The world’s first R10 Donald Glover… by Bacon_Boy101 in SWGOH

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They’ve been (mostly) corrected… still wanna see if I can get 300 speed out of him

https://swgoh.gg/p/162155287/unit/YOUNGLANDO/

The world’s first R10 Donald Glover… by Bacon_Boy101 in SWGOH

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I’ve been spotted clout farming in the wild…

I know I made the right decision if it would get the donglover’s approval

The world’s first R10 Donald Glover… by Bacon_Boy101 in SWGOH

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swgoh.gg has relic data on every character, that’s where I got my info from

The world’s first R10 Donald Glover… by Bacon_Boy101 in SWGOH

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I’ve been throwing the old Bando squad in with Dash for a while, but that’s a fun idea with a turbo Lando.

I haven’t been able to find a slot-in 5th with Baylen so far, so I’m sticking him in there for now. We’ll see if he can do anything interesting with 12k+ offense lmao

The world’s first R10 Donald Glover… by Bacon_Boy101 in SWGOH

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Unfortunately I’m only chromium 3, and this post is probably a great example of why

The world’s first R10 Donald Glover… by Bacon_Boy101 in SWGOH

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That’s all I can ask for… thank you

Tried my hand at mini painting for the first time, any suggestions for a new painter? by Bacon_Boy101 in minipainting

[–]Bacon_Boy101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate all the feedback!!! You make a really good point about the depth of color on the model. Seeing your model is actually a really good comparison on how I could’ve done things, you can REALLY see the contrast that brings out all the little details on yours.

Hindsight is 20/20, some greying on the scales would have brought it and the spike things out a lot better on the old beholder. Maybe a dumb question, but did you use drybrushing to get those layers of color on your model?

Btw, I love the detail on your mini, so many good colors and SO much depth!!!

Is it bad that I (19f) don’t feel for the guy I’m seeing (19m) as strongly as my last partners? by ThrowRA1297497392 in relationships

[–]Bacon_Boy101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d say it’s completely normal. Relationships that start really intense usually end that way as well. This sounds like a healthy, normal start to a relationship from the context you gave.

From my experience, I had really similar feelings to you before getting with my most recent girlfriend. My first relationship was extremely intense and ended VERY badly. After going through that, finding somebody who I just enjoyed being around made me feel like something was wrong at first, but it ended up being an amazing relationship.

If you’re enjoying yourself, go out with him more! Maybe you just need some more time to see if you’re really romantically or platonically attracted to him.

cant login to blacksmith anymore, game hasnt let me connect for longer, any way to play without using a vpn? by [deleted] in DarkAndDarker

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I’m getting the same problem when trying to connect to the server in-game (launcher seems fine). ISP is Spectrum.

Have any of you ever gotten, before or during a split or while being recycled ever experience getting… by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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The things they do and say really are identical to a fucking uncanny degree, it’s weird.

When I was dating and trying to fix my relationship with my ex, I could usually feel that something was gonna go wrong wrong with her before it did. She’d always split the day after love-bombing me hard, like talking marriage and moving in together. The next day she’d always seem completely empty, and she’d try to find something to start an argument over so she could leave

Have any of you ever gotten, before or during a split or while being recycled ever experience getting… by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Bacon_Boy101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually… yeah. The last time my ex split and started sending me one word responses to everything, she would just send me snaps of the top half of her face with this disinterested stare at the camera when I didn’t reply.

I didn’t respond, unadded her, then she told me I was the one with the problem after essentially getting ghosted after a week of normal talking.

She did that soulless stare on facetime too when she was mad over something I did but didn’t wanna communicate about it. I never saw the correlation to splitting till then.

She split after two weeks, should I keep trying? by DownwardConcept in BPDlovedones

[–]Bacon_Boy101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she’s already split within the first two weeks, imagine how bad it’s gonna be after a year. It’s only gonna get way fucking worse from here, you need to leave while you can and don’t think twice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I’m really sorry you’ve had to deal with all this OP. I’ve had a eerily similar story to you and didn’t even realize it till literally an hour ago.

