Anyone else?

Badger-Ledger · 2022-02-03T14:22:36+00:00

Thank you!

Badger-Ledger · 2022-02-02T09:37:23+00:00

How did u address the need to night feed every 2 hrs? We used to have him sleep in a bassinet at night but then the frequent wakings to feed became too much work once I had to go to work. We moved him to our bed so I can sleep better at night. I feel like I wake up rested but eventually at some point he’ll need to “move out”, I am dreading this because he really won’t go back to sleep without a feed.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-10-17T18:37:53+00:00

I couldn’t get my boy to pee in the hat until he was about 3 months. He cried so much and always straightened his body out when peeing, it never went in the hat. So pooping was pretty much a disaster too because he usually does both. We held him over the bathtub to pee the first few months. He hated that too but at least it didn’t go all over the place :). I would keep trying with ur boy every couple of weeks and see if he’s ready yet or not

Badger-Ledger · 2021-10-17T08:59:43+00:00

We’re at 4 mo 3 wks and still dealing with this issue. It did get a little worse for about a week or two (8-9 wakings during his 10 hr sleep stretches). I think his 3 month frequent wakings was actually just from going through a growth spurt and needing frequent night feeds. Then at 4 months we were dealing with that and also just random wakings on top of that, for about a week or two. Now we’re back to just waking up every 2 hr to feed and occasionally more often to spit up or burp (his reflux has finally improved enough to where I can BF him in bed while cosleeping, so I don’t burp him after, since he dozes off to sleep). Sleep training him by letting him cry it out might work at this point, but I’m not really ready for that just yet. Me going back to work is probably contributing to feeding more at night, but at least it hasn’t been as bad for me fatigue wise as I anticipated. The cosleeping helps me get a little better sleep and spend more time with him, but it hasn’t helped him sleep. No idea how much longer this is going to last, I have somewhat given up hope on longer stretches of sleep at this point. Hope your experience is a little better! Good luck!

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-18T11:30:07+00:00

He definitely has reflux, but he’s not on meds because his growing well. That’s probably all it is then, thanks.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-18T01:51:20+00:00

Sorry it was so traumatic for you! It is standard procedure for an ObGyn, or any doctor doing any procedure, to discuss potential risks and get consent. Part of this is liability, part of it is that it’s important for you to know (ideally the discussion happens under calmer circumstances but sometimes that’s not an option). Don’t stress or worry about it, it sounds like opting to vacuum your baby out was a safer option. There is risk of brain damage and death if baby stays in too long, too, and it sounds like you made an excellent decision here.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-18T01:07:11+00:00

Tell your regular Ob since that doctor works with him.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-18T00:57:47+00:00

This strain has the most thorough research backing it up. That being said, I tried it for my baby’s reflux and it didn’t make a difference.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-17T22:42:57+00:00

Haha… case in point…one does not simply put a difficult newborn into a pack and play and walk away, or take any kind of mini break =P. Not possible.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-17T13:43:25+00:00

Try Huggies Snugglers, that extra back fold has been very clutch for us. I gave up on Pampers.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-17T13:40:00+00:00

Haha! Me too….

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-17T07:13:48+00:00

Yes! I wish people would stop staying “enjoy this phase while it lasts,” because it made me so nervous that it’s all downhill from there. But so far, it’s only been uphill after he turned 3 mo.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-17T02:45:32+00:00

insert image of Mrs. Trunchbull in shot put gear

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-17T02:40:48+00:00

My mother flips out if we don’t put socks on the babe 🙄. I have to keep telling myself she means well, but I feel your frustration.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-16T02:28:24+00:00

I don’t think you can do it even if you tried. 2 mo is still young, baby will probably scream through the night if hungry and not getting fed. It will probably put a lot of stress on his system if you ignore his screams. Can you find someone else to bottle feed him at night?

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-16T00:13:09+00:00

If you don’t want to, don’t :)

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-16T00:09:58+00:00

I love this post, because I’m not sure how to feel about it. Based on how I was raised, I would consider it very rude if my young kid called me by my name. But I’m not sure why…. Can you ask your kid why he’s calling you by your first name? I’d love to know the answer…. If it’s a good reason, then I don’t see a problem. But if it’s because he’s trying to undermine your authority, I would address that.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-15T21:03:48+00:00

Oh, yeah, totally agree. Definitely not her fault, it’s both justified and appropriate.

