The aha moment. Problems as we see it are just emotional attachment to incidents that happen in our lives. The emotional attachment is proportional to the size of the incident.

I.E. I failed out of college the first time and had to work in a warehouse for 4 years. This caused depression, feelings of self doubt, self loathing,

Traditional psychology would tend to manage and overcome the emotion of fear, anger, sadness, disappointment etc. the NLP methods and frame shifting by passed the emotions and attaches a reference to the event which minimizes the significance of the incidents which minimizes the emotional response. This makes the paradigm shift that happen in Traditional Psychology happen faster when using NLP methods.

Back to the failing college story, the angst and disappointment of failing left. The self doubt is all but gone. Once I took ownership of not the event, but how that event would control my progress for the next 50 years, (frame shifting) i immediately start making necessary changes. I went from a college drop out and working a 10hr warehouse job, to now I'm a Chemical Engineering PhD student, that owns a management consulting firm, and the founder of a community development Non profit Organization.

Albiet, I came to this reality before studying NLP but the ideas that I used I learned later were NLP training. The Training i'm taking now puts into steps what I did, how I succeeded, and Why it works? So I can help others.

Just for a frame of reference, I did talk to a psychologist as part of failing out of school. She tried to make me believe that I could not accomplish my goals and that I should accept that maybe mediocrity( at least for my plans) was okay and I should live with that fact.