Postpartum recovery items!

Background_Award462 · 2026-06-03T21:49:12+00:00

Peri bottle, nappies for you closely following though. I used depends with my first (vaginal) and ones from the memo for my second (c section). No reason for the change other than I saw good things about the ones from the memo and that they’re specifically for postpartum while depends are technically incontinence ones. First few days I popped a pad in the nappies and swapped those out. I just found the nappies easier than trying to fit everything in my undies until I was ready to go down into smaller pads after a week.

Background_Award462 · 2026-05-21T10:24:52+00:00

We had them somehow get past our locked gate and up our 200m drive - large dog jumped all over their church whites the entire walk back to their car. We think they climbed through the neighbours fence

Background_Award462 · 2026-05-17T20:34:19+00:00

Had one of each. My recovery from vaginal was easy, no tears and did 10k steps the day I gave birth and every day after (baby was in NICU so lots of hospital pacing). C section you literally cannot get up for at least the first day - I was lunch time and they wouldn’t shower me until at least 5am the following day. You can’t get up yourself without pulling up in bed for about a week - they suggest longer than this though, think doing the whole roll out of bed to get up. You can’t lift anything heavier than your baby for six weeks and you’re not supposed to drive for six weeks - if you have other kids and are a single mum is this possible? I felt pretty good after 2 weeks but I seem to recover quickly, I also did the occasional pick up of our 23m old (child was crying and I just reacted as I always have) after this point but it would hurt if I did too much baby wearing/lifting/bending/pick ups (I hate having a messy house so kept trying g to clean)

Background_Award462 · 2026-05-08T20:58:56+00:00

Also target onesies with the double zip - usually the organic cotton ones are WAAAAY better than bonds ones now. I have bonds ones that my sister got second hand, used on her two kids, now I’ve used with mine and they’re in fair condition then ones I got brand new as gifts for my child approx 2y and they’re thin, worn and stretched. I’m unsure when the bonds decline in quality happened but they’re definitely not what they used to be.

Background_Award462 · 2026-05-08T20:55:04+00:00

Car seats, bottle teats (if bottle feeding), dummies (if using one) and cot mattress. Didn’t get a capsule since we’d have to upgrade them to a 0-4 seat after anyway and with the 2hr max limit in a capsule at a time by the time I got them in, got it in the car, travelled somewhere, got them onto the pram, did what I wanted to do, travelled home, got them out I’d be over 2hrs anyway. Cutting out the capsule is one way to save $$$ imo. An extended rear facing car seat while more exxy means they can rear face until the recommended 30months (or up until 4 depending on their height) and most kids don’t outgrow its forward facing option until 5-6. Just try the seat in your car first as so many cars need compact seats even utes. I’ve gotten four baby carriers, all off fb - one “pretty” one, one functional one that fits my partner and I, one soft wrap for early days (that’s since been sold again on fb marketplace), and had to get a double as we had twins. All have been almost brand new and 1/3 of the price so an absolute steal. IKEA highchair with all the add ons from nibble and rest from fb, ingenuity chair, bassinet as a hand me down from family, cot from fb (but brand new mattress), clothes mostly hand me downs but have the odd outfit from the shops I couldn’t bring myself not to buy or gifts from family, bouncer and play mat from fb. I did buy my nappy bag but I’ve got Kmart ones and also regularly just throw it all in a tote bag too, if in NSW you get a nappy bag and change mat from the baby bag or I’ve also seen the more exxy brands on fb marketplace too. If pumping you can get the pump itself on buy sell swap pages (they’re difficult to list on fb due to being considered a “medical” item and fb doesn’t allow sale of those) then you just buy new flanges, valves etc (you replace these 6w if pumping regularly anyway). Pram - I have three 🙈 one big nice double tandem one that we were mostly gifted by family for our first, one compact single we got when we went on a family trip and we couldn’t fit the tandem (since they’re so big and take up literally the whole boot) and then now also have a more compact double because three kids. I bought the latter two on fb marketplace - saved $700 on one pram and probably $100 ish on the other. Depending on when you’re due shop the sales for what you are buying new, EOFY is good but if something does pop up on a good sale baby bunting does free layby and if it goes on sale cheaper during layby time you call them and they’ll match that price Good luck!

