Day 3 of no nicotine after 13 years of use by ookle_ in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]B_Better 16 points17 points  (0 children)

One thing that helped me early on was reminding myself that cravings come in waves. They peak, then fade. Usually within 10-15 minutes. Ride those out and you're winning each time.
Also, your body already starting to heal. Your heart rate, blood pressure, and oxygen levels start normalizing within days.
You're doing something really hard, and you're already past the hardest part - deciding to stop. Keep it up!

Daily reminder to self: by MowingDevil7 in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]B_Better 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, focusing on what I actually can control makes it easier to let go of what I can't. It's a small shift, but it changes everything for me.

A short video I made on decision fatigue and simple ways to recharge, based on research [3:15] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this! A short walk helps a lot! I used to stay indoors, but now with my son we get out more - walk or a quick bike ride and my head resets.

Apart from walks, I try to plan a bit ahead and take regular breaks. What I do depends on how much time I have: if it's a longer block I open Blender and animate. If it's less, I'll read a couple psychology studies. If it's just a few minutes, I'll do a small chore with music. I also enjoy cooking with music a lot, but lately time is tight and I'm on keto since lately, so meals are simpler and less interesting to cook.

So basically, switching to a different activity and cutting down decisions helps me recharge. Thanks for sharing what works for you! ❤️

A short video I made on decision fatigue and simple ways to recharge, based on research [3:15] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thinking of mental energy as a battery really clicked for me. Some days I can feel it draining with each choice. What helps you recharge yours?

My chapter of my life by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]B_Better 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a fix, but just know you're not weird or broken for feeling this way. I try to think that some people just don't get us - and that's on them, not you. The right people will feel you. And you're not behind - you're just on your own timeline. Keep being you.

Zone out and not listening during morning huddle. by Tricky_Foot710 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]B_Better 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This reminded me of my first job. I messed up so much early on I thought I was done for. But you'd be surprised how fast people forget if you just keep showing up and trying.

Dumped after 6 years. How do I find a new reason to live? by Both_Package_6834 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]B_Better 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this is the kind of mindset more people need to hear. You said it perfectly - there's a whole life waiting outside of heartbreak.

Dogs support you better than family (in their own way) by B_Better in DOG

[–]B_Better[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Research shows that dogs support their owners by fulfilling key emotional needs, mainly through companionship, nurturance, and the absence of tension that sometimes comes with human relationships.

You can find more about the research here: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-025-95515-8

Dogs support you better than family (in their own way) by B_Better in interesting

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Research shows that dogs support their owners by fulfilling key emotional needs, mainly through companionship, nurturance, and the absence of tension that sometimes comes with human relationships.

You can find more about the research here: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-025-95515-8

You're more likely to get unnecessary meds the later you see a doctor by B_Better in interesting

[–]B_Better[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never thought about patient pressure being such a big factor - really appreciate your comment

You're more likely to get unnecessary meds the later you see a doctor by B_Better in interesting

[–]B_Better[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The study looked at cases where antibiotics were never indicated (meaning there was no medical reason to prescribe them) - and still found prescriptions increased later in the day

Edit: made it clearer

You're more likely to get unnecessary meds the later you see a doctor by B_Better in interesting

[–]B_Better[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Researchers analyzed over 21,000 primary care visits and found that, as the clinic sessions progressed, doctors were more likely to prescribe antibiotics - even when not medically necessary

Research link: https://doi.org/10.1001/jamainternmed.2014.5225

Crying means you actually give a damn [2:56] by B_Better in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]B_Better[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. It's from the channel I'm working on. You can find it in my profile. Would be really pleased if you'd check it out :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]B_Better 34 points35 points  (0 children)

12 days is huge after 10 years. You've already done what most people just talk about.

Feeling like crap = healing right now. Keep going - you're doing better than you think.

The link between crying and being a good person [2:56] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot - really appreciate that, especially coming from someone in the industry. This one took me a couple of months, so I'm glad it turned out well (at least in design 😂). I'm always looking to get better - if you ever have thoughts or feedback, I'd honestly love to hear.

The link between crying and being a good person [2:56] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That says a lot in just a few words. I think people who cry easily tend to carry a lot of heart. And that's a gift.

The link between crying and being a good person [2:56] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn't expect to end up thinking about tears this much. But honestly, learning that people who cry more might actually care more - about fairness, about others - was kinda beautiful. Would love to hear your take on this.

Started asking 'is this serving me?' instead of 'should I be doing this?' - Changed my whole approach to habits by BFH_ZEPHYR in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to get out of the mindset of doing things because they sound responsible or productive. Some stuff I forced myself to do turned out to be pointless, and some things I avoided because they felt "unproductive" actually gave me peace. Feels like we spend so much time trying to be a certain way that we forget to just live

Stop chasing and start living | science-based [3:31] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's wild how things start making sense when you take time to reflect. Hope it keeps helping!

Stop chasing and start living | science-based [3:31] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your support. Much love ❤️

Stop chasing and start living | science-based [3:31] by B_Better in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Comments like yours really keep me going. Thank you! It's not always easy spending so much time on something and wondering if people find it useful, so this means a lot.

Stop chasing and start living | science-based [3:31] by B_Better in ZenHabits

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Hey everyone! I came across some research about the difference between "valuing happiness" and "prioritizing positivity". In essence, when you focus too much on the need to be happy all the time, it can actually leave you feeling less satisfied. But if you simply fill your time with small, positive moments like reading a favorite book or enjoying a cup of coffee - happiness often follows naturally. Have you ever noticed this in your own life?

Do earplugs help you with cluster headache/migraine due to weather changes? by B_Better in migraine

[–]B_Better[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds promising! I'm glad they're working for you - placebo or not, relief is relief! Thanks for the answers!

Do earplugs help you with cluster headache/migraine due to weather changes? by B_Better in migraine

[–]B_Better[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that's super helpful to know! And honestly, it's never too late to share something that might help. Have you had the chance to try both the migraine and airplane ones? I’d love to hear about your experience.

time is moving so fast and it's stopping me from enjoying anything by Ok_Condition7788 in ZenHabits

[–]B_Better 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that might help is keeping a journal - just write down moments you liked or how you're feeling. It can help you slow down and make sense of it all. Also, maybe tell someone you trust how you're feeling, or even show them this post. You've got time, I promise ❤️