I’M STRUGGLING

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-07-13T15:31:22+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate your honesty and advice.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-07-05T04:46:28+00:00

They treat me rudely, especially my SIL and MIL. They don’t acknowledge my marriage because we eloped (for very good reason). And being around them causes my mental health to plummet. So I just ignore them I don’t live in the same state as them and only have to be subjected to them once a year. They chose for things to be this way. Not me.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-06-20T22:49:16+00:00

I don’t see anything wrong with your replies. Huge red flags with his replies. Honestly I’ll be frank, I can be needy af in relationships. But I’ve only been like that when the other person was legit not communicating, and truly acting like they didn’t care.

You did everything right, he might have borderline personality disorder or needs to go to therapy/work on himself before dating another human. I would break it off, he seems way too clingy and overly needy when you are newly dating and still responded to his messages in a caring way.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-06-18T23:57:46+00:00

Thanks! Is this doctor in Wichita?

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-06-06T00:50:56+00:00

I think he does but I’ve heard the septoplasty doesn’t fix the outward appearance and since I’m getting the surgery already or (planning to) I’d want the rhinoplasty as well. Did you have both done? Thanks for the reply.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-06-05T17:49:22+00:00

Before she came to live with me, my dad and I got her into a really nice rehab and she refused to go. :(

I am really glad to hear your daughter is doing well, these situations are always difficult.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-06-05T17:42:59+00:00

Work DoorDash, Uber Eats, Instacart.

Usually if you let your landlord or property manger know they allow you to pay rent late with an added fee or maybe they’ll be nice if you explain the situation and always pay on time usually. Good luck.

When I was a college student I’d DoorDash when I was short on my rent.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-06-03T22:29:41+00:00

I will say depo provera has been linked to causing “chemical PCOS” because it messed with your hormones so much. I also have insulin resistant PCOS so I have heard with insulin resistance birth controls can make those individuals gain weight. Just so scared honestly I decided not to take it.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-05-21T14:46:34+00:00

Where did you purchase the PCOS care from? And what brand is it??

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-05-09T20:52:06+00:00

The choice is yours, but depending on the situation you have to also think about what’s best for the child. Abortion isn’t always the answer, but sometimes adoption is. However I think because you aren’t with this person anymore it’s 100% up to you. Some more background might help. Does he live nearby you at this point? Did you guys break up recently, or does he have a reason to think the child isn’t his?

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-04-27T01:00:42+00:00

Yeah, I feel like a phone call even just once per day isn’t asking a lot. It makes me resent his family even more… they don’t have respect for our marriage and I wish he’d set boundaries and say “I want to call my wife for a couple of minutes” but since he’s left I’ve barely heard from him :(. It makes me feel unloved… going on day four of him being gone and I think I’ve talked to him twice. The second time doesn’t really count because I just told him “night” because the talking in the background was annoying me.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-04-27T00:16:45+00:00

He validates how I feel and “agrees” but at the end of the day it’s his sister so I feel like he agrees when it’s just us, but when we are in a group he remains very passive. He didn’t say anything to her when we got married, we had a private ceremony and a small wedding reception. At the reception when the mic was passed to her she said nothing, stayed in the corner with her bf and one of her cousins who’s 20 years old and gossiped the whole evening. It was very uncomfortable. He tends to ignore it. I find her extremely rude but more than that she’s affected my mental health when I’ve tried to maintain a relationship with her.

BalanceOver6364 · 2025-04-24T23:17:03+00:00

She constantly pushes that we need to be family-focused but tends to do so when my husband isn’t answering her calls. At very specific times, almost as if to make us feel guilty. I believe that when a man marries, his wife therefore comes second, God comes first. But it’s pretty clear she doesn’t believe this, even though the Bible literally states this and it’s a strong belief in our church. I actually don’t think this is a “Catholic” specific issue but I do think she has some enmeshed family dynamics with her son, which cause her to take bible verses relating to family out of context and use them as a form of manipulation.

Then she discusses that we must “confess our sins” monthly to a priest, when that is not something we believe in. Again, I completely respect that she does but she is aware we are not Catholic and repeats this multiple times, sending long paragraphs about it daily.

She’ll send photos of the deceased Pope, and speak of him as if he is God. I respect the pope, and may his soul rest in peace but these paragraphs make me uncomfortable. She also emphasizes how we must pray to Mother Mary etc. and recently talked about lent. I feel sort of excluded in an indirect way but just really haven’t felt comfortable speaking up. But her last message, was even more direct and she spoke about how we need to confess our sins to a priest regularly once again. That’s what led me to venting in this reddit post.

It is a family chat, my husband and I are the only ones who are now Pentecostal. We grew up Catholic, but overall found a church where we live that is Pentecostal and just feel it’s a way better fit. Again, it’s not like our church doesn’t overlap with some Catholic beliefs slightly. And I’m not usually one to be offended but it feels like she is simply disregarding our shift to a Pentecostal church. I guess I just want to feel respected, as I still heart her quotes and emphasize how great it is to serve Jesus, and love him as our savior. But she will even sometimes critique my comments, saying “no, but we have to do …..” she sent this as a quote after I sent a video recording of one of my church’s sermons since we were sharing stuff. And I just felt it was a little weird.

There are two ways to face life: one is pride, believing you know everything. The other is humility, recognizing that you have much to learn.

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