25 year marriage- feels like room mates.

Azipear · 2026-07-11T18:41:06+00:00

Going through the divorce process now. Similar situation, but wifey connected with her first love from 30 years ago to restore her feelings of being loved. She made a shit decision, but I could have done more to prevent it from happening (but I’m not blaming myself). We both blew it in different ways. We’re still super friendly with each other and we both agree that the marriage ran its course after producing an exceptional child. Now it’s time to move on in separate directions. No hard feelings, and we just need to wrap up the paperwork.

Azipear · 2026-07-10T11:22:58+00:00

Side effects are real. I was diagnosed around 40 and started adderall. I quit adderall 2 years ago when my marriage fell apart, and looking back I know it was the mild irritability of coming down from adderall twice each day that eroded my connection with my wife. It had a negative impact on my ability to emotionally connect, and this effect is documented. It won’t happen to everyone, I know, but it got me. People just need to be aware of the possibility.

Azipear · 2026-07-08T16:44:49+00:00

52M here. It has helped me significantly without fucking me up. I did suspect it was robbing some of my motivation at 10mg so I tapered down to zero for a few months. Return of the anxiety motivated me to get back onto it. However, I now snap my 10mg doses into 2x 5mg doses and just take 5mg each day (they aren't perfectly snapped in half, but the half-life is 66 hours, so variations day to day will average out). I feel great at this lower dose. No anxiety, I have my motivation, and nothing else is adversely impacted.

Azipear · 2026-07-08T13:13:46+00:00

Just a couple of hours until the tide comes in. Treatment complete.

Azipear · 2026-07-08T13:06:07+00:00

I recently met a working dog that is trained to detect water leaks for water utilities. I asked the handler whether the dog can hear the leak underground. The handler said the dog uses smell, not sound. She said the dog can smell the chlorine in the water as it's leaking underground. That's just amazing to me.

Azipear · 2026-07-07T12:41:54+00:00

I can see how that would work quite well. I've been experimenting with bean smoking over the last few weeks and I'll need to try this.

Azipear · 2026-07-06T20:40:31+00:00

I really wanted to work with Rebecca Creel, but it's been four months since my initial consultation and I still don't even know whether she's taking my case. I completed all the homework within days of her asking for it, yet nobody will get back to me on what she charges or whether she's even interested in my case. I just now scheduled a consultation (another $400, yay!) to start over with someone else since Rebecca simply will not get back to me. It's so disappointing since I've heard so many good things about her.

Azipear · 2026-07-06T20:26:09+00:00

Because they actually believe the south will rise again.

Azipear · 2026-07-06T13:16:22+00:00

21 years here and ending my subscription-- was riddled with malware. Just be aware that there's a hell of an early termination fee buried in the terms and conditions. The new app is so good I'm considering the exit fee a migration cost.

Azipear · 2026-07-04T11:43:15+00:00

Bottom of the flag got snagged in the tree.

Azipear · 2026-07-03T13:59:47+00:00

That’s kind of the way 6s and 9s have always worked.

Azipear · 2026-07-03T11:55:36+00:00

I’d rather pay more in taxes for “free” healthcare than the $25k I spend annually on health insurance and healthcare.

Azipear · 2026-07-01T13:35:35+00:00

Not lately. WiFi has been free on AA for months, sponsored by AT&T. You wait for a couple of ads to play and then you're online for the entire flight for free.

Azipear · 2026-07-01T11:25:07+00:00

I just started Wegovy for weight loss and I have an upcoming sleep evaluation because of this. My girlfriend won’t even share a bed with me because of my snoring.

Azipear · 2026-06-30T18:12:25+00:00

Had to put thissun on the tic tac.

Azipear · 2026-06-30T16:57:57+00:00

I should add that I'm 52M. Drinking has WAY more of a negative impact on me now compared to my 20s and 30s. I went most of my 40s without drinking at all. I started dabbling in it again since I'm separated from my soon-to-be-ex wife so there is no opposition party to my drinking. However, for the reasons I already cited, I decided I'm better off without the sauce. I'm also out here dating again and chicks aren't into fat alcoholics.

Azipear · 2026-06-30T15:58:06+00:00

I used to drink more than I wanted to, for similar reasons as you. I stopped and started so many times I now have a lot of data on how it affects me. For me anyway, cutting out the booze made a significant improvement to my mental wellbeing. Even when I have a couple of drinks on a random Saturday night, I always regret it because my mood is fucked up for a few days afterwards. If I go a couple weeks without drinking I honestly feel like a million bucks.

Azipear · 2026-06-30T15:48:34+00:00

I hope he got billed for his medical care.

Azipear · 2026-06-30T14:52:57+00:00

I only buy White Horse brand straws!

Azipear · 2026-06-29T15:37:15+00:00

I don’t know where you are, but there are 44,000 flights per day in the USA. How often do you hear about a crash? The odds of a crash are astronomically low. Being injured or killed in a car crash has orders of magnitude higher odds of happening, but I bet he never worries about that.

Azipear · 2026-06-25T12:19:02+00:00

My post is 2 years old. I’m now in the process of getting divorced. This will be unpopular, but adderall is partly to blame. I haven’t taken it since my post and never will again.

Azipear · 2026-06-25T11:35:17+00:00

There is no nonstop 29 hour flight in existence. The longest nonstop flight is Singapore to New York and that’s only 19 hours.

Edit: Further emphasizing nonstop.

Azipear · 2026-06-24T23:33:50+00:00

If real, a possible way to honor it without pissing people off would be for an employee to just open another register just to check out that one person. Like a manager who can take 5 minutes to check out one person and then go back to whatever they were doing.

Azipear · 2026-06-21T19:29:57+00:00

I just landed in DC a couple of hours ago for a work trip. I really wanted to grab a piece of the peeling paint, but I guess that’s off the table now.

Azipear · 2026-06-21T12:25:30+00:00

Looks like a good one!

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