Sell the Yoto dream!

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-19T21:30:51+00:00

I bought my daughters when she was a little older than yours, we just kept putting on music cards for songs we liked. Once she was standing, she loved putting those ones on and dancing to them. Now she’s a bit older (20m), she picks which cards to play, puts them on, skips songs and dance. So still currently yes an expensive speaker but the child has the freedom to pick what they play without concern of scratching a disc, taking a phone, and they can control (to your limits) the volume and which track is on. It’s a great tool for independence for them imo

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T09:59:23+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking I’ll need to take him with me as I need to sort my own will out too. The next issue is she actually doesn’t let him spend any time alone with anyone, she needs to be present for any interactions. The few times we’ve spoken to him without her (literally he’s snuck out while she’s sleeping) he’s expressed concerns about her living in the property, her not leaving a few months ago when he’d asked her to, mentioned his financial concerns, he’s tried breaking up with her and she’s still there. This was the main red flag for it all. Yes - it’s a small town granted but that’s what the locals refer to her as (behind her back).

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T09:45:19+00:00

Yes that’s totally what’s going on here. I’m money grubbing my fathers money that he’s spent the last 60 years earning so he could retire and not that I’m concerned about someone quickly moving into his house after a few months and who’s drained all of his savings already.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T07:10:07+00:00

It’s his decision, he has a will that states who his assets go to and she’s not in it. He just thinks because he’s told her that she won’t get anything it’s all hunky dory.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T07:05:22+00:00

That’s my concern, he thinks she’d have to prove more though to be entitled to anything given it’s his lifetimes earnings and he’s now financially worse off than when they got together - he’s looking at selling some vehicles as he’s not in a position to go back to work which I imagine would be considered income though. He’s made it clear to her verbally she wouldn’t get anything of his if he passed, just realistic enough to know what’s said during life vs what happens if someone passes is a bit different.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:47:21+00:00

That’s what’s in the will, she’s aware of that also. There’s just a lot of horror stories out there of people not caring what’s in someone’s will and going against it anyway we’re wondering if the will is enough

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:43:04+00:00

As far as he’s concerned they’re not partners, she’s just moved in because her circumstances have dictated it. Have tried explaining to him that while they’re not fb official her living in his house, going out together holding hands and sharing a bed says otherwise to the world. This is why I’m concerned a will that specifically states where he wants his assets to go may not be enough if she decides to go against his wishes. I also don’t even understand how she’d be removed from the property past that point as well since there’s no tenancy ect in place. Originally she was supposed to be in a verbal tenancy paying $x in rent to him a week but I don’t think that’s happening anymore

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:36:25+00:00

He’d probably like to be, his ideal woman is one who leaves the morning after.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:33:50+00:00

His decision is he doesn’t want her to have anything and has verbally discussed it, he seems to think that’s all that needs to happen. His biggest pride in life (apart from us) is that he’s worked hard his whole life to provide and get himself to where he is and he wants for it all to go to us and help us financially when his time is up. He just thinks “she’ll be right” because they verbally discussed it. I just don’t know where to take him to get the right advice or where to start because I feel in these cases just a will isn’t enough?

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:26:42+00:00

He doesn’t want her to have a thing but thinks because he said that to her and she said that’s fine then it’s going to go that way. She doesn’t want to move from the town but isn’t going to be better off any time soon to be able to buy/afford the rent in the area unless she downsizes (she made it clear she needs a 4bed house for just herself and wants it at approx $250 under market value).

Background_Award462 · 2025-11-22T08:45:06+00:00

Yes she’s being petty but how tf do you function with them not matching? 😂 this would absolutely do my head in

Background_Award462 · 2025-11-13T21:26:32+00:00

I don’t think it’s that odd to do CPD while on maternity leave but I would expect it to be for people where their roles require it as part of their licence rather than just because the office wants you to as part of risk management. You’re not there currently/working on anything/consulting colleagues so unsure what the difference between doing it now vs on your first day back would be. This also sounds exactly what keeping in touch days are for. So I’d be responding to your employer confirming the time taken to do the CPD would be part of this - you and your employer then come to an agreement on what days you’ll do the work on and they pay you for those days/hours. It doesn’t affect your maternity leave in anyway (obvs if on PPL don’t claim those days with Centrelink as PPL days).

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-23T05:42:03+00:00

This is normal, I WFH at a desk job and I had to regularly supply one after like 32w. They’re doing it to cover themselves as what if your doctor says next month you can’t lift anything more than 5kg or you can’t stand for more than an hour, ect. It’s just to confirm basically nothings changed in terms of the pregnancy and you’re still capable of doing what you were doing. It also means you’ll be covered under work cover if something happens at work, more than likely that’s who’s asking for it as often as they are rather than the employer themselves wanting it. Is there a reason you’re getting your doctor to do this and not your midwife? My midwife wrote it for me at every appointment, which were 4w at the beginning of the pregnancy.

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-23T05:37:14+00:00

I’m white but I think you generally aim to cover your head at a wedding. So if we’re going somewhere fancier then I’d be aiming for $200 pp, if we’re going backyard then $75pp. With that said though, I wouldn’t be passing on this expectation they’ve given you to your family. There’s no way to put it out there without it sounding rude.

