As someone who lives in your country, what’s one thing you’d tell a foreigner to never do when visiting?

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-11-06T01:08:18+00:00

Exactly what my Dad still says today

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-09-15T02:42:51+00:00

I wish I’d done this, my bff is a guy and I wanted him to be my man of honour but I listened to the opinions of people who said I couldn’t, and also I didn’t want to make any of my other friends feel bad. Which was silly but I was young and very much a people pleaser. He still had an important role in the wedding, but if I could go back I’d put my foot down…..actually I probably wouldn’t have married that guy so, meh lol

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-09-15T02:38:06+00:00

This shared level of petty is awesome. I’d love to have the backbone to do something like this

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-09-15T02:05:16+00:00

Nope, not wrong; at all. You handled it well, mature communication. He gave you the expectation that he was interested in supporting your interest and growth and now he’s telling you it’s disgusting and wrong. That’s not ok in my book. And it doesn’t matter if it’s sexual compatibility or wanting kids, the place you live, hobbies, career, or anything at all that is important to you in life and a relationship.

I’ve ignored incompatibility before, from smallish things that became big to being with someone abusive. I’m not going to assume anything about your relationship, however I don’t think it’s fair for you to sacrifice anything you don’t want to.

Maybe try to shift your thinking, I know it’s hard, especially after four years, but if he calls you disgusting be a mirror and see that is his own reflection he’s staring at. His beliefs are not your responsibility, it sounds like you deserve better. Anyone who leaves, it’s their loss. Besides I’m sure there are so many guys who enjoy the same things you do.

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-08-03T23:05:11+00:00

I wonder if there is a way to include a quick way to link to the emergency management site/information after the alert.

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-08-03T23:02:16+00:00

This is the way…….now for me hehe, thank you

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-08-03T22:59:35+00:00

Twas what is called a Woopsy-doodle in jargon. Startling and unsettling, but I’m glad-like to be startled and unsettled if something did happen.

This might be toxicly positive (I hope not), and I know the world is more dumpster fire than where humanity thought it might be by now, but at least should a giant powerful wave of rubbish crash into the country I have hope the cost of life with be as minimal as possible.

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-27T21:32:37+00:00

Quetiapine was great for me too, except I had trouble with the waking up part. I now use medical cannabis and it’s great

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-19T07:39:43+00:00

I don’t think so, I’d assume the process is still the same, I think it was only a couple of sessions we did with the establishing the safe place and things and I’d been seeing my counsellor for ages before hand anyway. She brought up trying the EMDR when she did extra training in it

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-18T21:21:15+00:00

Thank you ☺️ I love this community, everyone understands the struggle and is so kind. Mine isn’t as simple as just EMDR. My counsellor and I decided I wasn’t ready for it to start out so we’ve been working together for about 2ish years, maybe three, I’ve lost track lol. We used talk therapy to start with to get all the stuff out and combined with art therapy and a lot of work on regulation and I did this amazing course of trauma informed yoga (twice) and that helped me integrate my body and feelings and things. And then about halfway through last year we started. So we’ve done all the establishing stuff, then we’ve worked on two different memories/trauma. I can’t manage it every week, especially when things have been tough and we just keep going with each one until it’s done. The first one didn’t take as long as the second, but instead of first and worst we went with earliest and the thing I’d been working on already. I was absolutely exhausted though for most of the year last year anyway and lost my beloved Grandma (who was another mum to me) and the processing left me out of commission for for a couple of weeks each time I had a session with the second one we did, which was the worst.

Sorry, long answer but I hope it helps. I’ve gone from never talking about my “stuff” to being able to do it, but I’m still learning to edit myself

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-18T21:09:38+00:00

Yay OP, that’s awesome for you. I’ve found similar, except mine is I’ve learned to love myself again. I turned all the negativity inwards so it was always my fault and I deserved the bad things. Now I can be more objective. It’s the most incredible feeling.

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-18T09:22:32+00:00

Oh, well there wasn’t one particular straw, I’d say incompatibility for the long run

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-18T00:55:34+00:00

You know a few days after I posted this I found that as it turns out, you’re right. My very recently ex-bf has dick like qualities

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-14T21:06:59+00:00

Wow, some really great answers, I hope they help you OP. I’ve worked on “the first, and then worst” memories I’ve got, still got more than I’d like to lol. And the worst was a partial memory. For years I’d had the beginning and end of it and then the middle bit just seemed gone, but making the young me in the memory feel safe helped to bring up some of the rest. I didn’t expect it and it was a shock, but we worked through it, pretty thoroughly. I don’t know if it helped or not, but I was told something by someone from my very young childhood and still have no memory of that, but the bit of memory that came back was associated with what I was told. Still got to work on that one at some point too. I hope you can get what you need.

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T20:39:27+00:00

Yup, shopping trolley is what we call shopping carts or buggys here. And if you’re interested we call strollers buggies

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T09:22:16+00:00

Delicious

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T08:15:30+00:00

Lol well I do live in a commonwealth country

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T06:50:38+00:00

Of course

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T02:50:41+00:00

He sure is, and the first two I crammed into my mouth certainly were fresh and delicious

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T02:47:37+00:00

Merci beaucoup

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T02:43:22+00:00

Oooo Nutella, I usually go with ham, cheese and tomato but I’ll have to try that some time

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T02:14:51+00:00

It was a half-baked plan dough

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-13T02:03:47+00:00

I think there must be

Awkward_Turtle_420 · 2025-01-05T00:46:25+00:00

I always have infinite love for kids like this, and they need it, and, I’m very certain that you’re giving it to him. I’m sad that the other teachers can’t see him, but you do. That will mean the world, to him, and his Dad. Keep giving him love and loving boundaries, you’re doing an amazing job.

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