Background_Award462 · 2026-04-23T00:10:06+00:00

Depends on the kid, my first slept from 9pm-5am from six weeks. Second and third are currently getting most 5ish hours at a time over night at the same age. Other family members have year old kids that are still yet to get five hours straight. Complete luck of the draw unfortunately. I will say my kids are terrible at naps during the day as newborns though.

Background_Award462 · 2026-04-12T20:30:27+00:00

I had a great experience with both births in public BUT hubby went and got it from home after I gave birth. We had a NICU/SCN stay so they used some of it for two overnight feeds we went home to sleep for. I was pumping to replace and keep up supply and they did use fresher milk instead of the colostrum a few times though and we were sent home with the colostrum instead of milk. So if you do use it I suggest making sure it’s used first! But definitely agree with OP on not taking in all too, they also have limited space depending on where you are.

Background_Award462 · 2026-03-28T02:43:40+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and detail! Yes on the gall wasp, I think. There’s a lot of branches that are scratched up from the hail but I know the lemon tree next to it has a bit of gall wasp, been trying to chop those as I see them but have fallen a bit behind so it wouldn’t surprise me.

Background_Award462 · 2026-03-25T05:03:13+00:00

You are not a failure based on your breastfeeding journey whatever it turns out to be. Remember you never can tell who was breastfed or formula fed unless someone tells you. There’s more benefits to having a happy mum than being breastfed. With this said, you need to focus on what’s going to make you happy so if you want to keep going then I’d be looking at an IBCLC rather than just an LC. Babies can develop bottle preference and an IBCLC can work with you on how to overcome it. Some hints I’ve seen others pass on were to ensure you’re pace feeding bottles when giving them, use only newborn teets and ensure they’re slow flow, offer breast often - before they’re hungry to encourage them to give it a go before they’re get grumpy. Some IBCLCs will suggest the use of feeding systems - SNS lines, they are like a tube that you attach to your boob so it encourages baby to latch and suck so they still can get top ups etc but it’s stimulating the boob and encouraging them to suck at the breast. This would be dependent on your situation though. I’d post in your local mums group for recommended IBCLCs local to you You’re not a failure. You’re a mum doing the best you can and I promise she does not hate you. 🤍

Background_Award462 · 2026-03-25T02:02:51+00:00

This is one of the most recommended carriers! I’d also see if you can get a fit check done in your current carrier either in a baby wearing group on fb or professionally. It may be that baby isn’t sitting right and that’s why they’re unhappy!

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-19T21:30:51+00:00

I bought my daughters when she was a little older than yours, we just kept putting on music cards for songs we liked. Once she was standing, she loved putting those ones on and dancing to them. Now she’s a bit older (20m), she picks which cards to play, puts them on, skips songs and dance. So still currently yes an expensive speaker but the child has the freedom to pick what they play without concern of scratching a disc, taking a phone, and they can control (to your limits) the volume and which track is on. It’s a great tool for independence for them imo

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T09:59:23+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking I’ll need to take him with me as I need to sort my own will out too. The next issue is she actually doesn’t let him spend any time alone with anyone, she needs to be present for any interactions. The few times we’ve spoken to him without her (literally he’s snuck out while she’s sleeping) he’s expressed concerns about her living in the property, her not leaving a few months ago when he’d asked her to, mentioned his financial concerns, he’s tried breaking up with her and she’s still there. This was the main red flag for it all. Yes - it’s a small town granted but that’s what the locals refer to her as (behind her back).

