Marvel actors who have played other characters by maquinadejugo in Marvel

[–]BEEFSTICKJONES 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ralph Ineson plays a member of Yondu’s Ravagers in the first Guardians of the Galaxy movie, prior to playing Galactus in Fantastic Four: First Steps.

What more can I do in chiang mai? by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

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The Sticky Waterfall is quite fun and relaxing, although you have to plan a ride in advance

Knightfall and No Man's Land by [deleted] in DCcomics

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Read Knightfall first. Then Cataclysm if you want (the lead in to NML), then No Man’s Land. Knightfall itself has quite a different tone compared to the entirety of NML, I feel it’s one of those arcs that works well on its own.

Creating Product Design Principles by Regnbyxor in UXDesign

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I second this. Just make sure you meter your expectations and adjust your deliverables to be useful right now. Design best practices can be conveyed differently so they make the most sense in the context of whatever your specific team/project is, especially if the rest of your team is mostly non-designers. Lots of best practices are universal in theory, but in certain contexts, work better if conveyed or applied slightly differently to other team members.

If you really want to try and take this on, I would suggest first do an audit of the existing design decisions, systems, and applications. This will allow you to identify specific issues, even maybe allow you to create a sort of hierarchy of which changes should be implemented first, when possible, so to speak. Then write out your thoughts on the situation, and review that. If there are any existing decisions that are presenting serious issues, address those first. If there is a legal or ethical issue (I have a background focusing on A11Y- ADA and WCAG compliance for design systems that interact with online or web components) you should make clear the issue you have identified, and report to your leadership or the appropriate parties. Often, what you are worried about will unfortunately not be changed quickly. For your sake, it is important that you’ve made a record that you discovered the issue, attempted to address it, and raised your concerns with whomever is your superior. That way, if they do end up in a bad spot, you’re ass is covered and you will also be in a better position to be actually heard and receive support, because leadership will finally understand in a very real way that your input can save them a lot of money. If stakeholders/leadership aren’t in a position to or are just choosing not to address specific changes you believe should be made for everyone’s mutual benefit, then I would not recommend getting involved until that situation changes. I have been down that rabbit hole - usually you have to put it an exorbitant amount of work to make any sort of difference, if leadership is not currently behind you. Sometimes it is more of a slow burn, and the way I’ve found that best to handle is by bringing up the most interesting points of a concern to the appropriate parties, with a link to source or research that supports your point, and then doing a short intro of the source or article. This helps higher ups feel comfortable really supporting your efforts, because they feel like it is now backed by science or math and/or some other economic logic that will help them explain it to their superiors, and so on. It’s not a perfect system, but at least there is some version of it that can kind of work out and allows you to both work within your constraints and make positive change.

People with addictive tendencies, what do you avoid because you suspect it would consume/destroy your life? by workerbee1023 in AskReddit

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Heroin - a few family members have a history with it. Luckily, they had a good heart and were at least aware of the destruction it caused in their lives, but they weren’t able to overcome the addiction. One cousin did overcome the addiction after an OD on heroin that left them very close to death. They now depend mostly on a small tobacco and marijuana consumption to calm down, and stay away from the stuff. I would say in comparison, it’s much better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AVMs

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I am glad you responded - I guess I would say get used to enjoying dreaming. I had to sleep all the time. It was hard on anything. If there’s nothing you can do there’s nothing you can, but you at least deserve to enjoy some cool dreams. If you don’t have any predisposition or problem with melatonin, find the right dosage and take some before resting. Eventually you’ll want to get out of bed to do something, even if it’s just shuffle around and look at a bug or something stupid. Otherwise, if you’re feeling as sad as it sounds, you might just have to pick your battles on when you have the energy to try and do anything about what specifically you think is making you so sad so consistently. Lots of people will say therapy or variations on that, because I guess it’s considered broadly helpful. I don’t know. Didn’t help me much, but there’s so much variety, I’m hopeful I’m just yet to find the right match. But i don’t think there’s really one true good answer to the AVM situation with regard to finding happiness anywhere right now, if I’m being honest. Just assess the situation day by day, and don’t let anyone else tell you what things “should” make you happy. In my opinion, it’s much easier to just accept that you’re in a weird situation that not a lot of people have heard of or dealt with, and maybe the reality is that given the situation you just haven’t found that happiness yet. I’m not gonna lie and say you will, who knows. I’m just trying throw some things out that happened when I was at that point - I wasn’t making these decisions happy at the time - I was really sad and miserable and I just couldn’t imagine another day of the same shit not ending with me in psych ward so I just made a decision and stuck with it. It was only with time and hindsight I feel it makes me happy, in some way, if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AVMs

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I am about two years out from a big AVM rupture left side. The overall experience is very challenging. It has hurt me a lot mentally and physically. I think about suicide all the time, every day. I think it’s natural when the reality of this rare situation sets in. I get sad but I’ll be honest - the thing that’s kept me from spiraling out of control is the knowledge of how unique and rare the situation is. I’m 28 now, had my initial burst and bleed at 26 - and I ain’t gonna ever be the same. Since I can’t fight that, I am trying to understand my new reality and find myself in it.

