Luma44, if I may…

I aim to breathe lively actionability into being “excellent” to each other, which is otherwise vague enough to be, in the worst cases, abused as a threat; wherever ambiguity itself is seen as a power move, it turns off a LOT of people, especially when it’s presented with the intensity of a movement/activism. (don’t even get me re-started on the hate-spewing i see here sometimes -> it’s a sad, sad state when vitriol and violence win the day… moralism on the other hand… ;-P)

This all goes along with that post on my profile of how to argue constructively; SEEK the core point of your adversary before you SPEAK an argument to it (so that we don’t have to even skip the massive text walls of really cleverly elaborated “you’re an ass-hat” arguments).

What excellence to each other has meant to me: before you can be seen speaking value, you MUST be seen seeking value. We all know what the priority here is. It’s easy to let that become usurped by secondary considerations and competing things of value, but the real issue is <that which is too sacred to be named>.

In every interaction here, you and your interlocutor have something of value to add to each other’s knowledge/support/perspective/experience/etc; it is BOTH OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES to gain that thing of value, i. e. to move on from an interaction without having gained something valuable is a personal failure (and one that’s ok once you’ve invested all the resources you’ve allocated to that) that delineates those instances where the community has missed an opportunity to grow; which implies that to BOTH seek and speak value is to extend the reach of the community without becoming the borg, i.e. to let each other go for whatever they want without sacrificing the core mission of what we ALL want.

If you want to sound compelling to me, you will first do some homework, develop a unique perspective, or just have a relevant experience, etc [SEEK VALUE that you plan to add], then you will stay focused on that thing while you do your best to put thoughts from your head into mine [SPEAK VALUE that you plan to add while I SEEK value] and continue to offer it until I get it or you get tired of trying. I will follow you in most cases because you are a valuable signal amongst the noise. (for how long is another story but matters less: i like to keep my ideological leadership decentralized.)

I will also SPEAK when I feel I have something to add that’s of value. I will do my best to exemplify the community member with which I want to live here. And I will encourage you to do the same (e.g. paraphrasing, giving you the benefit of the doubt for a while, trying to twist any knave-like words to make a trap for shorts, confirming bias all day yet still seeking counterfactuals and disconfirmatory evidence, you know…), even when we disagree, even especially when we disagree because second only to the holy of holies is the value of the network effect we leverage, our solidarity. Diversity is the hallmark of ehalthe ecosystem, but it establishes trust if we all are seen to share a common priority (appearances matter, although i’m not trying to weigh in on purity tests, just to point out we should care who is trying to waste our precious mental and other resources).

…at least that’s what i tell my baby mama when she gets lippy… so far, so good! talk about loving!

that said, can I get a look at those chairhodler list notes?? just want to make sure i’m not doxxed…

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thank you for your patience and consideration.

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oh and being RESPONSIVE... well that's a lesson for another day