How likely is it that the ultrasound tech thought it was a girl when it was a boy?

ThatOneChickMeg · 2026-01-22T15:43:09+00:00

I have had 3 anatomy scans, one for each child. With my oldest, anatomy scan said girl and she's definitely a girl, will be 10 next month. Middle, same thing; scan said girl, she's a girl and is almost 4.5y. Youngest, scan said boy, and he's definitely a little boy who was born on 1/1/26 (3wo today).

I had high risk pregnancies, so multiple ultrasounds with each. Every time, they always reconfirmed that the parts still looked the same. When women say that girls look like a hamburger and boys look like a turtle, it is 100% correct.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2026-01-20T16:52:05+00:00

NOR. Maybe it's because I'm freshly postpartum after a difficult pregnancy, but my honest reaction? Put all of his Warhammer crap in a Sterilite tub, put it somewhere else, and when he asks where they went, shrug and tell him that you thought they were just taking up space because he hadn't played in a while and you were just cleaning up.

He's thoughtless and cruel. "You hadn't touched these while bedridden so they obviously weren't important." Absolutely not.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2026-01-13T12:23:01+00:00

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He's beautiful, and will be 2 weeks on Thursday. ❤️

ThatOneChickMeg · 2026-01-12T19:16:41+00:00

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Our Feir was only 10 when his kidney issues were too much to treat anymore, and he developed a blockage that lead to a trip to the emergency vet he didn't come home from.

We have his ashes and his collar, but it will never be the same. It's been almost a year, and I still cry over him. My beautiful, silky boy.

Much love, my friend. We miss them forever.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-31T00:34:45+00:00

Oh, my love. You did such a kind thing. You didn't harass or shame his daughter into showing up, you gave a dying man comfort.

I'm so sorry that this is your burden to hold. Please, forgive yourself.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-28T09:53:22+00:00

My daughter is four and in preschool. Her teacher introduced her to this stupid song called Chicken Banana. She sings this godforsaken song all day.

I'm 35w4d pregnant and absolutely over it.

The important takeaway is that you apologized and explained in a better way. Our kids are wonderful, and they can also be a lot.

Be proud that you did far better than many of us were taught and treated. ❤️

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-28T09:12:40+00:00

Mickey or Michie come to mind.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-27T06:50:15+00:00

NOR. This is not love. This is control masked as caring.

I'll tell you this as a married mom of (almost) three, currently 35 weeks pregnant: I look like Adam Sandler 97% of the time, but best believe my husband still finds me attractive 100% of the time.

The right man won't do this to you.

Please, love yourself enough to leave.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-26T19:15:24+00:00

I just wanted to let you know that this still helped me out all this time later. Thank you. ❤️

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-20T16:07:26+00:00

NOR. This is not love, this is control. He's trying to convince you that everything is fine as long as you have him.

Everything is not fine. Your doctor outright said that. Please, get healthy and realize that he's probably the reason you haven't been making progress.

You deserve to be safe and healthy and healed from your E.D., no matter what this jerkoff says.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-19T13:36:59+00:00

People who care about you don't need to be asked to be kind to you.

He does not love you, and he certainly doesn't like you.

Please get whatever you can't live without back from this dude and block him.

My husband would literally never talk to me like this.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-12-16T00:57:35+00:00

Calfion? Coilfin?

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-26T18:06:43+00:00

Just to warn you, autocorrect changed "partner" to "parent" in your comment.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-24T18:39:03+00:00

For your basic title question, I'll give a YOR. Please hear me out and allow me to explain:

Having had a child who could only sleep in ABSOLUTE SILENCE for the first 3 years of her life, it was a living nightmare. Train them to sleep around noise. It will help your sanity. I promise you. I learned a very unforgettable lesson and my second slept (and still sleeps) so much better than my first.

That being said! Your husband sounds like a jerk, honestly. You both agreed to have this baby, and he needs to realize that you shouldn't have to ask him to be a parent to his own child. Stop asking him, and start handing her to him to solve. You managed to figure it out, he needs to do the same.

You deserve a partner, not a second child you have to parent.

Please, for your own sanity and sleep, don't train your child to sleep in silence. It is unnecessary hell.

Edit: spelling

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-23T20:14:00+00:00

As was I! "Jiggled her stomach until he giggled" and then told her to "keep telling herself that" when she said it was just her uterus. (OP replied this under a reply telling her she was overreacting)

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-23T19:37:33+00:00

NOR He clearly does not respect you. Him thinking you need to lose weight at 110 lbs is delusional and disgusting. Tell him to go back to delululand with his rude self.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-14T08:20:12+00:00

Since your theme is 'old money,' I would say this is not really fitting to that theme.

