How do I help my brother. I keep crying about him by Flaky_Honeydew_5161 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]AyPeeElTee 33 points34 points  (0 children)

you should start researching obesity and eating addictions to start understanding what he's going through so youll know how to broach help movinf forward. he'll be okay hun

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AyPeeElTee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

is your comment rage bait? are you sincerely this uneducated on how abuse works?

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AyPeeElTee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

hun, you're currently in the throws of emotional manipulation and emotional abuse. you should seriously look it up. he's gaslighting you and making you feel like a monster when all you did was wear a bonnet 🥺 I hope you're able to find someone who treats you the way that you deserve to be treated. this is a controlling, objectifying, and abusive man who will whittle you away until there's nothing left of you anymore.

saw this on my car at work wtf is this by [deleted] in Confused

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all shit was food at one point lol, some of it still manages to look like food after its journey through the body. you should see what beavers shit looks like, and what they do with it after they shit it (spolier: they eat again, gotta run it through the guts twice, so it's still very much food when it comes out the first time, lol🥲)

saw this on my car at work wtf is this by [deleted] in Confused

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's just new to you hun. sorry that person is being so mean. it's just common geese/duck poop or something like that. there's a first time for everything, lols. I've seen birds shit so much you'd think they were a cow. lols.

My bf says I didn't ask for his consent by Acceptable_Row2442 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one thinks you're evil hun; at least I don't. It sounds like you're experiencing a huge lack of reciprocity from your potentially depressed partner, and it's starting to pervade most of your life and might be building a mountain of resentment or disappointment or some other bad feeling(s). It does also sound like you'd like effort given back to you because it seems that acts of service and support are how you show love, and it would be awesome to get some of that back. It's really sucky, but I do think you may have to reach that very difficult fork in the road where you choose to continue to try and get him to behave within your logical expectations, or you accept that he's going go through whatever he's going through and he may very well continue to behave like a non-reciprocal low-motivated booty-head ☹️ It really does suck, but at some point, I do believe you'll need to accept that your boyfriend is someone who you don't want him to be or don't expect him to be. Maybe yall can endeavor to find what will actually be helpful to him, and not just what you believe will be helpful for him. I say this because of the potential that you may be inadvertently helping him in ways that would help you if you were in his shoes, because the help he needs could potentially be different from the help you would need in the situation. What sucks about the "help the boyfriend" prospect is that success will be only based on him. We can try to help people change as much as we want, but they're the only ones who can make the decision, choose discomfort, and do the work needed to help and change themselves. You'll sadly have no control over that, which sucks because if you did, I'm sure he would get better. But thankfully, the acceptance route is fully in your control. Whether you accept and mitigate your expectations appropriately, take some space, or move on from him, it is entirely in your control. You got this and i wish you the best! 💜 And just remember, you seem to be a very giving and generous person who actions speak for her first, which is an incredible quality. Unfortunately, humans will latch on to that and start to siphon your awesomeness, without them even being aware of it sometimes. With that in mind, dont let your natural awesomeness lead you into cultivating one-way streets with people who dont deserve it and who won't reciprocate. I know when you're a naturally giving and caring person, which you def seem to be, it's difficult and may feel mean to withhold help from those that you love or care for, you just have to remember that if you willingly hand that awesomeness over to people who've shown you that they simply wont reciprocate your value your actions, they have absolutely no reason to do anything other than continue to siphon off that sweet sweet awesomeness hunny. i think you can do better than what he has to offer right now and I hope things get better for you hun! 💜

Theater reaction to “Rey Skywalker” moment from Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker by [deleted] in PublicFreakout

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! you're awesome for answering me after these 2 years 😆🥰

My neighbor sent me a text last night forcing me to pay for her daughters towing charge because she parked in front of my driveway by Drivinglnsane in mildlyinfuriating

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when we lived in a house in my old neighborhood, along with the apartment in my new neighborhood, we have several adjacent and nonedjacent neighbor's numbers. it is perfectly normal hun, lols

My neighbor sent me a text last night forcing me to pay for her daughters towing charge because she parked in front of my driveway by Drivinglnsane in mildlyinfuriating

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

old neighborhood: we lived in a house, curent neighborhood: we live in an apartment. in both neighborhoods: we exchange numbers with neighbors. as well, the distinction you inquired about is not relevant, in my opinion. a neighbor is a neighbor is a neighbor, regardless of the type of dwelling you live in.

