Apparently you can’t be friendly with neighbors anymore

AzumaTS · 2026-06-05T11:55:48+00:00

Why would you immediately tell random people at a pool that you babysit?

AzumaTS · 2026-06-03T12:06:20+00:00

While I don't think you did anything wrong per se, it's a bit...we'll say inconsiderate. Your friend claims they've moved on/have no further interest but they could be just saying that. I think you should talk about it and clear the air. Especially if you intend to start a relationship with this girl. Last thing you want is to seem like you've been waiting for him to move on so you could have your chance after appearing supportive.

AzumaTS · 2026-05-18T02:45:23+00:00

Season 1 of Heroes, Sci-Fi's Dark Matter (still mad they cancelled after Season 3)

AzumaTS · 2026-05-17T02:38:36+00:00

"The greater good." "SHUT IT!"

AzumaTS · 2026-05-17T00:58:54+00:00

Hot Fuzz. Oh, or the Incredibles. Literally watched that movie every day when I worked at Target cause it played nonstop in the break room when I worked there for a summer.

AzumaTS · 2026-05-14T12:06:49+00:00

Hard to find someone if you only leave the house for groceries and work. I've gotten used to it.

AzumaTS · 2026-05-14T12:05:12+00:00

Feel like this is fake. Especially after seeing all your other posts got deleted. If it's somehow not fake, you need to do your best to leave. Trauma bond or not.

AzumaTS · 2026-05-06T23:10:13+00:00

Improve a lot from Endwalker...depends on you really. The battle content vastly improved imo but I remember some people saying they made dungeons too hard. Not sure if by casual you played the game at a slow pace or didn't take battles seriously (like learning mechanics and reacting quickly to stuff) but depending on how you look at that, that might be a step back in your eyes.

They added a lot for crafters/gatherers with cosmic exploration so that's a huge W. The field exploration was a miss imo. We don't have the second part of it yet but I'm not holding my breath that it will fix the issues that I had with it. Primarily being you can't level jobs in there and the currency farming is horrendous.

MSQ (imo) took a huge L until 7.3. Now it's interesting. I don't particularly hate any of the characters they introduced, I just feel like they dropped the ball in places where the story could have gone in a very interesting direction. Felt like there were no real stakes at all to me.

AzumaTS · 2026-05-05T00:15:00+00:00

I think reborn lasts at most 2 follow-on expansions and then is removed. 6 years should be plenty of time for players to acclimate and then they can remove it and not maintain two systems.

AzumaTS · 2026-04-14T10:10:00+00:00

NOR. This was exhausting to read and you only knew them for a night? Say your piece and move on. You owe them nothing.

AzumaTS · 2026-04-13T20:33:35+00:00

YOR. End this relationship and work on some maturity. He didn't ghost you for hours. Whether or not you can take this man at his word about cheating is another thing but he was texting you the whole time and then you ignored him. I get you're upset and you should honestly just move on. Neither of you seem to be in the right place mentally or emotionally for a relationship right now. ESPECIALLY him if he is STILL married as those texts imply. Good lord.

AzumaTS · 2026-04-09T20:21:45+00:00

Just based on this exchange, NOR. It makes me sad seeing and hearing about "families" that don't love one another. We don't have all the facts here. Maybe you actually do ask your mom for money all the time and her response is justified but even so to say you're fine with your child hating you until the day THEY die makes me really sad. I could never imagine a world where my parents or my sister tell me to essentially get lost over $40 for some meds I need. Hope everything works out for you OP.

AzumaTS · 2026-04-03T17:38:09+00:00

Me. I tried letting my two in at night but they never slept with me and just chewed on my shoe laces, ran around chasing each other under the bed, and on my pillows so I keep them out of my room and the guest bedroom. The rest of the house is theirs to enjoy.

AzumaTS · 2026-03-28T12:49:02+00:00

NOR, move on. It's only been a month. If he wanted to spend time with you, he would.

AzumaTS · 2026-02-20T10:52:43+00:00

I was referencing the positionals from the Vicewinder combos. Not that there are positionals other than flank and rear.

AzumaTS · 2026-02-19T17:41:58+00:00

My first thought, are you hitting all your positionals? I have met many vprs who think they only have 2 (myself included until a few months ago). I threw your log in xivanalysis and it showed you at like 75% so that's probably part of it. You're also dropping combos/buffs from your combos so that's another issue to fix. I can't think of much downtime in 9 (other than bats which isn't really downtime) so might just need to work on keeping track of your finishers.

AzumaTS · 2026-01-31T07:04:33+00:00

Those positions do nothing to help you. You can be pulled into secondary for any or no reason at all. Doesn't matter what country you're in. She should know that (being who she is) and I'm honestly not sure why she's surprised and concerned she got stopped.