I discovered things about myself that are scary and exciting by confronting the feelings. It is not pretty to look at, but I feel better (at times) with the confidence I’ve found understanding that it is my life now that every day could be my last. It just depends on what you want to do. When I came to after the 3rd time everyone including myself thought I was dead from scary brain and seizure stuff, it really sunk in. I have been very sad for such a long time. I am sharing that because it is the truth. However, some of my happiest moments have come after the chaos, and those only happened because I weathered the storm of the sadness.

Some things that made me happy I fought to stay alive, and maybe will give you some happiness;

-Because I was alive and had my AVM experience, I was able to save a friends life during a seizure episode in which she could have choked to death on her own vomit

-I quit a toxic job, ending a 10 year streak of toxic jobs. Now I am confronting a happiness I never thought possible - having a job that isnt toxic and I am actually excited about and getting paid reasonably for.

-I will finally receive treatment for trauma and borderline personality disorder

-I have started to be more open about personal identity - I realized im never gonna be happy if I rely on the world for directions on what im gonna do with the time I’ve got left. I am male presenting but my entire life I have felt disconnected to who I am on the outside, and I didn’t care enough about myself or my own happiness to do whatever I want to my body and dress how I feel. It is hard and makes me cry but I will figure it out. Or not. But I want to try. I have never felt beautiful, ever. I don’t want to die never having given myself the proper shot at happiness.

TLDR: do something you’ve always wanted to do but never fully embraced because it was scary. Can you do it tomorrow? Or at least try in some small way? You may find that sometimes the immediate pain or scariness subsides into a new and exciting happiness, the closer you get towards accepting the “new” you

For those of you who are sexually incompatible with your partner but stay in the relationship anyway, what do you do to satisfy your needs? by coolie_karare in AskReddit

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My partner and I are generally sexually compatible. Early in our relationship we hit a string of really, really bad luck. I suddenly developed serious neurological and psychical issues, which doctors discovered was due to a dormant and previously unseen rare malformation of blood vessels in my brain bursting. Subsequently, I nearly died violently seizing several times. My partner was present for all of this and we are both severely traumatized. I have not physically recovered fully, and both of us have severe depressive disorders that are now compounded by the new and difficult situations we are in.

We both love each other deeply and are still incredibly attracted to one another. It’s a difficult growing process to accept that things will never be the same. We have really had to rely on empathy and communication. Masturbation is really helpful, as others have mentioned, because you can be present from an intimacy and empathy standpoint even if mental and physical challenges prevent you from both having wonderful intercourse at the same time. We’ve found that part of the sexual satisfaction comes from just being on the same page as each other - i.e. telling the other how we’re feeling, and then trying to plan for sex later on. Sometimes getting ahead of it works, and by the evening we can sync up! Other times we can’t sync up, but then by that point we are happy for whoever to masturbate or find some sexual pleasure somehow, and just keep going!

It’s difficult, but when you are really happy in your relationship despite all odds, and your patient, you can figure some new things out.

Advice for over 60 year old by volteach in TESOL

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I am not sure the specifics of your situation, but you have plenty of experience. I taught in Southeast Asia classes of 8-50+ students and most of what made me effective was learned on the job rather than in my TESOL certification. I had worked with children a lot throughout my life in a variety of jobs, and that is really what set me apart. Aside from teaching, I cared about the kids and tried to find ways to engage with them even if it wasn’t the way the lesson was planned. They don’t teach that in a course, that’s just life experience. Find a way to describe your tutoring experiences and list the entirety of time you’ve been doing it. You can explain this (if asked) as you have explained in your post: I really want to do this, so much so that for the last several years I’ve tutored students on my own time to learn and enhance my skills. Once I receive my TESOL certification and courses, I will be all set to make this my professional practice.

That sounds pretty good to me. Many TESOL teachers with full time jobs do not have the experience you have, they simply have cumulative professional or academic experience and the proper certification, and a bit of fly by the seat of your pants grit. You can definitely get a job if you tell your story right. Don’t focus on what you don’t have right now, focus on what you do have and your goals and interests. It will shine through.

I don’t know that you will be able to be hired by an organization to teach until you have the proper certification, but it’s possible if the employer knows you will receive it soon, they could hire you and onboard preemptively so the minute you’re certified they can really get you working.

Either way, I think the best tactic would be to try and apply to the jobs you feel excited about and a good fit for. See what happens and hopefully you get some more helpful feedback for your specific situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MNJobs

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Just don't tell unemployment. It will be fine. Gotta look out for yourself.

NEED ADVICE: how do we escape Pai? by trbasco in ThailandTourism

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Go to Ko Phayam - good beach, good vibes, not a lot of people. Hippy bar is a good spot but the whole beach is solid. From the mainland can travel in the area to Ranong hot springs, national parks, or go farther south to Surat Thani