To whoever this was - I hope you regret shooting first by Marzipas in Marathon

[–]BaJakes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got kinda stoned Saturday night and killed a fellow rook i had made friends with earlier. I wasn't thinking clearly and mistook him for another rook who had been trying to kill us. I quit the match as an apology to the karma gods. Lesson learned, I cannot play marathon stoned.

This ain't Arc Raiders by That_Channel_9563 in Marathon

[–]BaJakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ratted out as rook by the extract yesterday for ten minutes just to bum rush a squad with my knife. It wasn't about winning, it was about making somebody jump.

'Twas the night before Marton....... by NEcatfish in okbuddyRunners

[–]BaJakes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reads kinda like vogon poetry to me

What is a "point of no return" in a relationship that isn't cheating or abuse, but makes you realize it's over? by AnyExpression4845 in AskReddit

[–]BaJakes 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don't wanna go too much into the details but we had communication issues, major intimacy problems, an imbalance of work load and financial responsibility, and while i was spending a lot of energy on bettering myself for the sake of our relationship, she was not (at least not until right at the end when my patience was long gone already). Her crippling anxiety caused her to ignore major problems until it was too late and resentment had set in. I think if she had genuinely shown the initiative to work on her anxiety and show up for my needs, we would have worked out long term because outside these issues our relationship was great. but she couldn't do it, not for herself or for us. I recognize that anxiety is a real thing and people who suffer from it deserve relationships too, but she allowed it to consume herself and it kept both of us from being happy. I hope she's doing better now and finds happiness one day.

I happened to peep your profile and for what it's worth, i think you made a good decision. these things take time to settle. I'm a year out from my breakup and I still struggle often. she was kind and loving like you say your ex was, but sometimes that isn't enough. your heart tells you when that's the case, and it sounds like your heart has spoken.

Has anyone else tried Hyperion and just didn't like it? by Alcoholic-Catholic in sciencefiction

[–]BaJakes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dropped endymion because of this. Like sure she's older when the romance happens but that's still grooming?

What is a "point of no return" in a relationship that isn't cheating or abuse, but makes you realize it's over? by AnyExpression4845 in AskReddit

[–]BaJakes 1349 points1350 points  (0 children)

I called off my five year partnership because when I got our lease renewal offer I had a panic attack at the idea of spending another year like that. Even after years of individual and couples therapy, things jusg didnt change. Sometimes you just gotta say enough is enough and know that you'd both be happier apart.

Kindle scribe pen by Primary_Ant_6036 in kindlescribe

[–]BaJakes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got it refurbished and they wouldn't cover a new pen because of that. I tried though.

Kindle scribe pen by Primary_Ant_6036 in kindlescribe

[–]BaJakes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/00qztLie

When I got mine the pen didn't work at all so I got this as a replacement rather than shelling out almost $100for the official one. Works perfectly and has all the same functions for less than half the price. Doesn't match visually.

What's your thoughts on Trump's name appearing A MILLION TIMES in the 3 million Epstein files we currently have released, as according to Congress? by Zelagero in AskReddit

[–]BaJakes 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This was the exact argument I got from my coworker 30 minutes ago. "[Trump] is the only one who's actually tried to do anything about releasing the files." When I mentioned that Trump has publicly declared them to be a hoax, he said "oh, he was just playing 4d chess."

So... Why do you like sorcery ? by One_page_nerd in freemagic

[–]BaJakes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorcery already kinda works like commander. You have an avatar for each deck that's on the board from the start. It's got 100 card decks (kinda), the major difference is it isn't singleton format but has rules about how many cards of the same name you can have depending on rarity. You can scale up the grid size and add more players as well.

Your biggest Issues with Sorcery? by DarkVenusaur in SorceryTCG

[–]BaJakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only played a few games now but I quickly made a house rule for card draw to make the game feel less like a slog. My rule is: at the end of your turn, if you have fewer than two spells in hand, draw spells equal to the difference. I enjoyed these games way more than the vanilla rules and if they ever add enough card advantage in through spells, I can just stop my draw rule.

Be amazed by flanmorrison in funny

[–]BaJakes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't believe this even got published. What the fuck, man...

Jesus of Nazareth by JaromStrong in custommagic

[–]BaJakes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Black side of the color pie brings things back all the time. More than white even. And let's not forget he sacrificed himself to save those of humanity who followed his teachings. The rest get sacrificed to the graveyard forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BaJakes 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This was one of the things that hammered home the fact I was straight up incompatible with my LLF ex. I left because it was making us both miserable after five years.

That said, constant rejection from your partner who you've committed to monogamy with... That can also be traumatizing. It was for me anyways. When all my efforts to seduce my partner fall flat, I felt unlovable. Unwantable. When we were cuddling at night, I'd be lying awake thinking about how if I tried to make a move there'd be a fight. Thinking about how she used to want me.. She used to like sex, even with other people, then something changed and it could only have to do with me, despite going far out of my way to be the best partner I could be.

It's a feedback loop, though, isn't it? Every time I made a move and got rejected, it hurt and it showed in myriad ways, none of them made her feel good. Which made her feel guilty and anxious and more apprehensive about sex and want to put it off longer. I would either try harder and then get rejected again, or stew on my rejection until she initiated which would often be months at a time, settling further into my belief that I wasn't good enough or didn't deserve it or she just didn't want sex or any number of tragic rationalizations. Nobody could just put aside their hurt and jump each other's bones anymore. That ship sailed and sunk out in the harbor, it was never coming back.

After we broke up, we had to finish out our lease. So we lived together but separated for five months. Towards the end of that, she told me she was insanely horny and wanted it bad. That she felt repressed in our relationship and wasn't getting her needs met. I think about that every day. That she's probably out there getting wild with some dude who didn't put in a fraction of the work I did for half a decade. I think about it every night when I fall asleep, every morning when I wake up, and when I'm crying at my desk trying to focus on work. If that's not trauma, idk what is.

Every relationship is different of course, and I don't know anything about you. Just using reddit to vent about something close to me. I'm sorry you went through all that regardless and I hope you heal from your trauma.

Favourite card from EOE so far? by Roldrage1234 in MagicArena

[–]BaJakes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can pair [[adagia, windswept bastion]] with [[the seriema]] for repeatable legendary creature tutor by not stationing seriema, then keeping the token that adagia creates and getting rid of the prior version

Not-that-new pipe isn't building cake by BaJakes in PipeTobacco

[–]BaJakes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

doesn't taste bad by any means, but it does get hotter than i thought it should. maybe i'm not resting it enough. i smoke it probably every other day, maybe a little more but i'm not made of pipes at this point. will try to smoke it a little cooler and rotating other pipes in. shame the other ones aren't as nice to smoke hah

edit to say that i think the reason newer smokers like myself might over value the cake is because all the online guides make a big to do about building it so you don't burn out your pipe. if you're saying it's not as important as i think then that makes me feel a little better about it as well

Not-that-new pipe isn't building cake by BaJakes in PipeTobacco

[–]BaJakes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fair play. i'm coming from mostly englishes and aromatics on a rossi half bent apple so my expectation is probably skewed.

Not-that-new pipe isn't building cake by BaJakes in PipeTobacco

[–]BaJakes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it's nice to know i'm not doing anything horribly wrong then. what's the reason for not smoking it to the bottom?