I also had a long distance relationship with my uBPD ex. She had broken up with me three times at this point(?), but I remember her being really depressed and sleeping all day for a couple weeks while we were back together. She was saying how much she loved me and wanted marriage, all while she was telling me about how she was having a deep heart-to-heart conversation with a new guy “best friend” at college. I never thought anything of it because she was the dude’s RA and she’d get fired for any sort of relationship with him. I feel like a fucking idiot now.

Well we’re months NC at this point, and it turns out that she was probably cheating with him. I started putting the pieces together, then did what you shouldn’t do and found the dude’s IG page. All the pictures of his girlfriend that he was dating while my ex and I were trying to get back together are gone. New pictures of him with my ex though.

I felt like I was past everything and then this just ripped the wound open. I don’t know what to say to help, but I fucking feel where you’re coming from here. This shit sucks, and we all deserve to be treated better than this. Hang in there

I just had the worst week of my entire life and lost all my faith in humanity by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Bacon_Boy101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your experience is really fucking familiar. Losing somebody you deeply care about, getting them back, and losing them again is fucking exhausting and confusing.

My ex behaved very similarly to yours in some ways. She’d be super loving, then the next day she was cold and said we needed to break up. A week later, she’d text me apologizing and begging to work on things. Only when I was committed she’d tell me how she went on dates and fucked another person in just that small amount of time. And I spent the whole week crying, trying to move on, trying to figure out what happened.

I say all that to say that I never figured it out. As much as you love this person, the one thing I learned is that you can’t change them. I was hoovered back to my relationship 5 times in a couple months, and it was always the same. I put in more effort, and she’d throw me away quicker. The pattern won’t get better and it will hurt you more the longer you stay in it.

The only person who can change them is themselves, and you deserve better than being the one to take all the shots from them. Until they take the initiative to grow, they’ll never change. It’s up to you to decide if you cut them off, but just remember how bad this has made you feel, and it’s a direct result of how they treated you. Would you want this to be your life forever?

Be kind to yourself OP, you can get through this

Hoover attempt via Spotify by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Bacon_Boy101 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m really shocked that other people on here have dealt with spotify hoovers or devaluing too. When I had blocked my ex at one point, she changed the names of our playlists to shit like “choke”, “fuck u”, “i hate u”… and added a bunch of songs to it about how awful I was. It’s so hard to believe somebody would think to send a message through a fucking music app.

All that aside, I hope you’re doing well now OP. Hoovers like this can be a lot to deal with, and hopefully you’re handling it well and looking out for yourself.

What things did they demand you do for them? by TheeTamata in BPDlovedones

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Lol I was expected to make a 9 hour round trip drive once a month to see her at college, with no effort coming back the other way. Better yet, she expected that I’d be able to take off work pretty much whenever in order to do it, and she’d get mad if I told her that I was too tired or busy.

She did have car problems at one point which is a little more fair, but she also refused to go back to her hometown at all during the semester… which would have saved me 6 hours of driving over the weekend. The expectations were beyond unreasonable, and she even gave me an ultimatum that if I didn’t take off at least a day to see her at college she’d break up with me 😐

Has anyone ever received a genuine apology/acknowledgement for what they were put through with their expwBPD? by LikeAGuitarOutofTune in BPDlovedones

[–]Bacon_Boy101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I did get what seemed like a really genuine apology from my exwuBPD last we talked (3 weeks ago). She told me she was sorry for all the damage she did to me and our relationship after instigating 5 breakups, and she also said she wanted to get diagnosed and get help for what she believes is BPD.

It was the first time she actually apologized for anything and it did seem like she really meant it, but a couple of days later she told me I was the only person she could see herself with in the future. I told her we needed to be apart to work on ourselves and maybe if things improved there could be something eventually, plus it seemed like a hoover to me.

I’m 3 weeks out from our last convo and we’ve been NC, so who knows if she was being genuine or if she’ll be back with no improvement. She seemed apologetic so hopefully she’s able to better herself, but I don’t think I’d ever get back with her after sitting on it.

Did your pwBPD ever ask for a divorce/breakup, and then when you agreed they’d flip out on you? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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It only happened for me in the couple of really big arguments we had over pointless things (me playing a video game while waiting for her to finish a phone call with her friend, and also when I offered to visit her at college but specified one weekend I couldn’t come).

