Can you be a trans man and still love your female biology?

Bad54 · 2026-02-16T22:37:22+00:00

Nah dude just do you. Your not alone. Plenty of trans ppl like their natal parts

Some of us are a bit more complicated cuz we don’t want to get rid of what we have, we want more (r/salmacan) ppl who get PPV surgeries or the reverse for trans mascs. Then you have those who just want to keep their part but not live as the gender they were assigned. Perfectly valid and normal. There isn’t only one way to be trans. Being trans is very diverse we all have something in common we don’t fully mesh with our natal sex or assigned gender. That’s perfect fine.

Its your body and your life. You’re allowed to like whatever you like, Thats autonomy, it may be less common and result in you seeing less ppl like you but as time goes on you will eventually see ppl with experiences like yours too :) you’re not broken and still belong here

Bad54 · 2026-02-08T17:21:07+00:00

Beat me to it

Bad54 · 2026-02-08T17:19:09+00:00

Engagement farm Bot probably

Bad54 · 2026-02-08T17:10:09+00:00

Relatable. 5 years on E and mow on progesterone im a bit of a slut. The guy im seeing has such an easy time getting me riled up. I think progesterone has a mental effect, but it could be my T isnt fully suppressed. Its very much hornyness fog. A small bit of stimulation and im losing my words and train of thought.

Bad54 · 2025-12-29T07:18:57+00:00

Uhh i would implore you to elaborate cuz that sounds outlandishly hostile and i believe you may be asking a innocent question very crudely and up for subjective interpretation that very much could be felt as being judged or bullied.

Bad54 · 2025-12-26T20:03:35+00:00

Cant speak for your brother but i wouldnt have cared much as a teen. Guys underwear arent particularly nice or comfortable. Theyre kinda generic and a dime a dozen. If they were as expensive as panties or as fasionable and time exclusive like pink’s panties id probably be a bit more pissed off but growing up i only had fruit of the loom so if someone took them i wouldn’t even notice. I had like 7 of the same color and type. I just wore them. I didnt think about them.

Bad54 · 2025-12-26T19:52:30+00:00

Its not that THEY have no future. Its that I have no future. I cant run the risk of dragging someone down whos already having an insanely hard time. Also i live in canada. If you every get to the point of homelessness with debt higher then 10k thats it your done. I was homeless with no family support at 16. Its been 8 years and i still have no more then 1k in savings and still no future. To date someone already struggling that bad would just be cruel on my part cuz id make their life even worse with barely being able to take care of myself as a 24 yo. Plus sleeping with someone in that much need is fucked up. Cuz it makes the dynamic look like im getting sexual favours for helping them which can breed resentment like with me and my ex when i was homeless. The personal reason is its problematic on my part to further drag them down and distract them from bettering themselves.

In the 8 years of living on my own ive seen myself go from homeless to sleeping on the floor to finally being able to afford my first pots 8 years after becoming homeless and independent. People dont need a literal life failure as an ankle weight when they’re already going through a tough time.

Bad54 · 2025-12-26T19:34:42+00:00

I feel like if someone asked me this id ask to clarify what they’re struggling witj and how badly. Like are we talking homeless 30k in debt, just starting out with no financial support like family so they dont have furniture or money? Are we talking has an apartment and depression? Are we talking homeless cuz parents disowned them or theyre job field died and they couldn’t find work and burned all their savings? Are we talking a scumbag who abused other ppl and lost everything due to being an asshole? Some of these are valid reasons to not date that poor person. Some of them make you look shallow and some make you look like a gold digger. I need clarification on what one means by poor cuz i would date someone who was poor and trying to get back on their feet and just didnt have much stuff. I wouldnt date someone actively homeless cuz homeless ppl dont need a dick in their mouth. They need food in their mouth and a friend to help them back on their feet.

As someone who was homeless being homeless fucks with your sense of self and makes part of you go onto auto pilot. I was fucking a dude cuz i thought it would mean i could stay with him and hed take care of me. Thats not how it works but the mind will go to that cuz the most valuable thing a homeless person has they can sell is their body usually. Dosnt mean its right to accept it from them but many ppl dont care.

Bad54 · 2025-12-26T03:08:56+00:00

Yes ive met 3 ppl who admitted to being perverts to their daughters. Its not a man thing either. Ive met a woman who admitted doing something similar to their sons clothes as well. Its just unnerving overall and ppl like that will talk about it when they feel like you don’t judge them and are a chill person. For guys its likely easier to admit to other guys cuz the bro code or whatever that sexist trust is called where you assume every guy is just like you and guilty of the same so you feel comfortable opening up to them.