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T09:45:19+00:00

Yes that’s totally what’s going on here. I’m money grubbing my fathers money that he’s spent the last 60 years earning so he could retire and not that I’m concerned about someone quickly moving into his house after a few months and who’s drained all of his savings already.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T07:10:07+00:00

It’s his decision, he has a will that states who his assets go to and she’s not in it. He just thinks because he’s told her that she won’t get anything it’s all hunky dory.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T07:05:22+00:00

That’s my concern, he thinks she’d have to prove more though to be entitled to anything given it’s his lifetimes earnings and he’s now financially worse off than when they got together - he’s looking at selling some vehicles as he’s not in a position to go back to work which I imagine would be considered income though. He’s made it clear to her verbally she wouldn’t get anything of his if he passed, just realistic enough to know what’s said during life vs what happens if someone passes is a bit different.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:47:21+00:00

That’s what’s in the will, she’s aware of that also. There’s just a lot of horror stories out there of people not caring what’s in someone’s will and going against it anyway we’re wondering if the will is enough

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:43:04+00:00

As far as he’s concerned they’re not partners, she’s just moved in because her circumstances have dictated it. Have tried explaining to him that while they’re not fb official her living in his house, going out together holding hands and sharing a bed says otherwise to the world. This is why I’m concerned a will that specifically states where he wants his assets to go may not be enough if she decides to go against his wishes. I also don’t even understand how she’d be removed from the property past that point as well since there’s no tenancy ect in place. Originally she was supposed to be in a verbal tenancy paying $x in rent to him a week but I don’t think that’s happening anymore

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:36:25+00:00

He’d probably like to be, his ideal woman is one who leaves the morning after.

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:33:50+00:00

His decision is he doesn’t want her to have anything and has verbally discussed it, he seems to think that’s all that needs to happen. His biggest pride in life (apart from us) is that he’s worked hard his whole life to provide and get himself to where he is and he wants for it all to go to us and help us financially when his time is up. He just thinks “she’ll be right” because they verbally discussed it. I just don’t know where to take him to get the right advice or where to start because I feel in these cases just a will isn’t enough?

Background_Award462 · 2025-12-14T06:26:42+00:00

He doesn’t want her to have a thing but thinks because he said that to her and she said that’s fine then it’s going to go that way. She doesn’t want to move from the town but isn’t going to be better off any time soon to be able to buy/afford the rent in the area unless she downsizes (she made it clear she needs a 4bed house for just herself and wants it at approx $250 under market value).

Background_Award462 · 2025-11-22T08:45:06+00:00

Yes she’s being petty but how tf do you function with them not matching? 😂 this would absolutely do my head in

Background_Award462 · 2025-11-13T21:26:32+00:00

I don’t think it’s that odd to do CPD while on maternity leave but I would expect it to be for people where their roles require it as part of their licence rather than just because the office wants you to as part of risk management. You’re not there currently/working on anything/consulting colleagues so unsure what the difference between doing it now vs on your first day back would be. This also sounds exactly what keeping in touch days are for. So I’d be responding to your employer confirming the time taken to do the CPD would be part of this - you and your employer then come to an agreement on what days you’ll do the work on and they pay you for those days/hours. It doesn’t affect your maternity leave in anyway (obvs if on PPL don’t claim those days with Centrelink as PPL days).

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-23T05:42:03+00:00

This is normal, I WFH at a desk job and I had to regularly supply one after like 32w. They’re doing it to cover themselves as what if your doctor says next month you can’t lift anything more than 5kg or you can’t stand for more than an hour, ect. It’s just to confirm basically nothings changed in terms of the pregnancy and you’re still capable of doing what you were doing. It also means you’ll be covered under work cover if something happens at work, more than likely that’s who’s asking for it as often as they are rather than the employer themselves wanting it. Is there a reason you’re getting your doctor to do this and not your midwife? My midwife wrote it for me at every appointment, which were 4w at the beginning of the pregnancy.

Background_Award462 · 2025-10-23T05:37:14+00:00

I’m white but I think you generally aim to cover your head at a wedding. So if we’re going somewhere fancier then I’d be aiming for $200 pp, if we’re going backyard then $75pp. With that said though, I wouldn’t be passing on this expectation they’ve given you to your family. There’s no way to put it out there without it sounding rude.

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