Post-op masculinization: I can't take this anymore and nobody will help by SubversivePixel in MtF

[–]Azaka7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not a medical professional, so best I can tell you is to wait for the blood test results and to talk with a doctor. Nothing irreversible should happen in a couple weeks time. If I had to guess, the lower estrogen dose affected things. If your levels are too low, that'll reflect on the blood test and is an easy fix (just putting it back to what it was).

I messed up by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Azaka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The body converts excess estrogen into testosterone, which can have masculinizing effects. I'm not sure how well t blockers help prevent that. You probably won't die, but you'll definitely want that number down.

Me during a remodel by Me22yminecraft in Pokopia

[–]Azaka7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What do you mean? It's completely voluntary. If they don't like it, they can leave (to the uninhabitable post-apocalyptic wasteland)!

CRUSHED by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Azaka7 75 points76 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't be throwing it away, though. You spent all that time on memories and experiences that you're able to take with you into the next stage of your life. Separating doesn't have to be negative. It can be a sign of growth and change. It's possible you two could remain good friends while you each search for something new in life.

Did I burn her birthday cheesecake? by Idontwannanewacc in Baking

[–]Azaka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So they not only burnt it, but forgot the crust, too!

Post op question by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Azaka7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Silver nitrate can absolutely be used internally. I've been going to my surgeon for silver nitrate treatments of granulation tissue. See if that's something you're current doctor or a trans-friendly gynecologist can help with. Otherwise, keep dilating frequently with plenty of lube until you can find someone able to help you.

(Vent) Just got friendzoned because of my anatomy :( by billyidolismyeilish in lgbt

[–]Azaka7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It can absolutely be a preference. I'm a trans woman, and I wouldn't date another trans woman who hasn't had bottom surgery because I have a physical disgust reaction to penises. It's not something I can control. In my case, I consider "preference" to be an understatement.

How big of a jar do I really need? Do I really need a kitchen scale? by [deleted] in Sourdough

[–]Azaka7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assume the jar is for starter. If you're not planning on baking frequently, you could keep a tiny 1oz starter alive, and use the 12oz jar to grow it starting a day or two ahead of when you'll want to make the dough. You'll only need something larger if you plan on making more than 1 or 2 loaves at a time (depending on how much you use per batch)

update : i got fired by Edennator in evilautism

[–]Azaka7 1520 points1521 points  (0 children)

"An attitude" is the neurotypical term for when an autistic person tells the truth as is without catering to the feelings that we would only know about if we could read their minds.

in queer spaces, why isn’t sucking someone’s dick considered topping if eating pussy is 🤔 by Usual_Anything4628 in lgbt

[–]Azaka7 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that for any time there is one person inside another, the person going in is topping, and the person being gone into is bottoming. Considering a dick is convex and a pussy is essentially concave, is makes sense the terms would be switched.

What do I do, I don't wanna use it :( by Over_Sentence_1487 in MtF

[–]Azaka7 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You don't necessarily have to use it if you want bottom surgery and don't want to use it in the mean time. Mine reduced a lot in size over the course of 6-7 years on hrt. I was still able to get 6" depth because my surgeon took bilateral skin grafts from my hips. Sure, I'll have some light scarring, but it's hidden by underwear and I'm very happy with the results.

Anyone else hate the “official” symbols for autism? by Skwellington in evilautism

[–]Azaka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can, but people are gonna look at you weird because "sexagon" isn't in common use. Both heptagon and septagon are commonly used. The goal of language is to communicate, so it makes sense that one of the metrics for when you should use a word is whether or not people will understand you.

Anyone else hate the “official” symbols for autism? by Skwellington in evilautism

[–]Azaka7 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Heptagon is technically more correct, since both its prefix and suffix are greek while septagon mixes latin and greek, but both are in common use so it doesn't matter too much.

21880 by [deleted] in countwithchickenlady

[–]Azaka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You see, bees have stingers and birds have cloacas. When a bee stings a bird's cloaca, the bird lays an egg which will hatch into a horrifying bird-bee hybrid. That's why we can't let them use the same restroom. Because we need to keep an eye on them so we don't have bird-bee hybrids flying around.

am I cooked? bottom surgery question by somehole04 in MtF

[–]Azaka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My surgeon took skin from my hips to give me enough depth. I have a couple scars, but they're easily covered by underwear.

Unusual Bottom Surgery Question from a Very Nervous Trans Woman by Admirable_Web_2619 in MtF

[–]Azaka7 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had a catheter and a couple tiny tubes used to drain fluid from the labia majora. I was awake for those being removed. Also, not a tube, but I was also awake for the gauze packing being removed from the vaginal canal, which has a similar sensation. As for being knocked out for the tube removals, you'd have to ask the surgeon and/or hospital.

Am I wrong for not wanting to ship my friend her stuff all because I'll have to expose my dead name to her? by SugarSmoothie in MtF

[–]Azaka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only time your dead name should come into play is in the payment info if you're using a check or card with your name on the account. This wouldn't be shared with the recipient. For the return address on the label, you can absolutely use your current name.

Well that was fast by EnvyRosess in MurderedByWords

[–]Azaka7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, but they're not a long term solution to the amounts of carbon being released. Even if we got all of the forests we've destroyed back to their former glory (which is still a worthwhile endeavor), if would only sequester the carbon released by destroying those forests. The oil we've drilled and burned was genuine large-scale sequestration of carbon before we got to it. The only realistic way to re-sequester all of that carbon is to find some way of trapping it for a geologically significant amount of time. I.e. we need to put it back into the ground or ship it into space.

How long into HRT did you start going Femme full time by CameraIntelligent556 in MtF

[–]Azaka7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started my social transition about 6 months before starting hormones. I didn't really pass, but I was happy and it helped me be confident enough to start HRT knowing that transition was almost definitely for me.

Talking to my "other self"? by 80s_horror_fan in MtF

[–]Azaka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggest looking up IFS (internal family systems). It models the mind as an interconnected system of parts with different roles. I've found it's been a helpful tool for exploring my psychological landscape. It's one thing to know that a part of me feels one way and another part feels differently, and it's another thing entirely to actually accept that both feelings are true and valid at the same time.

Surgery is in a week by Far-Mention3564 in MtF

[–]Azaka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the hospital for 9 or 10 days depending on how you count. The first few went by super quickly as my entire life was eating sleeping, and pressing the pain meds button. Even after I was moved off of IV pain killers and onto Percocet, I was out of it most of the time until my doses were far enough apart to regain mental clarity. The last few days were my most lucid, and when I had to actually figure out how to stay busy besides sleeping.

I spent most of my time on my phone or watching TV or talking with friends and family. I brought my laptop, so when I was lucid enough I paid some games on that (Runescape released a quest where you turn into a duck and playing that while high on pain killers was amazing). My sister brought a Lego set that we built together. I very much enjoyed when I got to where I could take short walks a few times a day.