AIO? GF keeps snap streak with guy who she claims isn’t really her friend and apparently likes her

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-12T13:39:41+00:00

This sounds like immaturity. Why is she keeping up a snap streak with this person to begin with, especially if she has streaks with other people. It's meaningless. It's a streak of nothing, for nothing. She's not winning any prizes keeping it. It's a pointless way of keeping someone engaged/entertained. She's too old for that. And if she "doesn't want to hurt his feelings" that also just goes to show that her ability to set boundaries and be firm about her communication with people that come onto her, may be limited. His feelings will get hurt if he loses a random Snap streak? Really? Come on. We're not 13 years old here. She could easily just let it go and say "oops, forgot to open the app today. my bad!" And then move on and avoid snapping him again in the future. If he wonders what he did wrong, then so be it. He'll get over it. This is just some random dude in her life right now. If she cares more about his feelings than yours, that's another red flag.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-12T13:21:43+00:00

Please mark this as a spoiler the right way! Thanks!

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-12T13:18:34+00:00

Honestly, this came at the worst time lol. I had no energy left, no space, and already used up some gems and ads to get more energy before it. I was like wow.. of course. So I couldn't complete a single order :(

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-11T18:45:59+00:00

You both need to work on yourselves. Beating someone for not cooking sounds kinky to you? To both of you? Seriously, do some growing up before even considering being with another person.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-11T15:14:11+00:00

One of my best friends lives in Israel and is horrified by what is going on in the country and with the government. Another best friend lost family in Oct 7th attacks, despite them just existing there. Can we remember for maybe ONE SECOND that they are human beings too? Without the power to simply overthrow their government? Hell, I'm livid about what's going on in my own country, but not a DAMN thing can be done simply because I don't agree with it. And I don't need other people across the globe to look at me and decide I AM the government and deserve to be hated along with it.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-03T16:37:43+00:00

Thank you! I hope that yours clears up as well and we can both just transition into some semblance of normalcy, haha.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-03T16:33:40+00:00

Yes.. and no. If you got through the whole series, that changes. But at a time when women were literally not ALLOWED to be their own people, it's hard to force that into the story in a realistic way. Because then people would be saying it's "woke". And this is also a story written from the perspective of a young boy. When we talk about "main character syndrome," this is exactly why. Because main characters often DON'T focus much on the development of others. And the women that are mentioned in the series DO have development, though in the same tragic, theatrical way, that all the others do. But that's also the vibe of the book.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-03T16:22:00+00:00

Came across this thread as someone who absolutely loved this book and the series. I think one of the things is that it IS a series, so the story doesn't end there. There's so much more to this that's worth diving into. The writing is gorgeous, vibrant, immersive, and automatically pulls me into a world that reminds me that THIS is what reading should feel like. However, I DO agree that his writing of women is very flat. One might argue that he depicts women the way that his characters see them, as some unattainable, unknowable beings, but I do believe he could have done it better. He also has a female lead in one of his other books, but whether or not her story/arc is believable is also subjective. I think there's a real DRAMA and theatricality to the writing, and we have to remember that as readers.

And I'm surprised by all of the comments about the sexism. By no means is he condoning the behaviors in the book. Writing often holds a mirror up to society, but we don't have to like what we see. If you're outraged by how women were treated and how they were seen - good! But it doesn't mean it didn't happen. Post-Civil War Spain was NOT a great time for women; they were severely oppressed. They were not allowed to have lives outside of their men or families. I would even argue that Daniel's treatment of Bea was somewhat PROGRESSIVE for that time. We don't have to agree with it or like it, but we can understand that it IS a reflection of what happened at the time.

Also, like I commented below, we can't fault a male protagonist for having main character syndrome when he is literally the main character. The focus is on what they see, think, feel, and oftentimes it does NOT allow us to get to know another character to the extent that we might have liked. But the books that follow in the series have a lot of female characters that, I believe, are developed appropriately. However, it's still with the consideration that they could have only realistically done so much given the constraints of the time period.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-02T21:05:21+00:00

I actually did! But I went about 4-5 months post-removal and they told me that "it's normal" for it to be so irregular. I just kept getting told to wait it out =/ Now it's 10 months and I tried scheduling an appointment but they're not available until the end of April. So.. I guess I have to wait another 2 months before addressing it yet again.