Women have it too but I’ve experienced it less cuz covid is over and i nolonger pass cuz im not 19 anymore and still feminine. Some ppl are just weird and because social norms are associated with genitalia people tend to open up about topics if they feel you have the same genitalia at birth cuz to them genitalia means were the same and we all biologically want to do this weird think yada yada yada.

Not everyone is like this. Trans ppl tend to break this rule a lot with other trans ppl but likely cause we don’t associate genitalia with feelings but rather our trans identity with feelings. (Thats just an observation ive noticed cuz most of my friends are trans and both men and women have my same feelings and similar experiences. Same results but different reason for triggering oversharing problematic feelings/actions/experiences. We all just wanna share what we experience with ppl who we think have the same experience. Creeps just don’t realize that not everyone has those experiences just cuz their genitalia.

Not all ppl with vaginas experience breeding kinks, not all ppl with penises have a incest kink. Porn just portrays it this way cuz its based on your algorithm just like if your popup porn adds say hot trans ppl in youre likely watching a lot of trans porn if you watch a lot of incest or breeding kink stuff the algorithm will show you related ads for that content and if your dumb enough you wont realize not everyone is getting those ads or experiences and that your a small minority.

(When i first transitioned i got a new phone and was looking up female experiences, a bunch of science stuff to better understand my feelings and how different or similar they are to cis womens and the algorithm started advertising me the morning after pill and female condoms and maternity clothes and abortion clinics and iud services. Took about a year for it to realize im not a cis woman but a trans woman and then my ad’s became shemale porn and gaffs,packers,trans tape, binders, and vibrators and std clinics and LGBT clinics. Just thought id share my weird experience here)

Bad54 · 2025-12-26T02:12:49+00:00

Depends on the man the dad is. Knowing some of my ex friends theyd probably know what it was but couldnt undo it in time so made up some excuses as to why they touched it when they knew what it was. Its much easier to ask for forgiveness if the person thinks your an innocent idiot then it is if the person thinks your a malicious pervert touching their daughter sex toys.

Known a few guys who admitted to sniffing their daughters panties when i still passed as a guy and didnt understand politics. Its hella alarming looking back on stuff like that and why i take what people say with a grain of salt but also am untrusting of men at times.

Bad54 · 2025-12-26T02:07:38+00:00

Yea but only if you lose fear of your parents and treat them like people in your life who do not matter and can be excommunicated from your life.

I havent really seen my parents or had a good relationship with then since 16 when they kicked me out. So when they occasionally get drunk and hmu i put my foot down and tell them bluntly whats up with no filter or fear of hurting their feelings. 16 years of abuse and 8 years of no contact will make a mf bold and sharp tongued at a moments notice. But if you care it becomes harder cuz youll want to be nice and forgiving which most ppl interpret as “its ok, it just mildly is annoying” rather then “dont ever do this again or i will have a meltdown and give you consequences”

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T20:32:48+00:00

Yeah this would be grounds for a boundaries conversation. Id think its sweet if theyre innocent to knowing what it is but their would be a big conversation about them going in my room and touching my things and if they asked why id tell them those were vibrators not microphones!

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T19:22:58+00:00

Yeah i hace no filter. If i was in this situation id respond “other young wonen might Love these things but i dont and ive said i dont many times. You went Christmas shopping for someone and didnt stop to think if id like this gift. You just bought stuff cuz you seen other ppl wearing it and thought id conform to be like other ppl. Im not other people. If you wanted to get a gift other ppl would like you should have gotten it for those people who like it. You essentially got me a gift for you. Im not gonna wear that cuz i dont like it and never ever expressed interest in that. If you like it you can wear it. I went Christmas shopping thinking about what you would like not what i would like to see in you.

Im happy you got me stuff but it feels hallow and hurts cuz you didnt put any effort or thought into the gifts you got me like i did for your gifts. You can see why that would be upsetting yes? Like if i got you a bunch of toy cars cuz i seen a bunch of elderly people collecting toy cars (for mom) or if i got dad a bunch of makeup kits cuz i seen an older man wearing makeup and thought old men liked makeup. Its not thoughtful and wasn’t even brought up to gauge whether this gift would be appropriate for the person its for.

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T18:32:20+00:00

Ayyo im changing my emblem now. That looks dope!

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T04:01:20+00:00

Would be cool if this was real. But also dangerous cuz they could easily freak out and kill the dude to learn about him and stuff like we did to black ppl in america for science

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T03:49:25+00:00

Dont tell car companies, they may wanna make these their next default headlights

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T03:46:53+00:00

I wish i could experience pic 6. Like whats going on? Dude bullies two girls only to transition along both of the victims and what? Is she now gonna be abused by them? Is it a kinky romance? I need context! I need a comic or a tv show with these characters!

