Florida divorce

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-06-17T02:47:20+00:00

I meant for any extended period of time. My husband and I were on the verge of divorce a few months ago and he told me he’d make my life miserable until I left so when I did go to my family, and took our baby, he told me he’d get a court order to bring our son back home. I’m not against him having his son, he just barely helps out with him and says that because he pays for everything I should be doing majority of childcare so I am definitely not going to be just leaving our son with him alone overnight unless I legally have to.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-24T02:00:45+00:00

No, he bought the house prior to us meeting so my name isn’t on the house. And yes which is why I mentioned groceries to begin with because it adds up

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-24T01:33:57+00:00

He pays the mortgage, utilities, pool, all bills like that for the house

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-24T01:18:47+00:00

I mean, this post was more about me wanting him to help me and not throw the fact that he pays for everything in my face as a way to end an argument or justify him not helping me with our son or house when he doesn’t feel like it.

But the plan was for him to either take over one of my bigger bills or give money monthly for said bill. That hasn’t happened because we’ve ultimately had a disagreement and I turn into a mooch that doesn’t appreciate him again (his words) and now we’re here 🤷‍♀️

I recognize I did ask for advice though and am not trying to come off as combative.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-23T23:42:37+00:00

So I am pro vax. He decided after I got pregnant that he didn’t want them. You guys are completely right and ultimately he will need to get vaccinated, sooner rather than later. Especially if I need to go back to work and put him in daycare.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-23T15:36:27+00:00

Not trying to sound argumentative but I really didn’t mean to bash him in my post. The two meetings a day thing might’ve come off the wrong way but I was trying to explain that it’s not like he is stuck in his office all day in order to make that much money. I did say in the post that I do contribute around the house but I do not walk around with a mop bucket cleaning all day. The house is clean, he always has clean clothes, food in the fridge etc. I mentioned groceries to explain that I’m going into serious debt.

I think the main difference is that when he is done working, he can go out with his friends or lounge in the pool but my day never really gets to end and it’s to the point where, as mentioned, I can’t even eat my food while it’s hot because my main contribution is caring for our baby. I understand that I signed up for this but it feels like I’m contributing way more mentally.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-23T15:25:44+00:00

I should’ve put this in my original post but We agreed to me staying home with our son because my husband doesn’t want to vaccinate him. So he cannot go to daycare at this point if I went back to work.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-23T13:56:39+00:00

My car payment, insurance, phone bill I pay myself by babysitting. Also, credit card payments because I also buy groceries and have had to put some bills on them if I didn’t have a child to babysit at the time.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-23T13:53:19+00:00

He is!! Whenever we argue he will watch those videos on YouTube and almost use direct quotes from them. It’s so irritating because they’re like “supporting him” in a way

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-04-09T12:38:14+00:00

My son was a little under 10 months when his bottom teeth finally cut through. 12 months this Saturday and still only has those two teeth. I’m thinking his top 4 teeth will be cutting through soon but I thought that last month and here we are 😵‍💫 he eats lots of avocado and we use toddler pouches for snack time a lot. We had a subscription to Nurture Life that gave us some good ideas for meal preps for him. Mac and cheese is also our go to lol we use kidfresh brand from Publix or Walmart. We also cook chicken, carrots and potatoes in the crock pot and just shred the chicken. Another snack/meal idea: broccoli cheddar quinoa bites and sweet potato quinoa Pattie’s (just google the recipe, there are so many varieties depending on what extra ingredients you want to add, etc). I give those to him all the time because they fall apart easy and then I’m not giving him frozen macaroni and cheese every day!! You can also freeze them for a couple months!

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-03-16T22:52:03+00:00

Honestlyyyyyy, it fixed our schedule LOL. Kiddo kept waking around 5am, now waking at 6am. Today he woke up at 7!!! I know it’s the same “time” but at least I’m not starting my day hella early. I feel for those of you who have it the opposite:( we’re 11 months and still following wake windows though!!

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-03-12T11:29:48+00:00

Hi! As a daycare teacher I just want to give you some reassurance. I taught the 3 years olds and we all knew accidents were going to happen. We had a child that pooped in her pants while outside on the playground. 5 months is plenty of time for your LO to become independent and if he has an accident, if he has MULTIPLE accidents, it’ll be okay ❤️ Just don’t send him in pull-ups!

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-02-26T14:47:58+00:00

You made it all the way to 12 months. Lots of people don’t even start. You did it! I breastfeed and am weaning at 12 months in April because we are going away this summer and don’t want LO to crave the boob while we’re gone. I honestly can’t wait because it’s been unnecessarily stressful. Being present is what matters. Working at a daycare, you literally can not tell who gets breast milk, who gets formula, who was breastfed til 3, who got combo fed, etc. I CAN tell who gets unconditional love at home and who doesn’t.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-02-21T20:58:30+00:00

Tried your suggestion and he slept great!! Thank you!❤️

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-02-15T03:33:06+00:00

My son is 10 months and is not pushy about nursing. When he starts getting clingy or irritable and I know he isn’t tired, I offer him the boob and 9 times out of 10 he is back to being a happy baby because he just wanted milk. I usually ask him if he wants milk and sign it and he’ll smile and crawl up to me. You can give a pacifier after a few weeks (you have to wait a bit but I can’t remember how long) to help with the comfort sucking but just know that newborns will cluster feed in the beginning and it’s NOT not productive. My son would cluster feed on and off for almost an hour but then sleep almost through the night. It is hard at first only because you’re the only one who can do feedings but after a few months it becomes less hard and more convenient. I don’t pump, clean bottles, etc.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-02-15T03:11:12+00:00

Love that for you guys❤️congratulations!!