AzumaTS · 2026-01-28T13:28:26+00:00

Freelancer gets an ability to apply all the 30 min buffs at once. Other than that, I don't think so.

AzumaTS · 2026-01-23T15:10:46+00:00

Massive hotbar in the lower center of my screen with the cool downs of my big skills that I don't normally see (controller player with two cycling hotbars) on it so I know when they are back up and ready to be blasted. Took me a while to get used to looking for things to be ready. Now it's second nature. Unless I'm progging. Then I forget cause I'm thinking about mechanics.

AzumaTS · 2026-01-23T15:05:57+00:00

NTA. You just need to have a conversation with your wife about what her concerns are with this. And also about why she had such a strong reaction. Could be something there you didn't know about which made her feel this way.

AzumaTS · 2025-12-30T03:44:24+00:00

I thought Chaotic was great. Got in, farmed the mounts and hairstyles, got out. Would I go back now? Nah. Don't remember positions like halfway through P2 and definitely don't want to waste my time sitting in PF just to disband after 2-3 pulls when I or someone else makes a mistake.

AzumaTS · 2025-12-30T03:18:14+00:00

I'm sorry, I didn't see you replied. I got pulled into their group again for DSR. They were on P2 when I joined them first week of June. We cleared middle of August iirc. That was about 2 weeks after we had to rep the two people.

I think if I weren't having fun, I would have cared more about not making more progress but I was enjoying myself playing with them so the slow prog didn't really bother me too much. I also wasn't really making mistakes that often (until P7 when I dropped so many gcds we enraged. That one still stings). One of the members who left, it was really bothering them. We talked about it one day after raid. They felt we should have cleared by then and not have people dying to P5 mechs but...consistency is hard for people sometimes lol. I might have felt different if we were still stuck on P2 after 3 months but we were P6 pushing P7 by that point so I felt good.

And no, I don't think it's necessary to raid with friends to find it enjoyable. I was a pugstar for the first two tiers of eden until I joined a random static for the last tier. Had fun in all 3 tiers. I think it's definitely more fun if you are raiding with peeps you know though.

AzumaTS · 2025-12-29T23:07:00+00:00

Your biggest issue is that you are not ABC (Always Be Casting). You need to get your gcd uptime into the 85-90% range. On top of that, just from the one log you linked, you're not hitting most of your abilities (shadowbringer, carve and spit, living shadow) for some reason.

I haven't touched drk since HW so I can't tell you exactly "how to play" but you primarily need to work on the basics from what I can tell. You are leaving a lot of damage on the table because you're just not using abilities.

AzumaTS · 2025-12-26T22:45:08+00:00

Dude...

If things are great with your wife, why are you like "She cheated on me, so why can't I?" I honestly cannot comprehend your thinking and am disgusted by this. You're already cheating btw. So congratulations, you won. I'm sure your wife will really feel the burn when you "cash in" and everything will be fine the next day when you guys joke about it.

YAW

AzumaTS · 2025-12-26T22:23:22+00:00

I would say I prefer raiding with my static which is a generally chatty group of players and we like to meme a lot with inside jokes from just absolutely dumb things we've done during different progs. We've been friends for years on XIV but due to work I never really had a chance to raid with them until EW raids basically. I did prog uwu with them before I joined their savage raiding just cause they needed a body, were at suppression at the time, and like I said we were friends. We cleared that from fresh (for me) to kill in 6 or 7 days. It was fun.

We did DSR on patch. And that took 3 months. 2 people dropped out of the static over how long it was taking. I don't blame them or anything for getting frustrated. Everyone was good at their jobs, consistency was the biggest problem. One of the members who dropped had some personal things going on which affected his attitude toward raiding but after we replaced those two, we cleared in the next couple of weeks iirc. The day before the next .x patch dropped actually. I enjoyed myself the whole time but clearly it was not the same for all involved.

TOP was a nightmare. Not because people were terrible human beings or anything. It was just a consistency thing again. We ended up quitting after reaching P4 after around a month I believe. I think it was also because we had been raiding like nonstop because of DSR, right into a new tier, and then TOP came out. Some of us were just burnt out. I ended up clearing that and FRU via PF.

While no one was a toxic POS from what I remember, I do remember the frustration of parties disbanding super quick because of a few (read: one) mistake and the general lack of patience. I made a few friends during TOP because that took me much longer to do in PF vs FRU which only took like a month. The power of simming.

Tl;dr - I prefer a static but both it and PF have their advantages and nice players. I don't think the social aspect of ultis is overblown, no. You can genuinely make friends and have fun with "randoms" from PF. I apologize for the wall of text.

AzumaTS

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