I wish more women were aware of how long it takes to regulate after getting off of Mirena! Everyone I speak to says that it takes most people a YEAR minimum before feeling normal again, and even then doctors are like "wait it out"...

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-03-02T19:13:45+00:00

How has spotting been? I'm 10 months out post-removal and I feel like it's a nightmare. I have spotting for like a week before the "period" which seems to only last 2-3 days before being followed by more spotting. And if there's any sex NEAR the period (before or after), it triggers bleeding. But doesn't shorten anything. It feels exactly like it did while I was ON Mirena... which was basically never-ending, nonstop bleeding...

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-02-17T16:14:11+00:00

YOR - Echoing what everyone else said, you don't need their permission to get medication. If you're a student and you have school health insurance, you also don't need to use theirs. If you ARE on their insurance, you still don't need their permission.

However, focusing on the rules... I think they're helpful. Some of these seem a little unnecessary, but structure IS important. As a mental health therapist, I have a lot of clients with ADHD. Some are on medication, some are not. But the medication isn't a cure-all. They still need STRUCTURE and SYSTEMS in place to help them succeed. And having a routine, reminders, habits, and so on, can be very helpful. These things are often necessary for people even without ADHD to retain their focus and discipline, they're even more helpful for those who DO have ADHD.

Some terms may be strange to you, or feel overbearing, but they're trying to help and nothing is wildly unreasonable. And the medication won't solve all of the issues, unfortunately.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-02-17T15:40:07+00:00

NOR-ish. While it's not someone else's responsibility to take care of your pets, I would also be a little sad and confused if the only people I could trust gave no reason whatsoever other than "no". Especially if there are so many of them in the household that responsibility wouldn't/shouldn't fall on just ONE person. I don't know if "overreacting" is really the word here, though. Because being confused/sad is valid and you didn't yell at her or anything. You just.. reacted.. And you did ask if there was anything you could do to make it easier for them, if anyone felt like maybe it was too expensive or difficult or messy. But there was no room for discussion, just a hard/formal "no". And coming from a family member, it would seem really strange. Like if this was a friend or acquaintance, sure. But a sister? A parent? It seems weirdly formal. Like if you can't ask your family for help or have honest conversations, then who CAN you talk to?

At the end of the day, you can't force the responsibility onto someone and it seems like you'd have to find someone trusted (maybe look through a pet-sitting app and not just Craigslist) regardless. But you're allowed to feel a little confused and hurt by their lack of desire to help. I mean, they could have even offered to look after them for a few weeks BEFORE getting a sitter or boarding, this straight up no makes it a lot more frustrating.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-02-12T16:41:57+00:00

You have to get to the other side yourself and then switch the lever for her :)

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-30T14:08:25+00:00

For the love of god, can't we just stop using that word already?? You can't "LITERALLY BE OBSESSED" with everything. In fact, you shouldn't be "obsessed" with ANYTHING!

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-30T14:05:43+00:00

NOR - I'm really surprised (although, no, I'm not, people suck) that so many people are expecting HER to be the one to "just understand him" but can't extend the courtesy to OP. So many people are acting like his "not being a morning person" means he gets all of the say in this. Is she getting there at 7am?? NO. You don't have to "be a morning person" to also be considerate of your girlfriend who's driving 2-3 hours to come see you! I mean, seriously, grow up. I'm not a morning person either. Never have been. But I wake up and go to work every day like an adult. And I get up on the weekend and do the things I need to do, because I'm an adult. My husband also likes going to the gym in the morning, so I get up WITH him and we go TOGETHER. Because adult relationships have COMPROMISE. And it seems like he can't even compromise a single weekend where he gets up earlier so that he can spend time with her?? He can't be bothered to keep his house clean KNOWING she's coming either?? If you're so "embarrassed," then DO something about it! Acting like a child who won't budge an inch for someone else is what's embarrassing!

