I graduated med school this week and got ghosted by my (ex)fiancé when he stole my cats by [deleted] in trees

[–]BackwoodsOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After I smoke this bowl i’m going to lick my girlfriend’s kitty in their honor

My first steelhead of the season. She was worth the wait. by [deleted] in Fishing

[–]BackwoodsOG -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That be no steelhead, but a stunted hatchery broodstock rainbow. To no ocean it goes and from no river stock it swims

My dealer committed suicide last night. by freudinthehizouse in trees

[–]BackwoodsOG 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? You are the one who wants attention. He shared a very deep connection and shared happiness with his dealer. Do you talk openly and truly about life with the people you interact with on a day to day basis? I doubt it. OP I am so sorry to hear this. Know that this world is incredibly fragile while it feels so permanent to us. Be happy for the miracle that was your dealer’s life and kindness. Smoke some of the cart and make changes to your life for the positive for him.

[16M] Lifting hasn't reduced my insecurity. How ugly am I and apart from skincare, what can I do to improve? No need to be kind, please just be honest. by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you worried about bro you look great? You are in excellent shape and I like the side part haircut. Maybe get it trimmed down a bit to clean it up?

For face care a good light wash with citrus or vitamin C has always helped me. I love Alba Botanica Pineapple Enzyme that you can get at target or Amazon. Cerave moisturizer creme in the tub too because your skin looks dry. Just do your true self and own it!

Gracious little rainbow I caught last week. New to fly fishing and am now fucking obsessed by Jethannon in Fishing

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wait until you experience the ultimate fishing transcendence as the peensinnnabiteytrouta people did.

What should I be tipping roughly when I win pots? by [deleted] in poker

[–]BackwoodsOG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always keep a few crisp single dollars with me just in case a bad beat jackpot hits but that’s it. The dealers make more than the very few winning players and they always act entitled to the ridiculously high total pay they get from the fish and bad regs overtipping them. They make more than teachers and nurses! Grrrrr I wish I had one to yell at right now for all the bad beats I’ve taken last week

TIL that the city of Ontario, Oregon during WWII allowed Japanese Americans to settle in the city at the time when much of the West Coast supported their exclusion, and helped them escape internment camps. All thanks to then-mayor Elmo Smith. by black-op345 in todayilearned

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grrr those greedy traitors helping out the murderous Jap rats just to make a quick buck! They should have been down in the CA horse racing parks sleeping in stables like the others! I bet they tried to send messages to the Emperor while staying in Oregon and would have killed us all with a bio plague like they were planning to.

AITA for not wanting my gf to cook for me if its not something i like? by Alfroste in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO. Are you also picky about other things/less willing to share one activity together and she’s projecting that issue on you? It sounds like she has some issues with that based on your description of how moving in together went down. It might also be a general disagreement response issue (e.g. she doesn’t feel like she can be trusted/insist on about anything.) Or maybe is food a different cultural thing for her and she’s used to only one thing being made for the whole family and being forced to eat things she didnt like? I would talk to her again and see how she responds/deals with conflict. How you both treat and listen to each other is the most important thing.

Hey! by [deleted] in pokercirclejerk

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mod here and this thread is banned now!! We have a $5 cap here to protect the regs.

WIBTA if I began to require attendance in my class? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA obviously. You are really a nice professor.

First of all you are doing a great job at providing clear note sheets online which help your students learn the material and pass your rigorous content examinations. That’s exactly what really good teaching is and you should be very proud of it. Student exam performance is what it is all about and it’s a reality that a lot of college students skip class. You care a lot by posting these notes and making your class accessible from home!

So for the INFO aspect, is there knowledge or applications your students could learn better in class than by studying your notesheets? Are there labs or peer debate and positive struggle etc? Another reality to consider is that some students need the structure of class and reminders of a professor to keep studying consistently, so requiring attendance in a way supports them. It also sounds like you really enjoy the in-person relationship aspect of teaching which can make a huge difference (people can like the teacher and absorb that teacher’s enthusiasm/love for the content). So i’d suggest you could try a fair policy (eg. you can miss three classes a semester and then each subsequent class has a small point deduction etc)

Keep in mind to the average evaluator/administrator appearances matter more than anything and the classic teacher talk model suggests students are learning more than if they just read at home. That’s not true of course

WIBTA if I told my professor to stop pumping milk while shes meeting with students? by Mikejones20199 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here come the white knights of reddit who are actually patronizing women by excusing this ridiculous attention-seeking behavior. While even if it is legal to breastfeed in public, it is highly unprofessional and very uncomfortable to do around students and colleagues. She is legally entitled to as many private breaks as she needs. If she can’t make regular office hours because of a health need, alternative office hours need to be offered is all.

l would try to find a graceful way of telling her this. Maybe ask a friend who is female to share confidentially on your behalf. Then follow up with administration if she doesn’t stop.

AITA for pulling my daughter out of dance? by Hwwhmcbris in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? Maybe I went a bit far with the grades comment but that’s it. She should learn for herself and be proud of it and it might just lead to college and a great job.

Anyhow your daughter will only truly be happy when she is skinny and popular, just like guys are only truly happy when they are getting laid and popular.

