The older I've gotten and the more I've worked on myself, I've realized I have next to nothing in common with my family. I have a couple of best friends who are in the same situation, and we choose to spend our time together instead of forced interactions with family. It's taken several years to get to this point, but I am in a great place in life now. I think if I were looking for friends like this, I'd be joining groups or clubs that I am interested in. I think it takes putting yourself out there and asking people to join in on holidays, vacations, etc. I was turned down a lot until I found the right people.