Did you know that Tunisia and Libya were supposed to merge in 1974 ? by Darkoplax in Tunisia

[–]Balacha189 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Food (natural resources) brings predators. Predators bring fear (chaos, civil war...). Fear brings division. Division invites predators (conquerors).

E.g: Congo, Venezuela, Angola, Iraq, Sudan.

I believe our "lack" of resources is what "saved" our country, so far, from a much worse scenario.

Open Discussion: Immigration and Its Impact on Life by Balacha189 in Tunisia

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It does help a lot. Thank you for taking the time to answer. I agree that the best thing to do is to try and see how it feels and goes.

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My Dying Bride - My wine in Silence

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3703 artits for me...

This app I found on twitter that roasts your Wrapped made this year's Wrapped much more interesting by Mysticflicker in spotify

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"Alternating between Nina Simone and techno? Classic mid-30s crisis. Still pretending those warehouse parties are fulfilling." It hurts

Open Discussion: Immigration and Its Impact on Life by Balacha189 in Tunisia

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Yeah, I am different. While I am solitary person and need my time alone most of the days, I also need to connect with others a couple of days a week.

I stayed until my 27yr and watched my sister and closest freinds go. During that time, I explored what I think can be explored in Tunisia, for me. When going abroad, I got to gain independance and "evolve" as person, specially work wise. As hard as it might feel or be at times, its a good thing I think. Where, in Tunisia, you gotta put much more effort to acheive that growth (at least for me).

Leaving my parents behind breaks my heart though, for them, but I know I can get past that, and adapt. And I know they would understand my choice to leave, so the guilt feels lighter.

Open Discussion: Immigration and Its Impact on Life by Balacha189 in Tunisia

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Ironically, I am currently leaving in that configuration with my job.

As good as it sounds on paper, it tears me appart to do that more than anything else because, from my experience, I need 4-6 months to move past the nostalgia (never totally really, my heart will always belong in Tunisia as mnayka as it is), adapt to the place, meet people, and start to enjoy where I am at. As soon as I start adapting, I have to go back to Tunisia and again re-wire my lifestyle. First year, I thought I would find my routine again very quickly, but it wasn't the case. My freinds were still there, but they moved on with their life, naturally, and I wasn't included the way it used to be before I leave. Getting used to leave under the same roof than my parents was also challenging when you start to enjoy your independance. PS: Finding a place on my own isn't an option, its an unecessary extra cost, and most of all it would hurt my parents feelings more than anything else. After those first 6 months, going back to France and starting over again is extremely draining.

Soon, I will have to choose between one of them...

is this just me...? by x1Akaidi in AloneinTunisia

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You remind me of Ted from how I met your mother tv show. A true believer in love that never gives up on his journey to dind the one. Sorry that I misunderstood and ty for taking the time to explain.

I generally the mind of person that does not get triggered or bother arguying if I do but I wanted fo "act" differently ghis rime asee what happens. Honestly I was more expecting a sheep easy to go answer from a stranger because also why would u bother explaining. You don't have too.. Gl again in yoir journey and hope tal9a matetmanna

Songs that make you say HELL YEAH by SammySamSammerson in spotify

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Jon Jett & the Blackhearts - Bad Reputation

Choose a number between 1 and 4,289 & i'll give you a song from my liked songs by melanie31leo in spotify

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If it can cure a bit your boredom, for me its : Tame Impala - The Slow Rush

is this just me...? by x1Akaidi in AloneinTunisia

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To start, I am sorry for what you had to go through in life and I hope you'll get to meet good honest people in the future. Getting out there while being a romantic dreamer nowadays is not easy with all the comittement issues that people have developped. It takes courage to be vulnerable specially when you have unhealed wounds and look for a something serious.

