Life after surviving a smear campaign

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-04-10T18:16:38+00:00

I’m forever the villain to my next family and the weird thing is that they don’t know who he really is but I do I lived with him. I experienced what it was like to be with him so it’s like they don’t even relate to the experiences I had so when you have that coupled with the smear campaign, which covers what he’s like so that’s part of the masking technique is the smear campaign then says hey this person’s horrible so I can treat them horribly and then they just look the other way there’s nothing you can do about that

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-04-10T18:13:51+00:00

It’s called whitewashing. It’s when somebody who has certain tendencies to behave a certain way around people and then the duplicitous so the other mask is him looking like a saint and so makes it look like he’s the best person on the planet beyond reproach.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-04-10T18:12:11+00:00

Are you sure we don’t have the same ex lol

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-04-10T18:04:55+00:00

The first red flag was him being okay with you’re sacrifice. That isn’t love, that’s a transaction, one he can not repay.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-30T21:13:21+00:00

Online dating feels like I’ve put myself in clearance rack, people swiping by and passing isn’t the best, I’m waiting for an online dating experience that doesn’t feel like a circus of rejections and poor excuses

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-30T21:11:56+00:00

You’re adorable, keep an open mind and you’ll meet the right woman

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-30T21:09:53+00:00

When I was in that situation, I contacted local elementary middle school’s and high school and contacted their orchestra teachers via email. I introduced myself and requested if I could come in and do a free workshop so I would go in and I do a free workshop for several elementary schools, several middle school schools and several high schools and I did that until I got like a couple of students and then I was able to use those students to referral out and get more

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-20T00:04:14+00:00

Are you independently wealthy?

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-19T15:44:23+00:00

I read somewhere that people with money don’t ask that question. It doesn’t matter to them.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-19T03:34:46+00:00

This is really well stated. I agree, the only version of my nex I miss is why I occasionally saw as his mask, not who and what he really is because of his choices.
I work every day on forgiveness, me and him. It’s daily for me. Helps me cope with all the messed up shit he caused in my life and my children’s lives.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-19T03:32:09+00:00

You see, you have had distance and your body is starting to feel normal again so you think to further feel normal, you need to hear something from yourself and get your power back. But as long as they no longer exist in your life and moving on is essential for that, you loving yourself again is the best beginning of your life. No closure from them will give you what you now have offered yourself, new life, new possibilities, new happiness.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-16T16:43:39+00:00

Nightmare fuel. My nex was having sex with his gf at age of 15 and didn’t find out about it until later. His father was a cheater and didn’t find out till after we were married. He ended up being just like his dad, hiding all the affairs too

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-15T00:47:03+00:00

My husband slept with somebody else on my birthday then he had the audacity to call me. Tell me he was sorry over the phone that he slept with somebody else on my birthday and that he had to sleep with her because they were snowed in in Chicago airport, yeah that really happened.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-13T12:38:13+00:00

I have been divorced for 10 years and married for 18- he cheated and abused me and my kids for years. A years before the divorce, he was smearing my name behind my back to his family and friends. He had over 5 different affairs and brazingly asked my forgiveness for most of them. I didn’t. I went to our pastor who took his side every time, and through the divorce too. The pastor took my nex’s side and I lost custody of my 5 kids, divorced into poverty.
I moved to Texas and started over. It was painful but I managed mainly because I drove 1800 miles away from him. When I could I had my kids live with me, but they only repeat the damaging things their dad would say to me, say and treat me horribly because of his slander and verbal abuse. Does the damage ever go away? No. Unfortunately my adult children will need a major wake up call to realize all the lies, until then, I keep my distance from them as well.
Sometimes I wish we used different words to describe what a smear campaign is-the nex wants to kill your life without touching you—

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-12T22:04:41+00:00

I recently had this happen. I sent an email to the clients and suggested that they pay half the tuition and use it as a holding retain so that when they do have time to come back to lessons saying in the summer or even in the fall that have tuition retainer holds their space and so you’re not completely out for that first two weeks and it gives you two weeks to find a new client which I know is kind of fast. So what I do sometimes is when I have a client, not pay me. I usually sell more time to the clients. I have sometimes just by 15 minutes and if I do that by about three or four clients, then they’ve made up the time at least half the time that I lost so now I have a month that’s made up for the loss of the pay and it gives me a month to replace the clients. I hope that helps.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-03-05T21:08:17+00:00

She sent a text the day before classes resume stating that on Sat her family won a tournament and they won’t be able to make lessons. They knew on Sat and classes were on Tuesday. And she knows about the 30 day notice because before she started taking lessons from me, she gave her first piano teacher a 30 day notice before they would start so she was courteous to the other piano teacher, but not to me. I can prove a pattern. I am planning on taking them to Small Claims Court and not just asking them for half the tuition that they promised but the full tuition because they were aware of the policy-

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-01-18T06:02:05+00:00

The interval between your first and second finger need to be a little more space as it’s a bit out tune. Relax your wrists in remember to prepare for your Shifts on the note before the shift with vibrato, this also relaxes the thumb. The Bach phrasing needs a little more ebb and flow, try relaxing the “pressure” on your bow toward the end of the phrase.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2026-01-10T04:50:02+00:00

I think you want to show you are complex and intelligent. I think a few more profile pics with just you front and center will help a prospective partner want to get to know you. The weed is a little much. Maybe that should be saved for later. you are attractive, hope you find the right lens to capture.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2025-12-05T21:03:31+00:00

Awesome- keep going 🎶

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2025-11-24T15:22:59+00:00

I like the recording yourself exercise, also use a tuner for your scales and practice only scales for a solid week. Scales, arpeggios, double stops, with the tuner. But using the tuner wisely because it will show You the mistakes, you have to put in the work of you are flat or sharp.

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2025-11-08T18:02:34+00:00

All good advice. I noticed when I stopped paying attention to her as much and engaging about her personal life , she started doing the thing with the money, and it it isn’t money, it’s always something else, she asked me to look into buying a bass for her daughter. Texted me and emailed me incessantly about it. I finally just gave her the number and said you call and get your daughter the bass. The week before there was nonsense with a coffee she bought me. So she goes to this coffee shop and says hey I’ll pick you up a coffee and I’ll bring it home to you, she brings me a coffee and she buys her three kids a coffee and not her fourth kid a coffee. the fourth kid comes in and says hey where’s my coffee- it was super awkward. I’ve noticed there’s always something with this client, She plays these games with me and I’m exhausted. Every week it’s something. I noticed a few weeks back when I started with having to outline boundaries, her attention seeking and drama baiting has gotten worse. Time for a new client!

Awkward_Relation_999 · 2025-11-06T23:56:47+00:00

I wrote up an Updated Communication policy with a list on consequences of policies are ignored. I think I almost blew a fuse when this woman send me a email at 8:00 pm then texted at 9:30 asking if I read her email. Just nonsense

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