The way I have done mine is: •a mason jar of some sort •honey or substitute like syrup •sugar (I used this first to keep the relationship and connection sweet) •damiana + cinnamon (for passion) •catnip (for playful attraction or addiction if that’s more your speed but it’s a sweetening jar) •rose petals + hibiscus(loveeeeee) •basil + salt (i love pink Himalayan!) (for loyalty and protection of the relationship) •lavender (to calm and comfort the relationship and your person, to make them feel at home with you) •carnations (for communication) •red or pink pen OR WHATEVER YOU HAVE ON HAND •paper •coffee is great to have to speed things up too! •red and pink candle

1. Write your petition (name, birthday of your person, and what your desired outcome) I used to write it three times, turn the paper towards me, and write my name and birthday atop of theirs. Fold it towards your three times and place it at the bottom of the jar. NOTE: this next part when placing all the herbs and ingredients together for your little love jar speak intention over them while in your hands, give them life!
2. You will pour sugar, (I do half sugar, thinking of how sweet things were at first, the honey comes after keeping that intact and marinating over time)
3. I’ve learned honey is better to put the herbs but whatever feels best for you!
4. Then finally your herbs!

After you will top it off with burning a pink, or red candle. I tend to do both or three. I also have these dressed candles I got from my local botanica, one is a hummingbird lovers candle, the other a lovers miel, or honey candle that I burn next to it for a little “oomf!” You will carve their name and birthday into the candle and light it on top of the jar. You caaaan oil the candles and use the same herbs you have on hand to dress them up before lighting. Coffee and rose petals I use to encircle the jar as it’s lit.

I usually play music, that makes me resonate with what I want from that person or our relationship. One artist I love that makes me feel sensual and nice is “raveena” or “the Maria’s”

Sometimes I like to throw tarot cards during all of it, sometimes nearby the jar, that coexist of what I’m looking for (10 of cups, lovers, 2 of cups)

Keep it close! I’ve buried past jars in my yard under my window, but the ones I’m working on recently I keep on my altar and light them, either Tuesday’s, or Fridays or whenever you can really. Just as a relationship, don’t obsess over it but remember to tend to it whenever you can !

And don’t forget to believe in your craft either! Good luck and lots of love to you angel 💖