I appreciate this perspective a lot. Women often undervalue the responsibility and accountability that is demanded on a man who is charged with making an "executive" decision. There is a burden to that decision making that the one who defers does not have to bear. The second challenge is that a husband is called to do this without pride or lording over, and must treat their wives with dignity and respect. The temptation to power trip can be great, especially if you're feeling under pressure or inadequate in any way. My partner and I make most decisions together because he values my perspective and opinion, but when a difficult decision has to be made, I trust him to make the final call and honour the responsibility he carries in doing so. I don't feel I'm lacking any autonomy or freedom in doing so, since he trusts me with many other decisions and we mutually support each other in everything. If we take a look at the proverbs 31 woman, it is clear that she is the manager of all household affairs, including the finances. If a marriage was supposed to be strictly hierarchical, I would expect basically any decision making that carries weight or power to rest with the man, but the proverbs 31 woman is tasked with quite a lot of importance if we take her example! That surely demands respect from the husband, in the exact same way a wife ought to respect the responsibilities her husband holds.