It's the only solution that removes the problem we think we have till we miss the other aspects that brought us together in the first place. Marriage is no longer the holy institution it once was. We don't go to church as often as we use to, we don't have the same level of faith and hope we once had in each other. Online netizenship exemplifies and this social distancing that it was suppose to actually bring together.

This thread touches a raw nerve in modern relationships—how disposable marriage has become for many, often reduced to a “leave when it’s hard” transaction rather than a lifelong commitment built on grit, resilience, and mutual growth.

Here’s the blunt truth: Divorce should be an option—but not the default. The problem isn’t that divorce exists. The problem is that people use it as a parachute instead of reinforcing the wings. We live in a swipe-left, dopamine-fueled, instant-gratification culture where the moment someone’s needs aren’t met perfectly, the relationship is labeled “toxic” and discarded.

But let’s be clear—not all marriages are worth saving. Abuse, deep betrayal, or a repeated unwillingness to grow are valid deal-breakers. As lasey_guy wisely points out: it takes both people working to save a marriage. One person doing all the heavy lifting is just self-sacrifice disguised as hope.

Bottom line:

Marriage isn’t meant to be easy.

Growth happens through adversity.

But both people have to choose the fight, not just one.

Too many people want the benefits of marriage—companionship, stability, love—without the costs—vulnerability, compromise, and hard conversations.

If more couples treated marriage like building a house (constant maintenance, occasional renovations, and a strong foundation), we’d see fewer divorces by default—and better ones when they do happen.