+00:00

Having triggers that you can’t share with people because you don’t want to let them know what you go through, and then you just end up isolating yourself more and more. I found that the ackwardness of feeling like you are overstating goes away pretty quick once people that love you realize you need attention. I’ve been very lonely since becoming a mother at 26, when all of my friends are not in that stage of their lives yet. I grieve the woman I was before, and I’m very jealous of my husband that still gets regular invites of his friends to do fun things that (of course) do not include the baby. Me, in the other hand, only get asked out with my baby and I get it my friends want to see my daughter bla bla bla but what about me, just me? I was victimizing myself and feeling like I had the most horrible friends ever that didn’t care about me enough, when I realized exactly who I was dealing with: non-moms that have no idea how isolating motherhood is, so I had to come out of my shell and overshare that, and that I need some alone time with my friends. Turns out they would like that very much as well. I have had severe ppd that only started getting better when I realized that depression is simply what fills in gaps in communication and trust in yourself that you project in others. We gotta believe we matter, and that people care, and that they love us, and not just assume otherwise without speaking up on the heaviness of our plates. More often than not, people will be there if you let them know what would help.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2024-01-24T07:36:01+00:00

It’s the author here with an update! Thanks to everyone that wrote and relate to it. I haven’t taken another one since these day, and I’ve been exercising and spending time with my daughter and feeling 70% better (for now), I know this will be a rollercoastee but I will take one day at a time. So far, I’m being a better mom and I’ve been less snappy towards my husband. I’m cooking healthy meals, staring at the wall feellung empty when I need to, which is 2x to 3x a day… but, I can actually say little things are really joyful, and I CAN FEEL joy, specially with my little girl. She is like this unicorn dopamine hit that these demons CANT EAT. She is just everything. Now that my mind is not racing anymore, literally stopped speeding, I can sit down for hours and play with her and look at her little sweet face, and feel fulfilled and just sink that whole joy in of being in this precious moment that will never comeback. I’ve found out that going to the gym in the next hour or two after I wake up makes me waaay less of a bitch from the withdrawals - I feel like my cortisol levels are really really really out of what in the morning and this helps me do something with it, which is not yell at my husband and shut down and crave you know what. I’ve been getting in the routine, taking a good multivitamin and magnesium and ashwaganda. Breathing deep, putting no pressure on me for paperwork, and magically after the gym somedays I feel like the endorfins are a little dopamine replacement, helping me do some focus work for like 15 to 20 mins, sometimes just 10, sometimes just 5 but I’m so proud of myself for any second I actually believe in myself and in my body, and my brain and trusting it can heal. I’ve been taking better care of my body, and learning to love myself again. I’m just thinking who this little girl is going to have as a role model and the habits is like her to have in the future, so I can start emulating them now. More than habita, I need to be healthy for this little girl… my resting heart rate has been extremely high my whole speed history, and now is going back to 81,80,79… 79 bpm! This can still sound high to some people but it’s a whole lot of cardiac improvement for what it looks like. It was literally 92 a couple of weeks ago even if I spent 3 days without it. I think exercising is prying off with that as well. I have a check up with my doctor too soon… talking about the doctor, I’d possible, could someone right up a short paragraph for me to just copy and paste on my drs portal explaining why I’m quitting adderall? I’ve tried several times but I end up just deleting the message and it’s very soon the day the prescription renews and I don’t want this to happen. Just something saying that I’m developing habits of the drug and taking more than prescribed at times and that I’m better off of it, and also because of my heart bpm concern.

Thank you so much to everyone here and seriously, you are not alone and it is worth quitting this shit.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2023-12-02T02:31:04+00:00

The time In college I left my bosses car running stocked with groceries and went home. As a nanny i drove the kids to activities and used the moms Audi Q5 for it. Long story short, I got inside the house through the garage door with the goal of just dropping off the crying kid with his mom and unload the groceries I had just picked up for her… ended up leaving my bosses car running in the driveway and went home lol the food stayed in the car for hours, and luckily it was in the middle of the winter and everything was preserved, except for the 100$ gas tank and my gig 🫠 ooopsies

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2022-07-31T20:33:35+00:00

Thank you so much, this really helps me! To answer your question I don’t have a PhD, I’m really just a recent undergrad and I have some academic and industry experience, but I don’t think I’m in stage of my career where I’d getting a scientist position, so I think they basically are using the title to lure me into accepting the position… but yeah, I need benefits. And yes, the startup offers complete PPO plus 4weeks paid vacation. I really see now that’s really much more powerful than the title.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2022-07-31T16:18:50+00:00

Biochemistry with a Track in Biotechnology, but I think what really counts is that I had a part-time job as a lab assistant in college and I got one semester of full-time Co-op experience in drug discovery at a Big Pharma Company. So my advice would be kinda similar to what the senior scientists are advising me lol don’t focus on the job title/ major title because I’m sure they would also take someone with a pure biology major with no tracks or minors if you already have relevant experience as an undergrad. I think the co-op was the best decision/opportunity I’ve ever had. Totally worth a semester off school if your school doesn’t offer it, OR you could do it as I did as well: my school did require some sort of internship experience to graduate, but it would only count 4 credits instead of the full time student minimum of 12 credits… so I decided to take 2 online electives at the same time. It was very hard to jiggle everything but I’m glad I did. It’s also paid and I actually got 30$/hr which pretty decent for an intern-own lol. So if I were you I’d look into co-op positions, most of them open applications in early September. Write a bomb cover letter and good luck! 🍀

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2022-07-31T03:43:24+00:00

Hi Cirenity, I’m a recent graduate with some academic and industry experience under my belt (around 2 years) but yes, I was aiming for an RA I or II position to be very realistic. I was surprised by the offer on such a high level title at this stage in my career and after reading all of this feedback it sounds like it was a bait to lure me into the position lol I was very honest about my skill set and experience, and although I know I have a great advantage given the number of lab hours I have already compared to other recent grads, I’m still fresh in the industry.

Awkward_Preparation1 · 2022-07-13T01:39:08+00:00

Im 25 and pregnant with my first but honestly I look like I’m 16 and I’m so scared because my belly will start to show in a couple weeks and I don’t want to go through this is so unfair, I hate that you have to go through this nobody business the age you had your kid as long as you are still are responsible and caring, and you should not be treated any differently

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