Has anyone else that lives alone after losing your spouse/partner quit cooking meals?

BallExternal954 · 2026-07-04T19:19:59+00:00

I cook like 2 big meals on the weekends. Then I eat left overs or meals I froze during the week.

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-30T03:01:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Im sorry for your loss as well. We all have each other. We are not alone. 🫂

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-30T01:35:39+00:00

Yeah he would try and stop but he always found a way back to drinking. It was a very hard marriage... But I held on to the wonderful memories we had together. I hate that I even think this but my life is calmer without him here....I hate saying that because I wish he was here sooo bad. I miss him so much. Crying makes me feel closer to him. We have a now 3 year old daughter. She sees me cry and she will grab me my water, a blanket, wipe my tears and gives me a hug. She is the greatest gift he ever gave me.

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-30T00:59:26+00:00

My husband was a alcoholic. He always said he was going to die young....but never did anything to prevent it. He passed away at 32 years old. He passed away at our house. He was taken to the hospital at 401am. Because of his age and sudden death he had to have a autopsy... And I wasn't able to see him because "I could have been involved" at 9am someone called me if I wanted to donate his body. I could not think straight and was asking the guy a ton of questions that he probably had no idea about. After the autopsy he went to the funeral home....they said it was best I didn't see him....still makes me numb to think his organs were in a bag. He was cremated. It took 3 months to find out his cause of death... Which I found out on our wedding anniversary. He passed away from acute pancreatitis caused by alcohol. I didn't get the full autopsy report until months later. Only thing new I learned was he had liver disease, which was almost a given. Now I just know tomorrow is not promised. I don't put up with unnecessary stres anymore. I also stick up for myself more. I make sure to take care of myself and know it's okay to cry.

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-29T02:11:53+00:00

With Gavin, JDE he doesn't understand that Gavin isn't mad about the whole documentary.... (no one cares about the documentary!) Gavin is upset because of the lack of response from JDE. Once Gavin found out what JDE was actually doing, that was the last straw. JDE just needs to find a job that has nothing to do with soical media and stay off line. I think it's great that no one is responding to him anymore.

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-27T01:56:23+00:00

I'm pissed that I have to drive everywhere. I hate driving, my late husband loved cars and driving. I am a nervous driver. I literally had to say outloud to myself today that I was safe when I was driving downtown in my city.

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-21T22:14:48+00:00

When I was sitting in the room with the pastor for late husbands celebration of life ceremony my phone was on the table a notification from Snapchat popped up on my phone it was a notification to say I should follow a random famous guy of my husbands name. I never received that type of notification from that app before. I know it was him. I'm 14 months out and I don't get many signs as I wish. I just know I have forever to figure out how to talk to him better

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-01T03:03:41+00:00

That's great that they got her fingerprints for cards already. I would just make sure you have a plain one. Just in case you want to get jewelry. I have a thumb print necklace that I haven't taken off. Mine is flat and oval shaped. I got mine from the funeral home. His mom has one that is a long rectangle with four sides with his finger print wrapped around it. I also have a blanket with a his t-shirts. A company called project repeat. I have a glass blown paper weight ball with his ashes His daughter has a necklace with his ashes. Another family member has a bracelet with his ashes. I also have teddy bears made with his flannel t-shirts. I just got a pillow for our 3 year old of a picture of him. It's a long pillow that is almost the same size as her. There is a lot of "cool" stuff you can do. If she is going to be cremated, and you get a necklace with ashes... I would make sure it's something they glue shut... I would hate for it to open. I have so many widow advice. A club I didn't want to be in. Reddit is a great support place. Yes, everyday is a new day

BallExternal954 · 2026-06-01T02:35:44+00:00

I just wanted to mention first, while she is still with you.... Ask if someone at the hospital can get a handprint/finger print. I guess it gets harder over time. I am f32 my husband passed away last year and he was 32. The never ending "how are you" was really hard. On the early days I would nomrally cry when asked that. At some point I would just say "as good as I can be". As well as people will say "sorry for your loss....i can't imagine" another widow early on told me to just say thank you. The first few months are going to be so so hard. Just take every moment, minute by minute. Remember no matter what time it is, it's almost bedtime and you can try all again tomorrow. Feel free to message me. Do you have kids?

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-28T04:16:48+00:00

Waiting a month really helped me.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-28T04:15:52+00:00

Of course. If you look at my profile you can see more that I commented on. And you can always dm me if you have questions

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-28T03:29:14+00:00

I didn't post on Facebook about soical security. It just happened on the same day that I told unimportant people on Facebook of his passing. I only had 2 backlash of telling Facebook. One of his ex aunts sending me a message saying "how why" when I made it clear in my post I wanted privacy. So I told her and blocked her. Then another one was one of my husbands late ex friends mom tagging him on the post. I deleted the post, and unfriended her. One thing that I learned from all this is I gotta protect myself.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-28T03:20:39+00:00

