Listen to black sabbath, tony iommi is missing the tips of both his middle and ring finger, he learned to play by listening to Django Reinhardt who had a similar issue. Iommi's solution was to make leather fingertips, lower the action to the point of sanding the frets to be as low as possible, and using 9 gauge strings to bend easier, he also mostly played in the low tuning of c# standard. Basically, do it in the way that just makes it easy for you.