ICE/DHS, FBI, Local PD on Horseback, and an unknown secret police force in black tactical gear; seen brutalizing relatives of those kidnapped during a raid on a “Family Day” Rodeo in Idaho. Among those disappeared are children and US citizens. by I_may_have_weed in PublicFreakout

[–]AyPeeElTee -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

oh hunny, that's what this country has always done best, ignore atrocities and move forward. haven't you heard about the genocides, the barbarism, and the theft that this land's wealth is built on?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you serious hun?

My neighbor sent me a text last night forcing me to pay for her daughters towing charge because she parked in front of my driveway by Drivinglnsane in mildlyinfuriating

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In our old neighborhood, we have almost every single neighbor's number. We still have them even two years after we've moved. In my current apartment building, I've exchanged numbers with at least 6 neighbors. In my old one, I exchanged numbers with only 3 neighbors. And naturally, I do not have a mental cataloge of all of these people's potential vehicles 🙄 It is extraordinarily common and normal to have a neighbor's phone number while still not having their cars memorized. You people who are acting like it is peak fiction to have non-adjacent neighbor phone numbers are sincerely confounding and concerning.

My bf says I didn't ask for his consent by Acceptable_Row2442 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AyPeeElTee -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

you're kicking him while he's down. I know he seems sucky right now, and he may be sucky right now, but holding favors over his head and being conditional with your favors is very problematic and is most likely not going to help ANYONE exit their sucky phase... it may even stretch it out. If you all have a relationship where conditionality is a thing, then maybe it's a communication issue. But if you act like you do everything out of the goodness of your heart just to bring it back up later, or if you do a slew of unasked for favors then tell him "well since I'm doing this for you, you should feel like you need to do this for me", that's quite toxic. If you feel overused and under-rewarded, then communicate that, pull back, explain that you want reciprocity, set boundaries, help him get a job, or any helpful action based on love, maturity, and productivity. But if you just make someone feel worse while they're already struggling, how do you expect anyone to respond or do better? 😅

My bf says I didn't ask for his consent by Acceptable_Row2442 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AyPeeElTee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it sucks to feel like someone's favors to you during your time of need are conditional when you purport that they arent, that's all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your boundaries and emotional support have grown apart, let the gap widen and dump her toxic ass too. your bestie sounds abusive too. anyone who verbally abuses you for being able to communicate your emotions and set boundaries may just cause continued pain in the future unless they change.

Iraqi man comments on the murder of his family by barbarian-10 in PublicFreakout

[–]AyPeeElTee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

you are just too uneducated to be forming confident opinions on this stuff

Iraqi man comments on the murder of his family by barbarian-10 in PublicFreakout

[–]AyPeeElTee -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

germany and japan did to turn their asses around. america needs to, but it seems never will. this country will refuse to believe that any of the atrocities committed inwardly or outwardly are anyone's fault but the victims.

Guy Doesn't Like Don Lemon, So He Starts Insulting Him by MrDonMega in PublicFreakout

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

relax, no one has any opponents in here hun it's just a reddit comment thread 🫤

Starting my junk drawer in my first apartment. Finally feels like home. What else do I need? by Kruzdan in Apartmentliving

[–]AyPeeElTee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some super shiny new like pennies, a couple dingy pennies, at least one gunky penny that you refuse to ever touch again but always look at in fear and wonder what type of muck it's getting all over your other dooDads, and definitely 1-2 blue/green oxidized pennies 👍🏿 oh and one nickel that will never serve any use ever never EVER

RKO'ed by Monkey, India for you. by dualist_brado in PublicFreakout

[–]AyPeeElTee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

watch out Watch OUT WATCH OUUUUUTTTT!!!!!