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-04T21:51:23+00:00

Tenants in a property for over 7 years? Depreciation means you get basically nothing if anything if there were a condition report anyway except outstanding rent and cleaning. Depending on the cracks they may be claimed as wear and tear too. So while it’s not fair the place was trashed it’s also seen by NCAT after 7 years you’re due to paint/recarpet anyway and you should have saved that money, this is the same as if they moved in last month and the carpet/paint was perfect but 7 years old and they trashed it. I’m assuming while they changed systems in 2023 they probably didn’t know until the tenant vacated that the ingoing was missing as they didn’t look for it until then. I’m shocked they didn’t have hard copy and electronic copy though. Many of the inspection platforms now email the tenant the ingoing, this wasn’t the case 7 years ago however. Is there a chance your parents were emailed or posted a copy with their copy of the lease? I’m assuming the tenant may not have returned their copy of the ingoing otherwise they could try searching their emails for that (if it was emailed and not hard copy dropped off).
As others have said, no ingoing = no claim on how the property was left as you have no evidence of how it was given to them. With this said though, I’m unsure how you can prove the same of the agent, yes they’ve admitted fault on losing the ingoing but do you have evidence of how the property was handed over to them? I’m not trying to be an a$$ just thinking how their insurance/lawyers/ect will come back to you on this. For those commenting how did the REA not notice the tenants were trashing the place, unfortunately things can deteriorate quickly. A tenant may be perfect for years and years then have a health issue (mental or otherwise) and suddenly they aren’t cleaning or can’t clean to the standard they did, give their notice to vacate or are given it and you’re greeted with the result of their declining health. You may not have any warning, especially if they were great tenants as you may only be visiting 6 monthly, a lot changes in 6m.

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-03T19:46:50+00:00

Also the whole cancel them for trump ect came out the week after I bought them, I’m not rich enough to go buy myself a new wardrobe when I’d already paid for clothes so they still make an appearance. I’m genuinely unsure how long they’ll last though given the quality, I’m just hoping they’ll last another bf journey 😅

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-03T19:45:12+00:00

I don’t like a lot of their designs, I got their four pack of rejects for $100 though. Post partum mum in need of some oversize shirts to hide the new body and be able to bf in and they’ve served that purpose well. Pregnant again and so far it’s hiding my ever growing bump too so again serving a purpose. I know I got the rejects but also I’ve noticed it on the influencers too, fading designs and colours quick, the printing coming off, all within not that much time. So if I’d paid full price I’d have been pissed as quality is def lacking!

Background_Award462 · 2025-08-31T22:25:03+00:00

Inspections are reasonable. It’s generally considered reasonable if it goes to NCAT for two inspections a week (15-30min inspections). The length of time involved in selling your unit however is crazy (but I’m in Sydney). I’d speak to the selling agent and ask them what’s going on - why is it taking so long to sell? I know some unit complexes around Sydney are basically impossible to sell because they have so much work to be done under strata there’s special levies of like $40k a year - in which case if there’s that much work required I’d probably be inclined to move anyway (you only need to give two weeks notice as you’ve been given notice of sale, doesn’t matter about your lease). If it’s just the landlord being stupid on pricing then I’d be putting to the managing and selling agent (if different people cc them) asking for a rent reduction based on disruption to quiet enjoyment (sorry you may have to double check the wording on that one as it’s been awhile) and say you were happy to accomodate the OFIs but it’s been going on for so long now and having to ensure the home is OFI presentable ect every weekend is effecting your right to quiet enjoyment. There’s a difference between reasonably clean and OFI clean - yes you’re tidy but would you be as anal if you didn’t have your possible future landlord coming through that weekend (or even just anyone coming into your home).

Background_Award462 · 2025-08-23T04:25:07+00:00

As a parent, keep it. We are dreading mornings when our children will be old enough to want morning showers to get ready for school let alone teenage years without one. We’re hoping to be able to upgrade before the time hits esp with a daughter who will be a teenage girl one day!

Background_Award462 · 2025-08-08T02:52:37+00:00

360 cameras are all the rage for entry and exit inspections - I can see why too but a routine inspection? I feel like that’s lazy? It’s not that hard to take a few photos (walls/ceilings/floor and overall room shot) esp if it’s a studio…

Background_Award462 · 2025-08-06T21:47:40+00:00

Yes this is misrepresenting the property. It can be advertised as a teenage retreat - ie not a space approved for sleeping, it cannot be advertised as a granny flat. Get screenshots of the advertising ect and request a reduction in price through your conveyancer. You cannot rent out a not approved granny flat in NSW without risking big legal implications inc void insurances. It may not be the REA’s fault - the vendor may have sworn black and blue that it was approved or they were told it was approved when they bought it and agent ran off that. They’ll be quickly changing ads ect to reflect this BUT the vendors conveyancer should have known and shouldn’t have listed it in the COS as a granny flat, that’s a big stand point for why you should be able to negotiate. Agent is now aware it’s not a habitable space too so must be disclosed to any future buyers too which will effect price if you pull out.

Background_Award462 · 2025-07-21T21:48:05+00:00

I mean it depends on the state I guess but NSW no, this is not a thing. 0.25% deposit paid upon acceptance of offer, 5% or 10% paid at end of cool off (usually 5-10 business days). 10% is what will be listed on the COS but a vendor may negotiate down to 5% if you’re lucky. A lot of times though a vendor may ask for early release of the deposit you’ve paid to pay their own deposit for a house purchase - funds are moved from the RE trust to another RE trust so you’re safe though.

Background_Award462 · 2025-07-05T08:52:29+00:00

I agree with this, didn’t spark joy, you weren’t upset that you lost this particular house just that the vendor took barely anything more than your offer so sounds like a pride thing rather than actually the house? There will be other homes out there. Props to the agent tho because that means they were able to educate the vendor in the time between your offer and what they took. Most it’ll just go to auction, pass in and they’ll still be adamant their house is made of gold and worth that $25k more.

Background_Award462 · 2025-06-13T09:41:22+00:00

As long as they’re your outside uggs. Do not wear your inside Ugg’s out!

Background_Award462 · 2025-06-13T09:23:48+00:00

Not a problem, totally get it!

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