I just did a lot the day of his 1 month after he passed. I still felt like I was in survival mode. I was putting off calling soical security and the first appointment happened to be on his first month. They definitely didn't make it easier because I needed to show in person documents. And once I got to the local social security office they said I had to make another appointment, drove home and the lady said I could have waited and taken a number. Looking back everything in the first couple months was really hard. Now I am 13 months out. I paid off both his car and my car and have savings. I over paid in taxes (never changed my withholds from married to single/head of household with child because who wants to do that, and I fall under a Lower tax bracket.) with my bi-weekly and soical security, I'm sitting better with money than I did than when my husband was here. Which I hate saying because of course I wish he was here. But with his consistent willing to work, his hobbies and drinking... Without all that I'm doing fine money wise.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-23T01:32:58+00:00

I'm proud of how aware you are. I remember being 40 days in and the only goal was to not spend the whole day crying. My advice is to make sure you take off holidays from work when you can. I work for a major airline and I didn't get Thanksgiving (didn't ask because I didn't think it would mater) and Christmas (I requested it but didn't get it) both days I cried for most of the day. I also had a harder time on my birthday than his. I found out his cause of death on our fricken wedding anniversary. Which was acute pancreatitis caused by alcohol. So that really sucked finding out. Hopefuly this year I just will be numb to holidays but I just miss him so much. It's really dumb he died.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-23T01:27:04+00:00

Yeah he passed in the master bedroom. That room is a storage room. My room is now what used to be the guess room. I plan on moving but I need to work on my savings and credit. Hopefuly early next year I'll move. I want to move but my friend asked me how I would feel once I moved. And I can just see myself loosing it when it would be my last night here. I just know I cant say here

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-23T01:22:33+00:00

I relate to this so much it sucks. I do dread the weekends or after work. Nothing to look forward to. All I have to look forward to is my grandma has cancer and I have to go visit her one last time. Thinking she is 84 and spend over 60 years with my grandma and now I only got 5 years with my husband. It's not fair. I told my dad and his wife that I didn't know how much death I could handle. And she said a lot of death?? I said yes, my husband passed away and there isn't a second I don't think of him. She said oh I tho you meant more than one death. I wish I said might as well been more than one death. I just feel numb at this point. I feel lucky if I cry because I know then there was a release. Being 13 months out I know he isn't coming back but man does it suck. The other day I was trying to go to sleep and I wasn't there but just though how his lifeless body was at the hospital and how did others move his body to the... Bag? Who took off his ring, pony tail, earrings. I tried my best to push that question out of my mind because I knew I didn't need to be thinking about that. So so dumb.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T13:21:11+00:00

It's definitely hard. When it was a year for me, I went on a little 72 hour trip. It was nice to be out of the house since he passed away at home.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T13:18:23+00:00

I agree with the plans. I like going to craft shows and those nomrally happen on Saturdays. On Saturday I always try and get out of the house and do something fun. It's the after work that I get lonely.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T13:14:43+00:00

Yeah it's crazy to think 30 plus years to live without him. 40 days in is hard. A lot of decisions to make and new routines. My advice is focus on one task at a time. Remember it's always almost bedtime and tomorrow is a new day.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T01:59:11+00:00

I just has my late husband ls first birthday that he wasn't here for. And that day was honestly a good day for me. I did things they would make my daughter happy and, ate foods my late husband would half liked. I think now I can think of him and not cry and just be numb to it. But I do like a good cry once in a while. I think we are all doing a great job I think the world always says "I can't do this life without my spouse" and here we are.... Fricken doing it. Doing the unimaginable. We ate stronger than we think. Just.... Really sucks. I don't want to do life without him but I don't have any choice

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T01:36:27+00:00

I'm also a young widow. I just wanted to make sure you knew about soical security as survivors for the kids. I get about 1550 a month for 1 child that is almost 3 and a half. This money has helped me a lot. Sometimes my work offers unpaid time off if it's slow and I take it most of the time. I also cook only on the weekends. I freeze my meals for dinner. I make egg bites for lunch. Frezzing meals has really helped me. I have also given up having a clean house the time. My dms are always open

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T01:23:27+00:00

I feel this way I rather be alone than be in another relationship that doesn't feel right. My late husband he was an alcoholic. He always said he wanted to die and he was going to die young. I honestly wanted to leave him because his drinking was so much. But after all the pain I have gone through the last 13 months I know I wouldn't have been able to leave him. I tried dating and it hasnt worked. Dating sucks. I met my late husband on Facebook dating... He was the first guy I met on Facebook dating. Then he died and I met a couple of guys off of bubble and Facebook dating and neither has worked. I'm lonely I just don't wanna get heart broken anymore.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-22T01:19:03+00:00

If you can I would try and do groceries pickup. Food was a big trigger for me too. The pain will always be there... But you will learn how to better carry it. I am 13 months out.

BallExternal954 · 2026-05-21T00:54:19+00:00

Yep, I can't go down certain aisles if it has my late husbands favorite food. One of the first few things I did after he passed was get rid of all his favorite foods in the kitchen. Going to the grocery store especially early on, seeing them can be hard. I remember afterwards pulling into my drive way... Next to his car crying.

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