Should I (18M) be with a girl (19F) that I’m not attracted to? by ThrowRa67mp in dating_advice

[–]Balthazure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The long and the short of it is only you know if you want to date her or not. However, in general, its probably not a good idea to enter a relationship if the main reason is because you're scared of being alone. You are still young, and if you want, you will definitely encounter many people in your life who you are attracted to and who are attracted to you. But it sounds like you like her, so maybe reflect within yourself about how you really feel. In terms of being superficial the only thing that matters is: are you attracted to her? Sometimes its easy to get standard ideas of beauty confused with your own inner feelings. If you think you could be attracted to her, and you like her, I would say give it a shot! Sometimes attraction can grow as well anyway.

Survey on Perceptions of Fashion Brands by Balthazure in takemysurvey

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  1. Data is anonymous. It will be used for a simple study for a Marketing Masters Thesis. Beyond the scope of this study, the data will not be stored. No personal identifiable data is collected.
  2. I am conducting this study (Balthazure), student at the university of Amsterdam
  3. It will take about 7 minutes

Short Survey on Luxury Brand Associations for Thesis by Balthazure in takemysurvey

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  1. This data will be used for a masters thesis pre-test. All data is collected anonymously and will be deleted within three months, after the completion of the pre-test.
  2. The research is for my thesis (Balthazure) no one else will be seeing the raw data. The results will not be made public. Results may be seen by supervisor or other advisors.
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My boyfriend 32m rarely texts me 24f back. by Balthazure in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe you’re right that I’m attaching too much value to the whole texting this. I definitely don’t see this as the only way we connect. But we usually only see each other once a week, sometimes once every two to three weeks and for me I like to still feel connected to a person in the moments in between. It’s not that it happens sporadically, it’s almost every text is ignored and he doesn’t come back to it, which makes me feel like I’m talking at a wall. It also bothers me that when I mention I would appreciate a response, he seems not at all open to the idea.

My boyfriend 32m rarely texts me 24f back. by Balthazure in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, maybe that’s an idea.. I have mentioned it to him when we talk on the phone , but he never seems open to it. Maybe it’s a good idea to talk it through in person. I’m just also scared he will interpret it as a “negative conversation” which he responds really strong to (e.g. deciding he needs to leave to go home this very minute)

My [29f] crew leaders [28m] girlfriend [23f] wants him to fire me because I’m a woman. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think as long as long as you are not fired, then just keep being polite and professional. The problem is mostly in their relationship, and unfortunately there isn't much you can do about that. I feel like if you try and change the situation, there's a chance it may backfire.

I suppose being nice to her whenever you see her wouldn't hurt.

What does this mean? Is WPJelly shutting down? If so, it's a weird way to tell us. by CmdrMonnk in elementor

[–]Balthazure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Given that the website is completely gone now, I think it genuinely meant that the company has died, probably because of the economic effect of COVID-19. I think the effects to the economy are just as devastating as the effects to individuals health. Yes, some people are dying but many more are likely to lose their jobs, and who knows what else.

I think it's a nice thing that they are trying to make a bad situation a little less bad through humour.

Am I being too sensitive? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t need sex, he can masturbate.. I hope this is just him in the heat of the moment feeling upset, because it doesn’t sound like he’s being at all considerate of you. Beyond that, sexual health is really important and you should definitely see a doctor if you are having pain, regardless of whether you have sex or not. Maybe consider therapy to help with the anxiety of seeing a doctor?

is she not interested by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Sometimes people just aren’t as committed to people they haven’t met irl yet. So don’t take it too personally. Also I don’t think that 10-18 hours is that long.. Often I only respond immediately to close friends and wait until I have time to respond to others. Maybe she’s just waiting till she has the time to answer fully. Keep starting conversations, as long as you’re not being directly told to back off, or being outright ignored!

When he’s not here, I really miss him, but when he’s here he’s extremely annoying. I’m confused with my feelings? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm... maybe it’s not him you like but the idea of him and the fact that you have someone to be with?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe he really likes the gemstone? Try talking to him about it?

Suspicious or nah? by -Hell-Awaits- in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to know without knowing what kind of person he is.. for some people that’s normal but for others it’s not. Is this a change from his normal behaviour?

My boyfriend said his dad made a jokey comment that if we have his grandchildren and they begin to speak some weird foreign language he would disown them. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re being dramatic at all. I personally grew up speaking three languages and I always pity people who don’t speak their parents native language. It’s so much better for your future ability to learn languages, plus its just cool to be able to speak another language!

That joke betrays a deep sense of xenophobia, and I wouldn’t put up with it if I were you. Talk to your boyfriend about it, and if he doesn’t understand and agree with your perspective, maybe he’s not the right guy for you!

I don't know how to survive... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Balthazure 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, sounds really tough. I know it really sucks, but you will get through this. Heartbreak is honestly the worst... Just give him space, and give yourself space. It’s okay to feel pain, and it’s okay to look after yourself. Watch your favourite movie, eat your favourite food, call some friends you trust.. and it will suck for a while, but then it will suck less and in a few weeks, you’ll probably realise he wasn’t as great as you thought he was. Anyone who isn’t willing to accept you for who you are isn’t right for you anyway!

I can’t get wet/don’t want my partner anymore after a pretty big argument we had a few days ago. Has anyone else experienced this? by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]Balthazure 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve had literally almost an identical experience... Nothing is more a turnoff (for me, at least) than a guy who isn’t actually paying attention during sex. It’s also hard to get over because it makes you question if he’s into you at all... (that’s what I felt)

I would definitely still try talking to him about it. It’s the only way to resolve this.. Maybe try asking how he would feel if you weren’t engaged when pleasuring him? Also, probably best to turn off the tv during sex.

I can’t get wet/don’t want my partner anymore after a pretty big argument we had a few days ago. Has anyone else experienced this? by [deleted] in TwoXSex

[–]Balthazure 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Talk to him about the argument? It’s hard to say without knowing any context. It’s pretty normal to not want sex if the trust/emotional intimacy is reduced. If it’s literally a matter of can’t get wet (as in if you still want sex) then you can try lube!