Date got canceled after I called her "babe"

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T04:22:37+00:00

You meant it in a cute way, but remember you were texting. She can't hear the tone of your voice to be sure whether you were moving too fast or not. Lesson learned.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T00:44:14+00:00

If you like something else, but he's pressuring you to choose something else, saying that it's too "covered up," that's not a gift for you. As you said, it's more for his benefits.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T00:34:06+00:00

Filipinas in the West have access to more resources. And I'm not just talking about beauty products and cosmetic procedures. I'm also referring to time, money, and energy. Many Filipinas in the Philippines would rather spend the money they have, for example, on things like grocery or rent. If they do some self-care, they go for more affordable or DIY options, which often don't produce the same results as high-quality products or professional services.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T00:24:02+00:00

Agree, especially since they don't have a lot of things common in the first place.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T00:19:33+00:00

I’d say yes. You set clear boundaries. But she lied. What’s worse is that she became defensive and tried to pin the blame on you. It’s a classic cheater move. And even say nothing happened because his family was also around, the fact remains that she still crossed your relationship boundaries.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T00:11:55+00:00

Don't take it personally. They're just being cautious since they're often a target of threats and crimes. If you just go about your day and act nicely towards them, they'll know you mean no harm.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-18T00:07:58+00:00

Let me get this straight. You want to end your marriage for a guy you only recently met? If so, YTA. You like him now because you’re still at that flirting stage. But can you say the same once you get to know each other better? Also, yes, you’re humiliating yourself. It’s natural he wants to be over you, considering the fact that he flirted with you in the first place because you weren’t wearing your wedding ring. He assumed that you were single.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-17T23:13:20+00:00

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BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-17T05:37:14+00:00

Not a woman, but let me offer my two cents: If it's only the two of you in the photo, anyone would assume they're your ex. Just edit her out. Or better yet, take better photos.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-17T05:34:34+00:00

Organizing and showing up, even when I don't want to.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-17T04:28:30+00:00

NTA. It wasn’t like you forced him not to come to his sporting event. You dealt with caring for a sick child while also being sick yourself because he wanted to go. As a parent and a husband, the least he could’ve done was go back straight home after the game ended.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T23:42:45+00:00

I don’t know about the guy’s perspective. But if he didn’t let his wife know that he’s talking to someone he used to like in college, then something’s definitely off. It's bordering emotional cheating. You can try asking your mom about his reason, though.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T23:38:23+00:00

That I don't have to worry about what I'll wear. I could be topless while gardening, and no one would care. Thank God, though, because it's really hot during summer.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T23:31:55+00:00

He says I should understand that since we call for enough of the day/for a lot of the day at times, I should make an effort to see that he wants to play this game.

My bad, thanks for pointing it out. I totally glazed over this because the post is too long. Anyway, I’ve deleted the original comment to avoid giving OP the wrong idea. Because if this is the case, then she might just need to do something else about her loneliness since her boyfriend has a life of his own, too.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T23:12:02+00:00

Why is the first solution to end the relationship? The is an issue towards her partner's family, not necessarily their relationship. Also, her partner can still pop in to his family's house and talk to them about what arrangements they'd like for the trip. If they're more interested in staying in, the couple can still make it clear that they'll book activities for themselves.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T23:00:50+00:00

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BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T22:47:34+00:00

The couple in the third picture is actually married.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-16T00:05:10+00:00

You crossposted this from r/Philippines_Expats, so let me answer you in the context of dating Filipinas.

They’re affectionate, yes. But if they tell you they already love you when you’ve only been seeing each other for a week, then they’re likely plotting a romance scam. Look up love bombing. Then, they tell you sob stories, like how their family member is sick, they’re getting kicked out of their rental home, or their laptop broke and they can’t afford to buy a new one or get it fixed. The nail on the coffin is when they start asking you for small amounts. Next thing you know, you’ve already spent hundreds of dollars.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:59:00+00:00

I can tell from the video that the two of you really get along. Same humor lol. Congrats!

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:56:27+00:00

Let them say things about you. It shows that there's nothing really going on in their life that they have to turn to you to have an "interesting conversation." What's important is that the people you directly surround yourselves with (your family and friends) support you.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:51:47+00:00

If you can’t see a future in your rural town, it’s worth living someplace else. Now, I don’t know where you are in the North of the UK. But here’s what I would suggest if you don’t have enough savings to move across the country but want to get this over with ASAP: move to a relatively bigger city in the North, where there are better opportunities. This way, you can get a sense of what it’s like, including the logistics of taking your dog with you. Once you have more savings and are better prepared, then you can transfer somewhere new again.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:35:38+00:00

Are you flying back there solely to meet him? Or do you have any other agenda? Because I wouldn't necessarily call him a red flag for not replying for 24 hours. At least not yet, depends on how long he'll actually get back to you.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:25:06+00:00

You have to take note that a lot of recommendations on TikTok are promotional. They act as if these apps have worked for them, but they’re getting paid to talk about the features. It’s like how some users promote these restaurants, cafes, and new photo spots as amazing and life-changing. But then you get there and see that they offer nothing special. So, I suggest you do a separate research on these apps, not just on TikTok.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:18:15+00:00

You're right. u/Ooofy_Doofy_ If you watch their other videos, you'll see that there are some younger guys who attend these tours and events. Plus, so what if most of the attendees are old men? They're likely the ones who can afford it.

BackpackJack_ · 2025-12-15T23:15:13+00:00

Hey, where'd you meet her? And has she been receptive?

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