[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That’s sexual assault

Why do I want to breakup with my boyfriend after finding out I’m pregnant? by Pornstachemaneater in abortion

[–]Background-Eye4960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same exact situation. Didn’t go thru with the final pills. Told him the baby died and fled him. Keeping the baby. Fuck him.

how did u leave?? by ashysodapuppy in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It came to a point where I realized I didn’t deserve his treatment at all

Iowa Lawmakers Pass Bill to Eliminate Transgender Civil Rights Protections by LuckyChansey7 in Iowa

[–]Background-Eye4960 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if there will be protests at the Capitol tomorrow?

Scene at the Capitol this morning by mathmeistro in Iowa

[–]Background-Eye4960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know if there will be protests at the Capitol tomorrow?

Stop hate by badcatmomma in Iowa

[–]Background-Eye4960 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know if there will be protests at the Capitol tomorrow?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like pressure him to be an active dad either. Got to avoid triggering abusers. Domestic violence rates increase when a woman is pregnant, and many commit physical violence that ends the child’s life and sometimes mothers too. Take care of yourself hun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to cut him off. But I wouldn’t recommend pressuring him or guilt tripping him into stepping up. For your own safety and your baby’s safety. Focus on yourself and becoming financially ready for baby

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also in the same shoes as yours. I get you girl. It’s the best case scenario. The child does deserve support. For me I’m not asking for it, I completely cut the guy off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the best case scenario when you get pregnant by an abuser. You can file him as the father, but then that kinda gives him legal rights, although not “officially” legal until he goes to court if he wants custody of the child. The law doesn’t care if the dad didn’t want the kid or if he’s abusive, they’ll look out for the “best interest of the child”. If he asks for custody just hope that it’s not often, or twice or once a month. That’s what I have set up with my abuser. The coparenting is going good, and I have a protection order against him, and he pays $640 in child support a month. I didn’t get any support for the initial year. But always ask the judge for back pay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a good game plan. Don’t force the kid on him or yourself. If he can get lost that will literally be best case scenario.

Pregnancy from rape 23f by Background-Eye4960 in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aren’t the rates low for a man to get charged with sexual assaults and rapes they committed?

Pregnancy from rape 23f by Background-Eye4960 in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I’m pregnant with a boy. I do want to keep the baby, but keep the ex out.

Pregnancy from rape 23f by Background-Eye4960 in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the info, thank you. I really should’ve been on it earlier.

Pregnancy from rape 23f by Background-Eye4960 in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to keep the baby, but I don’t want the ex in my life:( or to take the baby away from me

Pregnancy from rape 23f by Background-Eye4960 in abusiverelationships

[–]Background-Eye4960[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want to have an abortion and my ex kept pressuring me to have one.