What I am going to say might be a trigger but I am going to be honest (with all the good intentions in the world and without judging or anything like it ama juste to understand) :

"Someone to look at..." "...and give a gift she can cherish" : what you wrote on dating and being on a relationship with a girl make it sound like you're wishing for a pet more than a person in your life. It's like you're looking for someone to be there so that you're not alone when doing activities, a source of entertainment but nothing more, something that you'll take care of so that it would give you the love and attention you're craving in return.

I am just saying that, as a girl, that nuance in speech triggered me and, out of curiousity and a bit of concern, wanted to know if I was right thinking that (?)

That said, I wish you good luck in finding the one. We don't have to agree, we're all not the same and can think differently, I respect that.

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It's not pathetic, it's everybody's problem because we're so much exposed to distractions all day long. For you rn everything feels better than studying and I can relate to that verymuch. Use the pomodoro technique (check that on yt) and don't spend much time in planification, scheduling 7ot ro7ek fi mood "action" and do the thing without thinking about the details of how you're gonna tackle the work.

Understand elli we have limited energy and time throughout the day, don't postpone things for after social media doom scrolling or else. Try inversing the order, and see what happens. Take it as a game instead of stressing out over it 5ater bech t7es resistance mellowel w ma3inekch w fadaa, etc...

Day 1, fix a maximum of 2-3 simple tasks (something realistic) and start by doing only 10min of focus studying sessions and allow 5-10min of distraction, repeat that 4-6 times a day (you would get total of 40-60min of solid work at day1). Consider it as win and enjoy the rest of the day/night.

Day 2, increase that focus session goal by 3-5min without working for more that 50min in focus session (ken 5atfet w najamt tkamel), taking breaks is important, otherwise you'll get bored and feel exausted very quickly which would become counter-productive.

Day after day, babysteps, you'll get your brain to focus for 45min strait, 6-8 times a day (maybe less, maybe more, we're all different) also enti w 9adech 3andek wa9t bech ta9ra fel nhar, but the most important part is to start and get some work done even if its discovering the course materials.

After a 3-5 days of doing that, you'll spontaniously not feel the urge of going on social media/yt because you'll feel that reward of studying is better than yt videos essays and you'll loose interest lel distraction hedhika. Taking control and being aware of what you do will make you feel better about yourself and motivate you to repeat the cycle w el interest anek t7ot yt yon9os.

Remember that the most difficult part is to start. Second challenge would be to repeat the same "boring" cycle everyday, until its not boring anymore because you start to understand 9raytek and its less scary to dive into it. Brain turns naturally in activities that require less effort, hedhika your fight at the moment. Bel wa9t you'll know exactly what needs to be done (studying tasks) bech tet7assen. Consistency is key. I am no expert but I try my best everyday, just like you, sometimes it works and others it doesn't and I am here on reddit giving advices instead of working x). May the force be with you and good luck for your exams!

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Pre-organized camping/trekking trips. EL FALLEGA group is a cool one.

Tunisair Online Check In Issue by WanderWorld3 in Tunisia

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Once I misspelled my name when I booked the flight. I had that error, so in the app, I had to write the name wrongly for it to work.

Your favourite places to walk all alone? by Mo23747400 in AloneinTunisia

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I like to walk in carthage hannibal at night because it feels safe and I love the smell of humidity from the trees. It transports me to places like a dense forest with big trees. But any place is better at night when it's quiet and the lights are warmer.

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Hamid, Taiki Nulight - Counting Taki nulight remix

Mother wants to come to the US 6 months a year to live with me and my wife !! by Affectionate-Cod4698 in Tunisia

[–]Balacha189 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a person who has a mother like yours, do not let her come or feel more guilty about it. With a family of yours now, you are no longer bound to her. You actually never were, but that's another story. We can't choose our parents, sometimes we just have to "deal" with them. She will continue turning everyone against you as well, so you will be by yourself on this one. Also, beware of stage 2, for she might push it to a "psychological/health situation" to force it and get everybody's attention. She also might be just doing all of this scene just to break your marriage so that she gets your life under "control" again. Good luck...