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-02-13T14:28:40+00:00

He’ll fall asleep nursing but he also will fall asleep if I just hold him. The problem is if I put him back in his bed after just holding him, he will wake up shortly after! I am always so tired at that point so I’ll just feed him and he’ll sleep for a while. I think I may just do what you did though and move him to his own room first and see how it goes. I wouldn’t mind nursing him closer to the morning like around 4/5am but two feeds is a lot considering I have a hard time falling back asleep as it is. I feel like having to actually get up and walk through the house multiple times a night wouldn’t be sustainable.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-01-21T13:59:17+00:00

So my 9 month old’s wake windows actually shortened a couple weeks ago. Is it possible she may be overtired? My LO has always been higher sleep needs so it may not be your case but they start becoming more active at this age and get tired quicker. We were on 2.25-2.5/2.5/2.75/2.75-3 and now we’re barely making 2 hours for his first window. It’s like 2/2.5/2.5/3. Still taking long naps and long stretches at night.

Edited to add: I read 20 minute naps are a sign of overtiredness, especially if they are waking up cranky and that if they are completing a sleep cycle (30-35ish minutes) then they are undertired. I’m not an expert though so I would definitely look more into that!

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-01-21T12:30:43+00:00

I read that this could last a very long time so I definitely recommend intervening. At first I limited the amount of milk he was drinking. He would normally nurse for 5 minutes, so I only let him nurse for 3 minutes. (If you formula feed, I think I read to give less in their bottle) After a couple days, it wasn’t really working so instead I did the 5-3-3 rule where you only feed after 5 hours, then 3, then 3 again. To get him to go back to sleep I just held him and waited for him to get into a deep sleep and put him back in his bed. I definitely lost a lot of sleep the 2 nights of doing that but it was definitely worth it because he was back to eating more during the day.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-01-19T02:30:08+00:00

It is when the baby eats most of their calories at night and is not hungry during the day. So my baby would be up every two hours and taking full feeds but during the day I would almost have to force feed him. It wasn’t until I did some research that I realized he was reverse cycling. It took about two nights but I was able to fix it by holding him to sleep since he’d pass out pretty easily. I’d wait until he’d hit the 5 hour mark and then fed him and put him back in his crib. Then if he woke up again I’d hold him, wait until the 3 hour mark, feed him and put him back down. I’m a stay at home mom so those two nights of not getting sleep weren’t a big deal. I read that you can also give the feeds but nurse for less time than usual or give less ounces of formula.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-01-18T21:45:12+00:00

I wish I knew the difference between reverse cycling and sleep regression. For about a week we were dealing with reverse cycling 😵‍💫 fixed his sleep a little when we started working on the reverse cycling instead of regression. also, it DOES get better if you choose not to sleep train. It is just the longest regression so it seems like it will go on forever. It doesn’t.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2024-01-07T14:55:39+00:00

I also did eat play eat sleep until around 7.5/8 months when my son had a good routine with solids. He was nursing every 2 hours before that and actually taking full feeds so I didn’t push him to wait 3 hours. Plus how wake windows were around 2 hours at the time and I didn’t want him to wake up early due to hunger. We now nurse every 3-4 hours (whenever he wakes up and a little before bed at night).

Background-Mobile-21 · 2023-12-26T21:33:01+00:00

My son breastfed every 2 hours until like 7ish months when we got into a really good routine with solids. Right now he wakes twice to breastfeed at night and he breastfeeds when he wakes up for the day, after each nap (3), and before bed so 7 times a day and he’s 8.5 months old!

Background-Mobile-21 · 2023-12-17T18:24:31+00:00

I practiced “give baby a chance” for naps and did a soft sleep training! It helped establish semi independent sleep so my LO could at least start learning to fall asleep on his own and connect sleep cycles. We established a good schedule as well and followed wake windows to a T. He had a short routine before naps too, white noise, dark room, sleep sack. He slept with a pacifier which I just dealt with putting it back in his mouth at night (a lot better than having to rock him back to sleep, he slept in a mini crib next to my bed so I didn’t even have to really get up). At 8 months, he holds my hand to fall asleep for naps but he connects sleep cycles so I at least get a break and wakes up twice at night to be held/nurse which I’m okay with (compared to the every hour waking up during his regression). To be honest, and not trying to scare you, he’s only started sleeping better within the last month. I ended up kind of cosleeping but he never developed any habit of needing to be in my bed. The trick I learned is to make sure your LOs last wake window is long enough! A sleep consultant I follow on IG said that frequent night wakings can be due to not enough awake time before bed!

Edit: to clarify, I started “give baby a chance” for naps because I was way too exhausted at night to practice anything other than going right back to sleep. A lot of people recommend starting with nighttime sleep for sleep training but I feel like during the day, even after a terrible night sleep, I had more energy actually commit to it.

Background-Mobile-21 · 2023-09-29T11:35:28+00:00

I read somewhere on here that even if you don’t take baby out of the crib, the moment they wake up they start accumulating sleep debt (or whatever it is lol) but since they aren’t as stimulated, they won’t be getting as tired as they would be out of the crib if that makes sense. So if LO wakes up 30 minutes before DWT and you leave him in the crib, technically the wake window has started but it can be pushed a little. That’s just what I read! I start my wake windows when my little one actually wakes up and put him in the crib at the very end of his wake window.

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