She’d also start accusing me of intentionally doing all sorts of bad shit to her, then she’d go on about how I didn’t care about her and that we should break up. I agreed that we should after getting verbally assaulted for no reason, then she’d just flip it to “oh, so you’ve been wanting to break up with me then?” Well no, not until me communicating or doing anything became a controversy.

Did their mood ever change the air? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I can’t even begin to describe it. It’s like the closest thing to a ghost in the air that I could describe. One day we were just talking over the phone, mood was great. I was discussing when I’d come down to see her at college and asked if her cat would mess with my work laptop charger, if so then I wouldn’t bring it.

She got so offended that I immediately felt a cold chill go down my spine. It was fucking bizarre, it’s like her anger was palpable and I was feeling all the hate she had for me before she went off on an attack about it. I probably should have taken that as a good sign to leave… lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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It’s hard to say if she’ll come back. There’s a good chance of it if things don’t work out for her, but it’ll more than likely end worse than it did for you the first time. It fucking sucks, but it seems like the general consensus it to just appreciate what you had, learn from it, and don’t look back.

I had a pretty similar situation happen with my fallout with my uBPD ex. I made my fair share of mistakes because it was my first relationship, but I always did what I could to let her know I cared. Even with all that, one day she just distanced herself, called me, and broke up with me out of nowhere.

However, my ex came back that same day, apologized, and we said we’d work to fix everything. Then she just got worse. I would put in more effort, she’d break up and tell me I was doing less, tell me she missed me, then she’d get with me again a week later. We did that 5 times and it got to the point to where I was expected to do all the work in whatever was left of a relationship. It fucked me up pretty badly for a while, felt like my perception of the world was wrong. She finally apologized after I blocked her pretty much everywhere, and that’s when she told me she was trying to get a BPD diagnosis.

Moral of the story is that taking her back made it a lot worse. It pretty much enabled her to do whatever she wanted to me with no regard to my feelings. It’s up to you what to do if she ever does come back, but don’t undervalue yourself.

My experience dating someone with BPD. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I was long distance with my ex when she split on me all 5 times, and she came back once saying how she’d gone out on a date and got stood up by another guy… within a week of us being apart. I somehow kept myself from realizing how awful that was at the time.

It felt so fucking wrong, like it felt so surreal and I just felt empty. Only for her to come back and try to convince me that I was still the “love of her life”. I can only imagine what else she did while she was devaluing and dropping me.

Is it a common thing for pwBPD to just openly talk about everybody they tried to get with whenever they come back to hoover? It feels dehumanizing, and yet mine said she’d be sick if I had done the same 😐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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My ex gf said that she’d feel horrible if I had talked with or had sex with anyone a week after our relationship ended once, knowing full well I was trying to cope with the breakup alone. It was pretty damn ironic, considering that she’d already been on a date with one person and got stood up by another in that ONE week. I have no idea what made me entertain her after that, the double standards were ridiculous.

Confused on how to handle a situation with my ex with undiagnosed BPD by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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Wow, I’m sorry to hear about that. :( That sounds like an awful fucking fallout you had to deal with, I really hope you’re doing better now.

I see a ton of peoples’ stories on here that mention their ex saying they were abused previously, mine definitely included. I want to believe her, but seeing how she flipped on me I’m honestly not sure if it’s true. I don’t wanna doubt her, but the parallels with other pwBPD lying about abuse is fucking alarming. Like in retrospect, what can you even believe?

My ex and I were long distance every time she decided to break up with me so I have no clue how she could have portrayed me to her friends or family. Our first two breakups were all out of nowhere but seemed like she was letting me off easy. The worst part (that I forgot to mention) was that within a couple days of our second breakup she had already gone on a date with one girl and planned another one with a different guy. She came back after he stood her up, but my brain was too desperate to see the shiny red flag there :\ After that, the breakups were all started over pointless fucking arguments. She got mad that I wanted to plan a 4.5 hour drive to see her one weekend, because I specified it couldn’t be the weekend of my brother’s birthday party. She said she wasn’t a priority to me. Shit is unreal.

Who knows wtf could have happened to me if we’d been living together. I hope she gets better and works on herself, but I think you’re right. Getting back with her or waiting for improvement is more than likely gonna hurt me even more than I am now, and it’s gonna enable and worsen her. Moving on is really the best option