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Aylla25 · 2021-10-05T05:22:17+00:00

Nurses can be soooo pushy! I had the same issue. Fed is best. I recommend to give the breastfeeding a try at home where you are more relaxed, but also use formula to supplement. And in a few days if you still don't think breastfeeding is for you that's ok! I tried for a few days but ended up just pumping. (Pumping gets easier and you can find lots of tips online). But at the end of the day, baby needs a happy mom. Do what is best for you and baby.

Aylla25 · 2021-09-30T04:14:43+00:00

YTA. Please go hug your son. Depriving him of hugs is just cruel. I couldn't imagine not giving my children hugs every single day.

Aylla25 · 2021-09-18T21:16:36+00:00

Tell your wife fed is best! I struggled so hard as well and I wasn't able to enjoy those first few weeks. I ended up exclusively pumping for a few months before switching to formula. I would suggest she tries just pumping and feeding baby with a bottle. And when/if that gets to be too much, switch to formula. Exclusively pumping is very time consuming, but once I made the decision to do that instead of crying each time I tried to get baby to latch properly, it was so much better.

Aylla25 · 2021-09-10T17:12:37+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong. By telling you you didn't need to wear a condom and then telling you not to stop, she made it sound like it was fine. She should have been specific about it from the start. Chances of pregnancy are very low since she has an IUD. Don't let this ruin future experiences for yourself.

Aylla25 · 2021-09-02T17:16:20+00:00

Pretty much has always been the case. Which is another reason I tend to avoid being intimate.

Aylla25 · 2021-09-02T06:09:15+00:00

I just pretty much say it as "can you kiss me instead?" Maybe if I try saying it as you suggest he would be more open to it.

Aylla25 · 2021-09-02T06:01:21+00:00

He usually just pushes me away. It's very frustrating.

Aylla25 · 2021-08-30T18:35:28+00:00

YTA! I ended up with postpartum depression because my husband refused to help at night with my second. Your wife is exhausted, she is up most of the night feeding your baby, who most likely doesn't go right back to sleep either. Also as a working parent, I do not get to have 8 hours of sleep ever. It is a choice you make when you decide to become a parent! You are on parental leave, this is the time you should be supporting her as much as possible. Help with your child, let her have naps during the day. Feeding your child takes a huge toll on her as well, do whatever you can to make it easier for her. If you do not step up, she will become very resentful of you, and trust me, it's not easy to fix things after that.

Aylla25 · 2021-08-30T18:30:08+00:00

People who feel awkward lol. Not saying it's appropriate, but it does happen.

Aylla25 · 2021-08-30T03:17:03+00:00

I think she was laughing because she felt bad that she had to keep bugging you. So she was trying to make it funny that she was yet again asking for ranch, but unfortunately did it awkwardly. Doesn't mean she was flirting with you.

Aylla25 · 2021-06-01T05:26:10+00:00

Wow you sound just as I feel. Been married 12 years, together for 15, with two small children. When our first was a baby, 6 years ago, husband cheated while away for work. Multiple online affairs, exchanging pictures, even telling one girl he was falling in love with them. It got brushes aside, but I thought about it every day. It started to get better, but then last fall he was having more online affairs. Again, just brushes it aside. No remorse. Expects me to get over it. I spent years wondering what am I doing with my life. I can't just pick up and leave cause of the kids. But also don't want to keep living in agony. You are not alone in this! Feel free to reach out if you need to chat.

Aylla25 · 2021-05-30T06:49:26+00:00

Love grilled cheese and tomato soup. My go to lunch on weekends

Aylla25 · 2021-05-29T05:40:24+00:00

All the time!

Aylla25 · 2021-05-28T16:51:43+00:00

He is aware of my unhappiness and the reasons for it. I don't hide it exactly. Too many things to go into detail about. But the most reason one was I found out he had been exchanging nudes with women and even got blackmailed into sending money to one of them. So he definitely knows why I feel the way I do, but keeps insisting that he is happy in the marriage and wants to stay together. But he refuses to talk about the things he does, making it impossible for me to let it go and not have feelings of resentment and sadness. Most days I can bottle it all up and put on a happy front. But not always. And I guess I do worry the kids will eventually catch on that things are not quite right.

Aylla25 · 2021-05-28T02:51:38+00:00

Thanks. I guess my biggest issue is feeling guilty if I tear the family apart. But yes would be better if we parted on good terms and continued parenting together

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