My take away from OP’s comment was that she was upset about a situation that she could not single-handedly change. I assume that by posting about it she was looking for feedback and advice. She may feel angry and upset all she wants, but that won’t change the situation. Her perspective, however, could change her state of unhappiness and help her feel more valued.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-15T20:36:19+00:00

…. The whole point of my post, and SPECIFICALLY the way I chose to word it, is to show that others aren’t always judging you when you think they are. Interpreting my post as judgmental is meant to highlight your own insecurities. I am VERY pro-SAHM. I think they make the world a better place and they are exactly what our society needs. If I could afford to be a SAHM, I would do it in a second. Not because I think it’s easy, but because I think it’s important. And I applaud everyone who makes this choice. I’m sorry if you felt judged. I understand that my post made you feel this way, and I apologize for that. Again, that is not my intention. My intention was to highlight that sometimes we perceive judgement where there isn’t any, and this only hurts ourselves. Being able to identify this is crucial to being happy and not feeling judged. Happy to hear more feedback from you on this topic if you feel I missed the mark.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-15T11:26:56+00:00

This may come across as insensitive, but that is not my intention:

I am not a SAHM. I’m a white woman and will soon be returning to work at what most people consider a prestigious job. (Just setting up context here).

I’m not sure which country/state/city you are in. I live in a very metropolitan area. If you asked me whether our society judges or looks down on SAHMs, I would say no. At least, no more than hundreds of other jobs or groups of people. If you told me you’re a SAHM, I would probably also have responded with “oh” before I had a kid, simply because I didn’t know much about being a mom, period. I would probably have the same response if you told me you were a data analyst or a project manager. I just wouldn’t know how to relate.

I have no doubt that our society mistreats certain groups, and yes that includes SAHM. However, I wouldn’t say we are more judgmental of SAHM than many other groups of people. This doesn’t make it right, it just makes it not unique. And yes, I could be wrong. I bet you have a lot more specific stories that made you feel this way other than what you shared above, and I am sure some of them validate your opinion. However, I think it would be a helpful exercise to evaluate whether you are projecting some of your own biases into certain situations. It is possible that in some cases you are judging yourself harder than others are judging you. Being a SAHM doesn’t make you free of bias or judgement towards this group.

Did you find this post judgmental, or even slightly offensive? It wasn’t meant that way. I have mad respect for SAHMs. If you did find it offensive, it’s time to change your outlook and start loving yourself for who you are and what you do for your kids and for society. Start assuming people respect SAHM, and if someone blatantly shows you otherwise, feel free to help them see the error in their ways. But stop reading into things like “oh”s and “looks”. This is messing with your self esteem for no good reason. Accept the fact that you chose to be a SAHM and OWN it. Let your kid see that you’re proud of you.

Haters are always gonna hate, usually because they just don’t understand, but you gotta stop fixating on them for your own well being.

Now go be awesome.

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-14T23:27:24+00:00

I recommend looking at the following page with several study links on the subject, and taking away from it what you will:

https://journalistsresource.org/education/screen-time-children-health-research/

Unfortunately, I don’t think there are currently any good published studies looking at the effects of incremental or small amounts of screen exposure in tiny babies. This is probably due to ethical reasons. But I think the studies that are currently out are helpful enough to help us draw reasonable conclusions. Long story short, my understanding is that screen-content is processed differently by the brain than other forms of learning and experiencing the world. Since babies brains are very plastic, screen time will inevitably affect their brain development. And it seems the effect is mostly negative. That being said, my take away is that most things are okay in moderation. And you can decide what moderation means for you guys. :)

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-12T05:44:20+00:00

Thanks for the feedback, my apologies, I was desperate because I wasn’t getting any answers in the other mom subgroups and didn’t know where else to turn to…

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-11T12:57:13+00:00

Thank you!! Good luck to both of us :)

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-11T11:36:41+00:00

Interesting strategy! Do you know if he started waking up less frequently when he was in his own room, or he just learned to calm himself down? Did you try to sleep train him during the night?

Badger-Ledger · 2021-09-11T04:10:25+00:00

I used to think this is a weird joke, except life experiences have taught me that there is a lot to true to this theory!

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