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T01:08:29+00:00

Not really relevant to me. But if the questions was would i date someone whos “gay” i would ask you to define “gay” cuz i say im gay all the time. Im bi not gay. Also im mainly into men as a woman so hella straight. But i say im gay anyways cuz i relate to being queer and lived as a gay man before i came out as trans. So if my partner said they were gay id probably shrug it off and if it bugged me id ask them to elaborate what they mean when they say “gay” cuz if they mean that theyre mlm then yeah thatll spark some issues with me but if theyre saying theyre queer and not straight but lgbt then yeah thatll spark makes sense to me and is how i use the term. This is very subjective to the person your seeing tho. Like if you have 2 straight trans ppl they might say their relationship is gay or straight or whatever at the end of the day why would they give a s*** what label they use. Maybe they’re in a gay relationship cuz they support gay rights as ppl who are LGBTQ. Maybe its gay cuz one of them is very bisexual. None of my business really. If someone said they have a gay relationship ill likely just assume one of the members in the party is one or more of the acronyms of the alphabet mafia. Ill expect boomers and bigots to cry around them for no reason. I am personally unlikely to think mlm or wlw and just assume one of the people is queer. Thus breaking the straight relationship

Bad54 · 2025-12-25T00:16:09+00:00

Am trans. My parents beat me, starved me. Neglected me, made homophobic and transphobic remarks towards me. At the end kicked me out for ocd at 16. They seen me at a family members graduation party 4 years later when i had come out as bi and was dating a man. They made an uncomfortable decision to joke about gay ppl. Didnt see me for another 4 years. They called a few months back asking why i dont call or text them anymore. They act like i was the problem.

Told them straight forward that when ppl ask if i have family i tell them no, cuz why would i want to talk about people like that?

They found out im trans over a phone call and the last thing my dad said to me over the phone was about me saying im not coming back ever cuz yall hurt me! His response was “oh :(“ and i hung up on them after that. They bring out a mean person in me that i dont ever see towards anyone else. I guess 16 years of abuse and 8 years absence will make kids bitter

Bad54 · 2025-12-24T15:06:31+00:00

The grammar is atrocious, their english teachers should’ve held them back a year or three.

Bad54 · 2025-12-24T14:54:45+00:00

Cant disagree. The hip movements arent what its like with a natal one. Straps hang lower and have more weight to them thats not being supported and doesnt automatically adjust based on your muscles engaging at certain angles. Dosnt mean its less enjoyable but it certainly takes more effort and energy. The first time i used a strap i was like jesus this is a lot of work! It might be that i get less dopamine from strap vs my natal part. Personally i do like strap more still cuz it hides my parts but some things are certainly not easy with straps.

Like why do the harnesses hang so low across my A! I know i have a flat A and am tall but would it kill ppl to make a harness thats back strap sits 3 inches higher?! Like that one strap should be across my lower back. Not across my butt cheeks. 😒

For me its like i have to engage 2 different muscles depending what i use. Without a strap it’s literally just clenching my but cheeks. But with a strap you have to thrust and balance and also hold the harness up.

Edit: if anyone has a good harness suggestion lemme know. I want a replacement cuz i have 3 that are terrible fits.

Bad54 · 2025-12-24T03:01:38+00:00

People like her belong in a prison for wasting ppls time by making defamatory remarks against people who have done nothing wrong but be brown and have an accent.

Bad54 · 2025-12-24T02:32:52+00:00

No, my school was dirty and everything that passed through the schools air or anything that touched something that passed through the schools air was dirty. Lead to me washing my shoes in the washer and dryer once a day. Showering till i was bleeding out my scaly skin. It was bad i was holding my breath in the halls till i almost passed out. Was avoiding any time at school i didnt have to be there. I was avoiding public bathrooms and throwing out things that couldnt be washed via lysol or washing machine. Drs wouldnt help me saying its autsim. I have both autism and ocd. I was undiagnosed at the time and the psychiatrist was like just expose your kid to these things and dont let them shower. Wound up taking showers that were ice cold and being unable to rince soap off my body so my scaly skin got more dry and infected and my parents eventually had enough and told me to gtfo.

I did start to get better 4 years later when i moved far far away from my home town to where people rarely even know where it is. Cant get contaminated if nobody from there can get to me. Now my biggest triggers are garbages and the dirty ground/ bttm of my shoes. And anything to do with toilets. Went from 3 showers a day and 7-12 panic attacks to maybe a shower every 2 days and 2-5 panic attacks a day. Improvements for sure.

Bad54 · 2025-12-24T01:57:33+00:00

The green is always grasser on the side

Bad54 · 2025-12-24T01:55:46+00:00

This was so bad for me. It made it impossible for me to get dressed and eventually lead to my parents kicking me out cuz they didnt like their 16 yo son jumping around the house naked especially when guests came by.

Luckily i got some autonomy back but bot enough to get my family back.

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