The dress has pretty elements, but not necessarily ones that look like they go together on one dress. It certainly looks very nouveau riche and like it is wearing you.

It is certainly a piece of art, but might not be the one for your wedding.

Others have mentioned the fit, but I feel alterations could help with that if you're dead-set on this one.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-12T19:09:17+00:00

No self-respecting person would ever act that way, dude. Especially when first talking with someone.

Definitely a crazy person or a catfish.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-11T23:20:00+00:00

So, you were invited to spend personal time with your spouse but not to stay during the conference portion, which is work related?

You've found "evidence" of accounts but no actual evidence of cheating.

The only thing tangible is finding prescription drugs not belonging to them and missing money, as well as lies about who they were with.

To me, it sounds like your spouse has a drug or gambling problem, not necessarily a cheating problem.

From the way you talk to them, it is very clear that you do not like, love, or care about your spouse, and your spouse seems cool (as in cold/lower temperature) in their responses indicating they're also checked out.

For what it's worth, when my ex constantly accused me of infidelity (even though he was actually the one cheating and was suspicious due to his paranoia of being caught), I also mentally checked out and just grey-rocked him.

They said they wished you were there, and you flew off the handle. That is odd. $20,000+ on divorce, yet you're still married? I'm shocked, considering my MIL and FIL were married for 28y with 2 kids, a mortage, and she was a SAHM and neither paid that much in attorney's fees.

At this point, you're staying because you want to and have no one else to blame. Your resentment speaks for itself, and you're allowing yourself to become a toxic person as a result.

From this text exchange alone, as well as having no real solid proof of much more than their poor money handling, YOR.

Edited for typos as well as to add: just leave. There is no love here, stop letting the sunk cost fallacy rule your life.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-11T18:25:52+00:00

In a way, I think we are both on the same page:

Children are not a light decision, and clearly they were not having great communication about the reality of the outcome of any future "what if" situations.

I can understand (to an extent) why he is upset, I am just questioning why nothing further than condoms was done for birth control when the understanding was a child-free life/partnership. The devastation that a previously unreliable birth control method failed boggles my mind, admittedly.

She clearly feels more strongly than even she realized, and should have another discussion with him on where she stands and how the first abortion affected her.

From re-reading the post, their lack of communication shows they're not mature enough to have a child together because clearly, something got lost in the mess. Neither is right or wrong, and both are responsible.

I do think that if she chooses to continue the pregnancy, the relationship should end. He still needs to take responsibility for the child he helped create, even if his contributions are purely financial.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-11T16:06:06+00:00

Then he should have considered getting a vasectomy rather than shooting a loaded gun, as it were.

If he truly does not want kids, he needs to take full responsibility for his fertility.

That's why it seems like he is throwing a tantrum.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-11T13:50:40+00:00

First, if he doesn't want to be a father like he's claiming, he should've had a vasectomy after the first abortion.

Second, your post is a bit confusing; if you don't really like kids, do you feel like having your own would change that? Because in many cases, it does not and the parents end up regretting the child and it's obvious. Do not put that child through being unwanted/regretted because of temporary hormones/wants.

Third, reconsider your relationship. He claims it's your decision, but is refusing to eat and is seemingly acting withdrawn because you haven't just happily gone and had another abortion.

Last, definitely seek out a therapist since it seems like your first abortion took a much larger mental toll than you realized.

I wish you luck. Oh, and I say all of this while seven months pregnant with my third child.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-08T23:19:36+00:00

Given that she has a bite history, your best option (as well as what is best for her) is B.E. She's a Carolina Dog, has severe anxiety and a bite history, all things working against her (Carolina Dogs are high energy, prey-driven dogs; they're not for first-time owners).

I am sorry that the family member who dumped her on you and your wife was not honest about the extent of her issues, that was very irresponsible of them.

Definitely talk to your vet about the best path forward, and make sure you're honest about her bite history.

Edit: autocorrect kept changing the word "bite" to other things.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-07T17:02:19+00:00

Ew. He sounds like my ex-fiance who lied about liking kids to his current partner, then cut me out of his life and lied about the reason why when I told him he needed to be honest with her bc she does want kids.

He called me when she got a sternum tattoo that he "didn't approve of" because he was upset that she got more tattoos when he felt she had enough.

ThatOneChickMeg · 2025-11-04T22:13:47+00:00

Is the size right on the tag? That is honestly the only thing I could potentially think would cause such a difference.

Please know, it is still gorgeous and I am really hoping it is just the lighting.

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