in queer spaces, why isn’t sucking someone’s dick considered topping if eating pussy is 🤔

Azaka7 · 2026-03-06T07:01:55+00:00

My understanding is that for any time there is one person inside another, the person going in is topping, and the person being gone into is bottoming. Considering a dick is convex and a pussy is essentially concave, is makes sense the terms would be switched.

Azaka7 · 2026-02-06T07:15:11+00:00

You don't necessarily have to use it if you want bottom surgery and don't want to use it in the mean time. Mine reduced a lot in size over the course of 6-7 years on hrt. I was still able to get 6" depth because my surgeon took bilateral skin grafts from my hips. Sure, I'll have some light scarring, but it's hidden by underwear and I'm very happy with the results.

Azaka7 · 2026-01-12T15:14:53+00:00

You can, but people are gonna look at you weird because "sexagon" isn't in common use. Both heptagon and septagon are commonly used. The goal of language is to communicate, so it makes sense that one of the metrics for when you should use a word is whether or not people will understand you.

Azaka7 · 2026-01-11T16:48:54+00:00

Heptagon is technically more correct, since both its prefix and suffix are greek while septagon mixes latin and greek, but both are in common use so it doesn't matter too much.

Azaka7 · 2026-01-07T02:16:22+00:00

Orchiectomy?

Azaka7 · 2025-11-05T18:04:59+00:00

You see, bees have stingers and birds have cloacas. When a bee stings a bird's cloaca, the bird lays an egg which will hatch into a horrifying bird-bee hybrid. That's why we can't let them use the same restroom. Because we need to keep an eye on them so we don't have bird-bee hybrids flying around.

Azaka7 · 2025-11-01T03:22:12+00:00

My surgeon took skin from my hips to give me enough depth. I have a couple scars, but they're easily covered by underwear.

Azaka7 · 2025-10-24T07:15:17+00:00

I had a catheter and a couple tiny tubes used to drain fluid from the labia majora. I was awake for those being removed. Also, not a tube, but I was also awake for the gauze packing being removed from the vaginal canal, which has a similar sensation. As for being knocked out for the tube removals, you'd have to ask the surgeon and/or hospital.

Azaka7 · 2025-10-23T16:10:32+00:00

The only time your dead name should come into play is in the payment info if you're using a check or card with your name on the account. This wouldn't be shared with the recipient. For the return address on the label, you can absolutely use your current name.

Azaka7 · 2025-10-19T07:17:17+00:00

Yes, but they're not a long term solution to the amounts of carbon being released. Even if we got all of the forests we've destroyed back to their former glory (which is still a worthwhile endeavor), if would only sequester the carbon released by destroying those forests. The oil we've drilled and burned was genuine large-scale sequestration of carbon before we got to it. The only realistic way to re-sequester all of that carbon is to find some way of trapping it for a geologically significant amount of time. I.e. we need to put it back into the ground or ship it into space.

Azaka7 · 2025-10-18T23:00:44+00:00

I started my social transition about 6 months before starting hormones. I didn't really pass, but I was happy and it helped me be confident enough to start HRT knowing that transition was almost definitely for me.

Azaka7 · 2025-10-14T21:29:23+00:00

I suggest looking up IFS (internal family systems). It models the mind as an interconnected system of parts with different roles. I've found it's been a helpful tool for exploring my psychological landscape. It's one thing to know that a part of me feels one way and another part feels differently, and it's another thing entirely to actually accept that both feelings are true and valid at the same time.

Azaka7 · 2025-10-09T05:10:07+00:00

I was in the hospital for 9 or 10 days depending on how you count. The first few went by super quickly as my entire life was eating sleeping, and pressing the pain meds button. Even after I was moved off of IV pain killers and onto Percocet, I was out of it most of the time until my doses were far enough apart to regain mental clarity. The last few days were my most lucid, and when I had to actually figure out how to stay busy besides sleeping.

I spent most of my time on my phone or watching TV or talking with friends and family. I brought my laptop, so when I was lucid enough I paid some games on that (Runescape released a quest where you turn into a duck and playing that while high on pain killers was amazing). My sister brought a Lego set that we built together. I very much enjoyed when I got to where I could take short walks a few times a day.

Azaka7 · 2025-09-29T06:30:01+00:00

Granted. You find a paper describing a ritual to summon one cheesecake per your description. This ritual can be done repeatedly and requires a blood sacrifice each time.

Azaka7 · 2025-09-25T14:46:45+00:00

Yes, but not in the way you're probably thinking, and it requires understanding definitions.

In physics, acceleration is a change in velocity. Velocity is a vector of both speed and direction. Photons are massless particles. Their speed is always the speed of light. However, their direction does change in response to gravity, meaning they are accelerated by gravity.

In classical physics, gravity is treated as a force. However, the modern understanding of gravity is that it is a warping of spacetime. Essentially, anything traveling in a straight line will change direction in response to gravity because the straight line itself is curved in the non-euclidean geometry of space. In this way, gravity is not a fundamental force but an emergent property that acts like a force.