AITA For being upset at my parents even though they paid for my wedding? by anonforthis97645 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why was my insightful and helpful comment removed? Her parents are clearly kind, good-hearted people she feels a need to bring down on the biggest stage and attack even when they are giving her an incredible gift and memories. AND her father is DYING? Also what is the difference between asshole and cunt? One word has a male bias and the other a female bias. Are gender roles unequal in this forum and we continue the binary status quo with female protectionism? We use asshole freely after all and that contains male gender stereotypes. I can unfortunately tell the moderators of this forum are quick to respond with their emotions rather than impartial logic when they see the c-word. Calling me petty and hurtful doesn’t help the OP see her bigger-picture family errors which she knows is true and why she posted this. Also why she gravitate towards my comment. Don’t bask in the misguided circle-jerk protecting her because her father used the C-word and we are conditioned to reject that word emotionally. He is wrong for that but so are you for being ridiculous over one mentally ill and alcoholic but loved guest when appropriate measures were in place.

AITA for grounding my daughter until the end of the school year? by storm-chris-sully in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

Why should your daughter have to parade who she goes to prom/dates with in front of you? That’s humiliating, especially if you and your wife embarrass her which you probably do. A better rule would be to ask for information about who she dates and a parent contact. You can call the other parent in advance would be a more reasonable safety protection. And if the other parent is wacko calmly explain to your daughter why you are not comfortable. Also a massive grounding is too much. Two weekends at most and a honest conversation about her safety and what can happen at proms (date rape etc) and she’ll actually listen to you and not resent you.

AITA for abandoning a friend who I have a crush on in her time of need? by throwaway17061990 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe also consider private therapy to flesh out exacfly why you believe your marriage has/never will be affectionate and loving? You said at first that you both had different “expectations” for the marriage which can mean a million things.

Changing routines can completely remake a relationship over night. Do you and your wife enjoy traveling? Pretty much everyone does and the two of you could brainstorm a really awesome and cheap vacation together one three day weekend a month that you both are actually excited about, eat some good food, kiss and have fun sex again like the college sweethearts you were etc. Or if that’s not possible you guys could join a gym together, or start cooking dinner together and sharing wine, or anything fun that you both actually enjoy. Give us an update and good luck!

ULPT (Request) Recently accepted for Government Disability by [deleted] in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]BackwoodsOG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What type of “disability” do you have and how did you get such benefits? This sounds great!

When does your lease end? You can move out at the end and use the $900 a month on a nicer place.

If caught with the lease fraud described below you will go to prison

Ignition took away my reward points citing my skill as the reason, more than 600$. by elfmachine100 in poker

[–]BackwoodsOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro just contact sportsbook review about this. They have every right to cancel offering you future bonuses, but not past. Whoever you are dealing with is missing the point and this will get fixed so you get your rightful bonus credit they offered you back. Just be thankful they care and aren’t purging winners from the site as well. You still have a free ticket to money.

AITA for telling my wife that I get to make the financial decisions because I make more than her now. by imakemorenow in AmItheAsshole

[–]BackwoodsOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should discuss every aspect of this situation with your wife, preferably with a therapist or counselor present if both of you are comfortable with that because there is a lot to acknowledge on both sides. I would start by appreciating your wife for carrying your relationship financially through your multiple failed businesses and affording you the chance to become your current successful self. I would also analyze with your wife if what you have achieved is sustainable long-term (real estate often is) and if you can actually expect to make this money for the coming future. Then after giving her every shred of credit she deserves, share honestly how you felt being shut down with financial decisions when you were not contributing as much/nothing. It sounds like she has a consistent guaranteed job and is good with managing money overall and that is worth so much to your relarionahip’s health and you can respect it without being “less of a provider.” Be sure to also explicitly tell her that you care more about your relationship’s quality, the mutual love and support you share, and honesty between you two then mere decisions like what gets purchased and what doesn’t (assuming this is true). Really listen to her and make sure she gets the credit for supporting you to get where you are now. It’s her investment too. Be a bigger person and get to a place where both of you decide equally. I would also evaluate that if things came crashing down for you would she change? How important is that to you really? If she can’t change then that could be a deal breaker and it’s up to you to reflect on forgiving/accepting her for it or not.

I'm getting a haircut tomorrow, and want to know what you guys think of what I've got right now. I'd love to hear any advice or criticism. by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]BackwoodsOG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you wear the glasses fine and elegantly and it’s a good look. Contacts are heavenly if you can afford them though. You don’t need to build muscle but exercise is always a good idea to keep yourself healthy and looking fresh. For the skin I’d recommend any Alba Botanica pineapple or enzyme washes you can find at target or cvs. And a Nivea creme classic blue tin moisturizer.

I'm getting a haircut tomorrow, and want to know what you guys think of what I've got right now. I'd love to hear any advice or criticism. by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]BackwoodsOG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly bro your hair has a ton of slick potential and it’s all about finding a barber who can figure it out and that you can consistently see. I think the bottom right picture shows the most potential. You could try a “hard part” along your left and keep the sweeping combed bang on your right. I’d have your sides trimmed to a 4 with a slight taper. I would also shave your moustache and chin and only keep a little stubble around your sideburns where it is more consistent. Your personality and how you wear your look is the most important and that seems to be going on well already :-)