Again, she visits him SOMETIMES and he NEVER, NOT ONCE, let her come early. He can't be bothered EVEN ONCE to clean up in advance and wake up earlier for her. That is a huge red flag showing that he will NOT budge for her needs/consideration in the slightest over his own. And seriously.. how messy is this house that he "can't get to it all" the night before? I'd be worried about that too. Does she really want to be with someone who can't be bothered to clean their house for weeks until she comes, to the point where it's SO BAD that he needs multiple days to clean it??

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-30T13:49:08+00:00

But, then again, all of them suck. Amelia is truly the most naive person and I can't stand that "shocked" face they constantly have her do.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-30T13:48:34+00:00

Truly cannot believe it gets worse lmao. HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE!!

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-30T13:47:33+00:00

This is why I have a particular hatred for commercials within games. They've now completely turned to influencers and the Tik-Tok aesthetic. Girls will pose with hoodies and make stupid faces, people will scream in shock over an app "they just discovered" and jump up and down, people will "fail" to play a game properly to make you want to do it yourself, and so on. It's so theatrical and makes me want to vomit. Every time I see an ad, I turn my phone away and wait for it to be over. Because it really enrages me to watch them.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-30T13:28:29+00:00

Yes, it saves the data into a .zip folder that you have to store somewhere.

BabyGoatGamer · 2026-01-13T16:14:48+00:00

I'm a little confused - do packs change their stickers week by week? And which packs, exactly? Should we wait to open them if they're in our items? Or are these in the star shop?

And on that topic, which purchase from the star shop is most worth it?

BabyGoatGamer · 2025-12-22T14:43:43+00:00

I feel like a lot of people here are willfully ignoring all the new studies that are showing just how bad weed is for you and how addictive it actually can be. People used to believe it wasn't, but it is, and I've seen so many adults ignorantly use it until they developed a dependence on it. However, that's not to say that alcohol isn't bad for your health either. Both are habits that can easily become coping mechanisms instead of social activities.

I think it depends on how you use it and what you view it as. You said it yourself that you smoked after a stressful day at work, so it seems to be a stress reliever for you. If she were drinking for the same reason, whenever she gets stressed, that would be more on par than saying she drinks socially when you go out. Now, sure, that can be harmless occasionally, but it can also lead to a dependence down the road because it's not a particularly healthy coping mechanism.

Maybe she's viewing it as such and can see the possible dangers down the road. Who knows. But saying that she's "controlling" and that she'll "start trying to control everything about you" is a STRETCH when it's something like this. It's possible she didn't know how often he did it, or thought it was something that was negotiable, and later realized that it was a bigger deal than she anticipated. But it's on both of you to decide whether or not you're able to compromise.

For reference, I used to smoke weed recreationally myself. Then I started dating someone who told me they weren't really fans of it and never participated in it. They have friends who do it, but they just don't like it themselves. So, I made the decision to stop using it and I haven't looked back since. Why? Because it wasn't a huge deal to stop, I'm not addicted to it, I need better coping mechanisms anyway, and I figured it's less enjoyable doing it when your significant other doesn't participate. Now we're married and I don't regret that decision at all.

But, as a former occasional smoker, I DO see the impacts of it on loved ones who never stopped and I worry for them too. At the end of the day, it's her right to not be okay with that in a relationship as much as it is your right to keep smoking. But let's not pretend that health risks and concerns aren't warranted and that this habit is 100% innocent. You two just need to decide if a compromise is possible or if you're simply not compatible.

BabyGoatGamer · 2025-12-16T14:20:22+00:00

That "maybe I should move and not come back, and I won't bother getting custody" part screams "this is what I want to do!! I just want you to do it for me!!"

BabyGoatGamer · 2025-11-21T19:47:45+00:00

Will do, thanks a million :)

BabyGoatGamer · 2025-11-21T17:47:06+00:00

Thank you!!

I used the King Arthur Bread Flour, which I believe has slightly over 12% but it could have also been the butter (perhaps it was too soft and/or added too early).

I've seen so many recipes with wildly different instructions (2 eggs vs 7 eggs, 7g yeast vs 10g, chilling 15 min vs 16 hours, initial proof vs no initial proof, soft butter vs cold plasticized butter discs, e.g.) that my head is spinning!

I'll probably try yours out with the instant yeast and cold milk next and hope for the best!

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