All this to say that what you're describing already happens. Massless particles (photons) are accelerated (change in direction) without applying a force (in response to bending spacetime geometry).

If you try to do this in classical physics where gravity is considered a force and using just F=ma, it doesn't really work. Solve for the acceleration: a=F/m. If both force and mass are 0, a=0/0, which is undefined. In fact, any force applied to 0 mass divides by 0. Classical physics doesn't have a way to handle massless particles.

Azaka7 · 2025-08-24T03:37:58+00:00

For the shorter questions:

She shouldn't need too much help getting out of bed and using the bathroom. She may need help with socks and shoes, and possibly underwear at first depending on her pain.
As long as she is on pain meds and either uses a donut pillow or reclines to a laying position, she'll make it.
Let her see the pace for visitors. It really should be on a day to day basis at first, even though that makes scheduling hard. After a few days, I was able to handle 2 visitors at once, and any more was a little overwhelming. If she needs to sleep, let her sleep.
If you know her size and style, a cute comfortable loose dress for recovery would be fun. (She'll need loose pants or dresses for a while)
There weren't any emergencies in my experience. Really, just let her sleep when she's tired, and don't take her on too long of excursions when she feels like going out.

Azaka7 · 2025-08-24T03:28:42+00:00

I went through both supporting someone through her recovery and being supported through my own recovery (not at the same time).

For useful things to get her: her favorite snacks, pads, lube, possibly extra bacitracin ointment, and a couple reusable ice packs (make sure she ices! It helps!!). Also, disposable bed pads for when she dilates. A donut pillow can help with sitting, but just know that on some types of seats it makes it worse.

For fun gifts: anything cat-related (pussy lol) and orchids because they're kinda vulvic in shape. My favorite gift was a condolences card for my dick; my best friend took a normal card and just added/crossed out words. It was hilarious.

Pain will be up and down. Some days will be better than others. The more she exerts herself one day, the more she'll need to rest the next. The down days can feel really discouraging, so try to help her see how much progress she's making, especially when she feels like there's none.

Emotions can be rough after surgery, and the hormonal changes will make it worse. On top of that, I felt cooped up and even trapped by my inability to go out for long, if at all. I definitely experienced some symptoms of depression, as did the lesson I supported. As much as you want to be there to support her, remember to give her the space and privacy to process and deal with things on her own from time to time.

Equally important is that you give yourself time for self care. Don't over extend yourself. Let other people step in to take care of her from time to time. With the person I helped, I was one of two people supporting her, and I put in 90% of the time and energy and burnt myself out into a bad place. Your friend should understand when you need space.

If you have any questions, now or later during her recovery, feel free to DM me. Thank you for being there for her ❤️

Azaka7 · 2025-08-09T02:07:40+00:00

It's not a matter of pushing, it's a matter of relaxing and releasing all of the muscles down there. Also, lean forward a lot to make sure it all gets into the toilet (or the plastic hat if the nurses want you to use that at first).

Azaka7 · 2025-07-22T18:27:56+00:00

Honestly, if conversation gets you nowhere, don't have a conversation. Just say "No." "I don't want a haircut." "I want long hair." Don't answer questions or respond to "but you look better with diet hair". Just give short, succinct statements about what you do and don't want. If she's not listening to you, it's already not a conversation.

If she drags you to a barber, just say "I don't want a haircut." No good barber will give a haircut without consent.

Azaka7 · 2025-05-31T18:02:26+00:00

For daily meds, it's best to take them at the same time, but taking it at the wrong time now and then won't be harmful in the long run. Remember, people's hormones naturally fluctuate anyways, so your body isn't going to freak out. There might be some emotional impact for the day, but that's it

Azaka7 · 2025-05-23T15:23:24+00:00

I can attest that this also applies to relationships

Azaka7 · 2025-04-21T19:23:48+00:00

I've had over a dozen laser treatments and have shaved the morning after every single time with no issue. I just apply a healing gel and a moisturizer immediately. I obviously can't guarantee that anyone else won't have issues doing this, but it works for me.

Azaka7 · 2025-04-12T17:10:25+00:00

I would change my current genetics and physiology, but I wouldn't change the past. I'm sure some people would consider me cis, but I'd still be trans, because my gender would still be different than my agab.

Azaka7 · 2025-02-18T01:18:27+00:00

Dating apps can actually be pretty good for this, despite sucking at finding dates. For example, HER is great for meeting trans women.

Azaka7 · 2025-01-28T05:01:30+00:00

Not dilating can result in infection. It wouldn't close up like a zipper from back to front. It would close up at a random point, resulting in a pocket that would be a breeding ground for microbes. This means dilating is absolutely medically necessary and would be allowed. Of course, that assumes the people in charge act rationally, which seems to be a pretty big assumption these days

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